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Exhaustion and Green Backlash: Capitalizing on Crunchy

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Lately I've realized something. After I'm done reading the many articles on Facebook or the news about organics, new studies on genetically modified food, chemical laden everything, and how pregnant women are passing toxins onto their unborn children -- I feel worse about myself.

Some of the time, I'm using/eating/buying the products that these companies are talking about. I took a look at my Facebook wall one day and realized it was FILLED with warnings, new studies about something that causes cancer, and ominous questions like, "Is your sunscreen safe?" "Does your child have toxins sprayed on their clothing?" "Do you eat genetically modified food -- without even knowing?" "ARE YOU KILLING YOUR WHOLE FAMILY WITH SARAN WRAP?"

::head explosion::

I'm not sure what to do about this. I'm all for learning about what we can do to leave less of an impact on the earth. To make sure our children grow up healthy and strong. To gain knowledge, and therefore power, over companies like Monsanto and McDonalds that want to sell us the, "It's all ok, just shut up and smile" package. To understand the choices I make for my family. It's important to me.

But part of me thinks that perhaps we've taken "natural parenting" to a level that is becoming unachievable to most regular people. People who make a middle class living and have a limited amount of time to study and buy food and products. Who hear the warnings and start to panic about the decisions they are making.

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With the dire warnings usually follows the companies' new product. A way to help yourself and your children by spending an inordinate amount of money on something different, more earth friendly, less packaging -- just better. With a hefty price tag. But, you're saving your family. So isn't it worth it?

Isn't being eco-friendly and more conscientious about our choices also about cutting back? Making some sacrifices? How come all of the sudden, you have to be rich to *truly* be a natural, eco-friendly parent? Or, that's what it seems like anyway. My wall rarely mentions thrift stores. Coupons. Clothing exchanges. Everything that isn't filled with poison costs 5x more.

Maybe I haven't liked the right pages.

But maybe, just maybe, these do-good-for-the-earth companies are capitalizing and cashing in on our fear of "What if I feed my child the wrong kind of food? What if I don't know about what's in the next product I buy and it gets recalled? What if my parenting choice is wrong? What if this makes us sick?"

We can't protect our kids from everything, yet many businesses don't even consider this an option. If you're not making sure that every.single.thing in your home -- from paint to potatoes -- is toxin free, then you're not really doing your job as a parent.

How exhausting. How unrealistic.

I spend so much time trying to figure out if what I buy will evenutally cause us all to grow a third leg. I love being crunchy, but it's SO hard not to get caught up in the race to be the most crunchy. At what point do you just say, "Good enough," and hope for the best, while still staying responsible and informed of your choices? Or do you ever? Is it just some kind of "better do it all or do nothing" game we're playing?

I find it odd that while some eco conscious companies scream about the commercialization of "bad" products and the marketing practices that, indeed, are ludicrious, they then turn around and use the panic and uncertainty they've created to get us to buy their more natural version.

Oh. And to save the world. One $2,000, eco friendly crib at a time.

 

Diana is the author of the blog:

Hormonal Imbalances  "Where crazy - meets crunchy"

 

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graceonline 5 pts

It is daunting, I agree. And yes, thousands of companies have jumped on the "safe, eco-friendly" merry-go-round, hoping to catch those shiny, lucrative green rings. Weeding out green-washed products and services from the truly green, truly useful products is tough. I know. I spend a lot of time writing companies for answers and getting way too many wishy-washy ones in return.

One answer: Buy Fair Trade Certified, USDA Organic Certified and Consumers Union-tested products. I do, sure. Hard to find in many areas, though, so good luck with that. If you're like me and avoiding plastic and virgin paper/cardboard packaging, the task gets even more difficult.

Best answer: Simplify! Apple cider vinegar and baking soda can do what almost any far more expensive plastic-sheathed cleaning product does. Not everything, but a lot. A pound of fresh, diced tomatoes tossed with garlic, onion and a few herbs on top of your browning ground beef and simmered for ten to twenty minutes makes a fabulous sauce for spaghetti, chili, sloppy joes, baked potatoes, rice and a host of other dishes. Not one hint of BpA or pthalates in any of the above.

That's just two examples. There are lots of ways to pare down the toxins and improve our families' lifestyles without sacrifice. Our grandmothers and great grandmothers tested many of these methods for us, and used them regularly. Talk about time crunched! Efficiency meant the difference between a clean house and well-fed family and censure for being a bad mom and manager. Those women knew how to save time.

In the 50s and 60s, our mothers, and in some cases our grandmothers, were sold a bill of goods in the name of progress and ease. They bought it and passed it along to many of us.

