A Mother and Daughter in the Emergency Room

A Mother and Daughter in an Emergency Room My mother was hungry and thirsty; when she’d fallen that morning, she’d just woken up, so she never even got a cup of coffee before she was whisked away in an ambulance. More than food or drink really, she wanted a comb. They’d loaded her into the ambulance as they found her, on the bedroom floor in a lavender nightgown, with not even shoes or time to grab her purse. “How can you not carry a comb?” she asked me. ...more

A Humbling Experience

As I attempted to make medical appointments for myself this morning,"Excuse me, I'm sorry, I didn't understand what you just said," I stumbled over and over again as I found myself asking the appointment schedulers to repeat themselves, and when they did, I realized each was confirming the information about me already on their computer screen. Am I no longer capable of understanding familiar speech?...more

When Life is a juggling act with too many balls in the air

"Look, Mom, I can juggle," Kenny says, standing in the kitchen while I'm making dinner. He is tossing two balls in the air, and Ryan, whom I have forced to sit at the table to finish his homework says, "Thats not juggling. Not with two balls." "It is so..." Kenny said, tossing the two balls higher. Old dead tennis balls. Then he misses and they fall. They roll towards Ryan, and he grabs them up. He tosses them, easily catching one then the other. "See? Anyone can do two balls. You need three." "Shut up!" Kenny yells. He leaves the room, crying. ...more

My Minute: Prep Power!

As the saying goes, anything can change “in a New York minute.” Sixty seconds might be all you need to recharge, regain control, get an energy boost, or simply mentally, emotionally, and physically repair. My Minute is a weekly tip segment that offers ways to make your daily minutes add up to benefit you. In each post, we highlight an aspect of your every day routine with one suggestion on how to make that routine work to give you a little, but much deserved, life lift. My Minute: Prep Power...more

Dr. Mom, Nurse Nana, and Undoing My To-Do List

As a mother for thirty-four years, and a grandmother for four, you'd think I would have figured this out by now. Kids get sick!  And then the other kids get sick!  And then I get sick!...more
 @putittobed And I LOVE your little cartoon picture above. It is adorable!   :)more

Why Women Need Permission to Fall to Pieces

A dear friend of mine is having a rough time. Maybe not going into the witness protection program to avoid the Russian mafia (which does NOT exist by the way) kind of rough time, but as rough as us non-made-for-t.v.-movie type people can have. She is in the processing of saying goodbye to a beloved pet who has been failing for quite some time. Unfun. Not a day at the beach, not even the beach located next to a nuclear waste spill. But here she was, doing her best to sound brave and strong and apologizing for coming unglued.  I let that sink in for a moment....more

Coping with the Stresses of Elder Care: Speaking Up for Yourself

In my previous post about elder care issues, I came up with 10 ideas for managing the stresses of being a caregiver or care manager for elderly or ill parents. Here's the first one from the list: Learn how to speak up for what you need and what you want. Why is this even important? Whether it's leaving a doctor's office with a clear understanding of a medical issue, or knowing for certain that your parent's laundry will be done regularly, knowing what you want and asking for it is the best way to clean up your To Do list. ...more
Thank you Randy. I aprpreciate your comment. : )more

Stressed from Caregiving an Elderly Parent? 10 Tips for Coping.

  Stress is the constant companion of those who care for their aging parent(s). I know.  I've been there.  So, I'm not going to repeat all that's been written.  Instead, I want to go beyond the usual advice. I'm not a psychologist or psychiatrist, but even so I think telling someone "be sure to take care of yourself" is a bit glib....more

Felix Takes a Trip to the Hospital

I looked out the window and smiled as I watched Felix, my 94 year old Father-in-law sitting in our front yard, head stretched back to bask in the sun.  His right hand was busy petting our dog Cookie's soft ears. He was smiling too and seemed to be soaking in the warmth of the sun.  I brought him out a glass of water and he sighed, "Do you have any idea how long it's been since I sat in the sun?" he asked....more

Perfection? Pffft!

The holidays make it worse, don't they? By October, it seems you can't turn a corner without running into a magazine or television show boasting headlines such as: "How to make the perfect holiday dinner for the gluten-free diabetic in your life!" "Get the perfect gift for that hard-to-shop for person!" "Host a perfect cookie swap in 30 minutes or less!"Perfect. Perfection. Please....more