I Can't Remember the Last Time I Wasn't Squashed by My Family

It's been ten days now since my 89-year-old mother fell, broke her hip, and landed in the hospital via the ER. And thus I'm in my second week of being completely torn between my mother's and my family's total need of me. To say I am nearly being ripped apart by this is an understatement. ...more
I just went thorugh this with my grandmother. She fell and I took her to th ER becasue she had a ...more

I Confess. Thinking About the End is Hard

This morning I started the day as usual with me checking headlines on the 7a.m. news.  Some habits die hard.  Then I had a little quiet time and a cup of joe as I ran through my self-alloted time on Facebook and Twitter....more

Our Beloveds’ Decline

Of a parent's and pet's illness. No gardening today.http://wipgarden.com/...more

A Mother and Daughter in the Emergency Room

A Mother and Daughter in an Emergency Room My mother was hungry and thirsty; when she’d fallen that morning, she’d just woken up, so she never even got a cup of coffee before she was whisked away in an ambulance. More than food or drink really, she wanted a comb. They’d loaded her into the ambulance as they found her, on the bedroom floor in a lavender nightgown, with not even shoes or time to grab her purse. “How can you not carry a comb?” she asked me. ...more

A Humbling Experience

As I attempted to make medical appointments for myself this morning,"Excuse me, I'm sorry, I didn't understand what you just said," I stumbled over and over again as I found myself asking the appointment schedulers to repeat themselves, and when they did, I realized each was confirming the information about me already on their computer screen. Am I no longer capable of understanding familiar speech?...more

When Life is a juggling act with too many balls in the air

"Look, Mom, I can juggle," Kenny says, standing in the kitchen while I'm making dinner. He is tossing two balls in the air, and Ryan, whom I have forced to sit at the table to finish his homework says, "Thats not juggling. Not with two balls." "It is so..." Kenny said, tossing the two balls higher. Old dead tennis balls. Then he misses and they fall. They roll towards Ryan, and he grabs them up. He tosses them, easily catching one then the other. "See? Anyone can do two balls. You need three." "Shut up!" Kenny yells. He leaves the room, crying. ...more

My Minute: Prep Power!

As the saying goes, anything can change “in a New York minute.” Sixty seconds might be all you need to recharge, regain control, get an energy boost, or simply mentally, emotionally, and physically repair. My Minute is a weekly tip segment that offers ways to make your daily minutes add up to benefit you. In each post, we highlight an aspect of your every day routine with one suggestion on how to make that routine work to give you a little, but much deserved, life lift. My Minute: Prep Power...more

Dr. Mom, Nurse Nana, and Undoing My To-Do List

As a mother for thirty-four years, and a grandmother for four, you'd think I would have figured this out by now. Kids get sick!  And then the other kids get sick!  And then I get sick!...more
 @putittobed And I LOVE your little cartoon picture above. It is adorable!   :)more

Why Women Need Permission to Fall to Pieces

A dear friend of mine is having a rough time. Maybe not going into the witness protection program to avoid the Russian mafia (which does NOT exist by the way) kind of rough time, but as rough as us non-made-for-t.v.-movie type people can have. She is in the processing of saying goodbye to a beloved pet who has been failing for quite some time. Unfun. Not a day at the beach, not even the beach located next to a nuclear waste spill. But here she was, doing her best to sound brave and strong and apologizing for coming unglued.  I let that sink in for a moment....more

Coping with the Stresses of Elder Care: Speaking Up for Yourself

In my previous post about elder care issues, I came up with 10 ideas for managing the stresses of being a caregiver or care manager for elderly or ill parents. Here's the first one from the list: Learn how to speak up for what you need and what you want. Why is this even important? Whether it's leaving a doctor's office with a clear understanding of a medical issue, or knowing for certain that your parent's laundry will be done regularly, knowing what you want and asking for it is the best way to clean up your To Do list. ...more
Thank you Randy. I aprpreciate your comment. : )more