Jump off the merry-go-round. Check out all the old-fashioned recipes for doing things more simply. They're easy to find. Quite often, the cost savings are tremendous and much of the worry about safety and health totally removed.

the accidentally green Hilary 5 pts

And I agree with you ... marketers make us feel so inadequate if we don't buy all of the expensive organic everything. (What!? I don't clothe my children in organic cotton?? Or sleep on organic mattresses?) But, like so many commenters have mentioned, there are still a lot of frugal, healthy choices out there.

I think awareness is SO important. We may not be able to live in a green bubble, but if we know what toxins to avoid, I sure hope and believe we can make a healthy difference in our lives.

Find out how to make healthy choices that happen to help the environment at www.accidentallygreen.org ( http://www.accidentallygreen.org ).

lifeasaSAHM 7 pts

Thank you so much for your kind, very insightful words! I am looking into my own little herb garden right now. And using more vinegar.

But thank you - for writing what you did. It was really helpful.

Diana is the author of the blog Hormonal Imbalances ( http://hormonal-imbalances.com )"The Confessions of a Crunchy Housewife". She blogs on her marriage, life as a temporary single mom, and realistic parenting.&

lifeasaSAHM 7 pts

Lol! You know, I have great respect for people who work in the medical/chemical fields. I believe they play such a huge role in the betterment of our lives.

Diana is the author of the blog Hormonal Imbalances ( http://hormonal-imbalances.com )"The Confessions of a Crunchy Housewife". She blogs on her marriage, life as a temporary single mom, and realistic parenting.&

lifeasaSAHM 7 pts

I love your attitude on this. And instead of gasps, you got an "Amen" from me on the credit thing. I know so many people who are so deeply in debt, and I think it's amazing that you have a plan to get out of it.

Diana is the author of the blog Hormonal Imbalances ( http://hormonal-imbalances.com )"The Confessions of a Crunchy Housewife". She blogs on her marriage, life as a temporary single mom, and realistic parenting.&

lifeasaSAHM 7 pts

These are all wonderful, completely do-able ideas. I like the "don't obsess" mantra as well. Keeping it in mind.

Diana is the author of the blog Hormonal Imbalances ( http://hormonal-imbalances.com )"The Confessions of a Crunchy Housewife". She blogs on her marriage, life as a temporary single mom, and realistic parenting.&

jcevans2009 5 pts

As a freelance alternative health writer, I've learned that the quest for a healthy, "green" lifestyle can become so stressful, it can make you sick! I've learned that it's best to use simple, common-sense approaches: whenever possible, cook things from scratch, buy organic when affordable, choose products with the shortest ingredient lists, etc. Don't obsess. There is so much that is beyond our control, we can only do the best we can. That's a step forward right there.

notsuperjustmom 5 pts

It's not as easy as I'd like for us to go totally green, even though we have two incomes.

We're living on a tight budget right now, on purpose, so that we can pay off some debt. (And I think I just heard audible gasps from the "debt is the devil" crowd who marvel at how irresponsible I must be to have a kid AND a credit card!)

For us, we're green when we can be. We remember our reusable bags, and even if we don't, we recycle our plastic ones. I use a refillable water bottle and take my own coffee every day.

We're doing the best we can, and that's really what we should be encouraging instead of the attitude of fear and loathing being marketed by "green" companies.

Wife, mom, teacher, friend, and PPD/A survivor, Miranda writes the blog Not Super...Just Mom ( http://notsuper-justmom.com ).

Randa 5 pts

I thought no one else felt like this! I think the Green movement has become a huge competition amongst some people - it's still doing good but it's definitely hard to swallow.

I'm really big on being health conscious and doing what's right not only for me and my own but the general community. However . . . I live with a Chemist. Things that I freak out about, he's quick to tell me that scary chemical name is actually just the scientific name for a recognizable ingredient. Or how something that may be scary is actually counterbalanced by another chemical in the bottle.

If you want to feel better, become friends with a Chemist. :0]]

Sincerely,

Randa from About Life* ( http://aboutlifestar.blogspot.com/ )

Baby Feet 7 pts

My head huts when I try to figure all this out as well. SO glad to know I'm not alone as I muddle through it all!! It's all so confusing, isn't it?
Kim

Petunia GreenBeans 5 pts

Holy smokes, talk about hitting the nail on the head!!!

About a decade ago I went looking for all the information that we are now, as women, and especially as parents, inundated with on a daily basis- and quite frankly, terrified out of our gourd about.

Way back then I said to myself "why isn't this information out there? Why isn't it everywhere?" And I started spreading the word, along with A LOT of other people! If only we'd known FB would be just around the corner...well, be careful what you wish for, right? But look at the flip side- complete and total ignorance, without any accountability by the corporations that feed us garbage? (in some cases, quite literally!)No, I think that would be more terrifying, because at least right now we can click off when it's too much.

