Bullying: You Must Find Out What Your Child is Experiencing at School

It's Back-to-School time and it's now that we can set the tone for the new year and success in our schools and at home. As a parent, it is essential that you take the time to talk to your child about what they are experiencing at school.

We are all so busy and it's so easy to be distracted from the time we wake up until the time we crash-out from exhaustion at the end of the day. The biggest mistake is not to intrude in our children's lives and really ask questions and have dialog about what is going on.

I used the word intrude to make my point clear that some children may think or say that you are intruding or interfering with their lives with questions and obtaining information. You kids are worth and their well-being as well as your family are worth any upset they may have to you being an informed and concerned parent.  "Ignorance is not bliss, it's expensive." We pay the price for our ignorance of what are children are doing, who they are doing it with, what they are seeing on television, in the movies, online, and texting to each other.

My son was considered gifted with high intelligence . I was told that he also had attention-deficit disorder. Early in his education at public schools I spent many days in the office because teachers and administrators told me he needed to be medicated to attend school. That's a whole other topic.

By the time he was in high school he was smart, strong, and could have not only a short attention span, he could have a temper. There was a bullying situation happening and I didn't know. It persisted and persisted and one day, when my son was having a bad day and his temper was short, he couldn't handle the pressure any more with another teen boy in his school.

He pushed this boy into the metal lockers at school and with the no tolerance regulations my son was expelled from the school system. Thankfully the other teen did not have any serious medical injury. I would never wish for anyone to get hurt. Sadly, my son was extremely emotionally hurt for a long time and I wasn't aware of the problem.

The end of this story is that this whole mess lead to my giving up custody of my only child to his father in a different city. First find out what the issues and problems your child is facing, next  take action and persist until the problem is resolved.


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