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"I got in a fight with a girl today," my five-year-old daughter announced after her first morning of day camp.

"Really?" I said, surprised. "What was it about?"

"Well, she said everyone had to listen to her and do what she said. But I said they didn't. And she was mad."

"Oh," I said, secretly pleased. "Well, did you two not get along after that?"

"Oh no," she said. "We got out of the fight later and played."

Even now, my little Punky is dealing with wannabe bullies. It's cute now. 

It's not so cute when our kids get older.

Do a quick search and you'll find that stories of middle and high school bullies abound on the Internet. And most of them are anything but cute. We discuss a few of these stories on this week's Backtalk. And we also ask the question of when parents should step back and let children work it out on their own, and when parents should step in and make sure the proper actions are being taken. Check it out, and if you'd like to know more, here are the blogs that were mentioned during our program...

Mom 101

Spectrum Beach

Laurin and Kelly Talk

Fiddledeedee

Acorn Dreaming

Starfish Circle

Ovolina

Queen of Spain

Mocha Momma

Notes from the Trenches

Suburban Turmoil

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Carrie Blankenship 5 pts

You are right, Lindsay, when you say that this is only going to get worse as kids get older.

With 12 and 10 year old boys, I've spent enough time in the schools to see bullying happen on a much too frequent basis and it is sad.  Often times, the things put in place to "help" kids with bullying are the very things that end up being ineffective (in our school discrict's case, peer helpers).  It is hard to expect kids to "self govern" themselves when it comes to bullying, as it encompasses so many other issues than the act itself (peer pressure, cliques, behavioral problems) and I think the adults need to step in more, especially the parents.  If your child is bullied at school, you NEED to speak up for them and be assured by the adults in charge that it will not be tolerated.  If you child is the one doing the bullying you need to follow-up and reinforce the anti-bullying policy that the school holds.  Catching this kind of behavior early will be your only tool in preventing it from happening again and quite possibly escalating to something worse.

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