But now we're up to our eyeballs in it, and I'm guilty party too. For myself, as well as my friends, we try to focus on the baby steps. After all, it took us generations to get numb, to stop reading ingredients, and rely on disposable everything- and most of the time it's damn convenient. But now we see it's making us sick, our planet sick and our children sick. So we have to learn all over again. One baby step at a time. Don't get overwhelmed! Just try one little change a week.

As far a scare mongers using the "new data" to peddle their wares- sometimes they mean well. Most of the time it is just repackaged garbage, with a "green" label. When in doubt, use vinegar (it's really cheap) and grow some fresh herbs (you can start a few on your windowsill.) Hey, it's a start, right? Hmm, I think you just inspired my next post. Thank you so much for sharing your vent/rant/head explosion. It makes me feel like I've kinda been a pain in ass..and maybe I have, but I mean well <3

Hello! I'm the Founder and Chief seed planter of GreenBeans. ( http://gogreenbeans.com ) Have any questions, fire away!

Earth lovin', E-cyclin', Guitar strummin', Kid snugglin' closet fiction...

Petunia GreenBeans 5 pts

Yes! Yes! Yes! It is amazing how much you save just by reusing, conserving. But it is true that organic, all natural (anything) is MUCH more expensive. Buying local works for me only part of the year, as I live in NY, although CSA's can save you a ton of $$$ and expand your fruit and veggie horizons.

What I still can't rationalize, and what I think most of us have a hard time with is: "If there's less ingredients, processing, etc...why is it so much more expensive???" And therein lies the dilemma. Phooey.

Hello! I'm the Founder and Chief seed planter of GreenBeans. ( http://gogreenbeans.com ) Have any questions, fire away!

More you say? Okay...you asked for it:

Earth lovin', E-cyclin', Guitar strummin', Kid snugglin' closet fiction

graceonline 5 pts

Petunia GreenBeans There are several reasons it's more expensive to buy food and products containing fewer toxins. The main reason is that all of the non-organic food we buy is heavily subsidized by our tax dollars. To understand how, read Michael Pollan's Omnivore's Dilemma. It's an easy read--like a novel--and will astound you. (For a quick, entertaining synopsis, see my page: The Omnivore's Dilemma on Squidoo at http://www.squidoo.com/omnivoresdilemma.)

The second big reason is that most organic farms are small, and the farmers must jump through enormous hoops to be certified organic. For example, their fields must be isolated from nearby farms that use pesticides, herbicides and conventional, petroleum-based fertilizers to avoid contaminating the organic produce with drift. So they need a lot of qualifying land around their fields. Land is expensive.

They also have to know where their water is coming from. Is there an animal feedlot upstream or up canal? They can't water their land with toxic-laden, antibiotic-laced runoff from a feedlot or chicken farm. Uncontaminated irrigation water is expensive too.

Then there are the fees to become certified and remain certified. It's costly and getting more so all the time, thanks to big agricultural producers, whose well-funded lobbyists make sure THEIR views are heard and attended by Congress and administration decision makers.

And there's the whole supply/demand issue. The more of us ask for organic, the more profitable it becomes to grow, process and carry it to market. The fewer of us demanding organics, the smaller the market and the higher the prices. Luckily, those who can afford it, or who sacrifice other amenities in their lives, have been willing to pay and doing so for decades. Now you can buy organic cotton t-shirts and organic yogurt in Walmart, if you don't mind the plastic packaging, for just two examples of ways the market is increasing availability and lowering costs.

NatureMom 5 pts

I don't think being green is actually more expensive at all. For me greener is cheaper... making meals at home, sewing and using cloth diapers, shopping at thrift stores, buying used on Craigslist, reusable water bottles, dinnerware, napkins, sanitary pads, ect. Growing my own food, canning it, doing without the latest greatest thing like an iPad or smart phone, driving less and saving gas, using things until they wear out, driving the same used car for years, doing without fancy makeup, lotions, and shampoos and using SOAP instead, green cleaners made from cheap ingredients like vinegar and baking soda, I could go on and on... it's not more expensive. Being green in so many aspects has freed up money to use on organic, local, and pricier foods and experiences with my kids.

Tiffany

http://www.naturemoms.com/blog

graceonline 5 pts

NatureMom So fun to find you here on BlogHer! I'm a fan and subscriber to your blog and agree wholeheartedly. Greener choices so often turn out to be cheaper and easier than I ever dreamed.

