Bullying - Erik's Story
By Carol Jones on May 08, 2014
(Please note, I will be referring to Erik as she, because that's how she prefers it)
Today I was directed to the Tumblr blog of Iamthedavrezi, a blog about a transgendered kid named Erik who went to school last Friday dressed in cosplay of Grell Sutcliff, a popular anime character. She did it to be fun and simply because she wanted to.
Personally I think this is a pretty cool way to express yourself. It's just fun. That's all it is!
Someone didn't think so:
It all started when I was talking to one of my friends at the end of the day. I felt someone tugging at my wig, so of course I turned around and politely asked them to stop, because I didn’t want anything bad to happen to it. Apparently that was the biggest mistake that I could have made. The girl completely snapped. She ripped my wig off of my head (thank god I didn’t have it pinned in), grabbed my real hair, and pulled me to the ground. She then started hitting me repeatedly. There are bruises on my arms and legs, scratches on my forehead, and I’m still not entirely convinced that I don’t have a small concussion....
But it doesn't end there. After this happened a slew of hateful remarks began showing up on sites like Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr, 4Chan, and even Reddit:
WHY IS THIS OK?
It reminds me of so many things that have been in the news - Amanda Todd, who killed herself after being bullied online by someone she thought she could trust online. Rebecca Sedwick committed suicide at the age of 12 after no less than 15 girls bullied her. Of those girls, two were indicted and later charges were dropped against them. Megan Meier killed herself just a couple of weeks shy of her 14th birthday. Her mother found her hanging by a belt in her closet. Later is was discovered a parent of a classmate may have been behind the bullying online and she was later acquitted.
And then there is Matthew Shepard, brutally murdered in 1998, his body left tied to a fence after he was tortured and beaten. Just for being gay. Both attackers are serving a life sentence.
These for cases are only a tiny cross-section of the effect bullying has on our children.
Look around your own community or family. Are there kids you know that have been or are being bullied? I can bet you there are. And at that same token I can bet there are also bullies that you may know.
I fear for my children. I fear for YOUR children. If a child - A CHILD - is hurt physically or emotionally and there is little to nothing that can or will be done about it, why? Is it bureaucracy? Laziness? Ignorance? Do parents and teachers just don't WANT to believe it can happen to their child?
Nobody wants to think that their child is getting bullied or is a bully themselves. Look for the warning signs and DO SOMETHING about it.
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