Earthmonkeymoms 5 pts

As an owner of an eco friendly baby accessory company I whole heartedly agree with you. Our company was created for moms like you and me and millions of others I'm sure that want to be environmentally conscious but can't or aren't willing to spend our kids' college tuition on the next new "green" thing. I think taking baby steps, reducing consumption and reusing other people's throw aways is sooo much more important than buying green just to be "green". The harsh superiority put out by so many sites and blogs makes me feel like the new kid in church like I'm not good enough some how. We are working hard to build some middle ground at Earth Monkeys with our "Reuse Revolution" and I also just wrote an article for Green Child magazine on 10 baby steps we can all take to green up our life... including clothing swaps and shopping second hand... not quite as glamorous but it's fulfilling to me:) Thanks so much for this post!!! LOVE IT!

inspire planning blog 5 pts

I don't really worry about doing the "greenest" thing. As long as the replacement is greener, I can always find an option that is even greener later. As long as I feel like I'm making SOME progress, there is no need for eco-guilt! As for the extra expense, sure lots can be more expensive but there are so many expenses you can cut out- I make my own laundry detergent, handsoap, dishwasher detergent etc. That saves me tones of $$. Oh and if your looking for a great page to 'like' on facebook, check out http://www.facebook.com/BigGreenPurse#!/BigGreenPurse

lifeasaSAHM 7 pts

I feel like a mom fail all the time. Seriously. I love that you put even from a dual income perspective it gets out of control. Because at times I think maybe with more money... But then I know it would just be another step to the "ultra crunchy" level I'd need to get to.

Diana is the author of the blog Hormonal Imbalances ( http://hormonal-imbalances.com )"The Confessions of a Crunchy Housewife". She blogs on her marriage, life as a temporary single mom, and realistic parenting.&

lifeasaSAHM 7 pts

See? You make me feel better. I am always feeling guilty about what I don't do, but I know everyone else feels the same way. And we're all doing our best - which frankly is pretty damn good.

Thanks for leaving a comment - :) made my day.

Diana is the author of the blog Hormonal Imbalances ( http://hormonal-imbalances.com )"The Confessions of a Crunchy Housewife". She blogs on her marriage, life as a temporary single mom, and realistic parenting.&

lifeasaSAHM 7 pts

I love the tent poles. Im going to remember that from now on when I get overwhelmed. What a great analogy.

Diana is the author of the blog Hormonal Imbalances ( http://hormonal-imbalances.com )"The Confessions of a Crunchy Housewife". She blogs on her marriage, life as a temporary single mom, and realistic parenting.&

Condo Blues 5 pts

I hear you. In fact I started my blog Condo Blues because while I 've been focusing on reducing wast and reusing as a money AND planet saver, every other green outlet wanted me to have a movie star budget and to bulldoze my house!

The way I keep my head from exploding is to determine what Tent poles are most important to my family. Having more than one way to "geen" something helps too. I green things bit by bit instead all at once. That works as well as binge dieting- easier to fall off the wagon. Finally my family doesn't try for a perfect green life, just a real one. Not everything goes as plannned and we try to roll with it. We score dark green or higher on those How Green Are You quizzes but we don't stress out over eating potato chips once every three months when visiting family either.p>Condo Blues Green living and money saving tips http://condo-blues.blogspot.com/

HeirtoBlair 5 pts

It's pricey to be green. Organic milk is almost double what "regular" milk is, cloth diapers can cost a cool $20.00 a pop, plus the accessories & special detergent to go with them. You won't find Mrs. Meyer's products at Dollar General & as cheap as the reusable grocery bags are, the plastic stuff is free. (& good Lord, when do I ever remember to bring my bags when I'm frazzled with a toddler on my hip after a 10-hour work day?!)

We try to be conscious & make green/organic choices when we can - we always buy organic milk for Harrison & I try to follow the Dirty Dozen & Clean Fifteen when I can. But I try to keep my sanity - if it's too much either financially or time-wise, we cut our losses. Sometimes I have time to peel organic peaches for my family, but sometimes I whip out canned peaches. If we go to the park, it's far more convenient for me to put Harrison in a disposable diaper than cloth, especially with the playground sand.

We'll see in 30 years if the kid has a third leg from the Doritos he snuck from his dad today ;)

Beth Anne blogs under a pen name at The Heir to Blair ( http://theheirtoblair.com ) where she dishes on motherhood & life in general.  She also delivers tidbits of awesome ( http://twitter.com/heirtoblair ) in 140 character

jessesco 5 pts

I really want to be more health conscious in what I give to my family. How I clean our house. But even in a dual income household, it gets really expensive to buy all organic, all natural. I do what I can and try to be mindful of it but it's hard when there are so many cheaper options out there. If it means extra money spent at the grocery store or money to spend on activities or something fun for my little one, I'd rather not leave my paycheck at the store.

It's so hard knowing what's best, staying on top of the latest trends. I've stopped microwaving anything in plastic, I use "Green" cleaning solutions and don't use paper towels (just cloths).

What's harder is when you have a picky eater that doesn't eat much but chicken, fried fish, pizza, etc. Not a whole lot of options...Makes you feel like a mom fail sometimes.