Felix Takes a Trip to the Hospital

I looked out the window and smiled as I watched Felix, my 94 year old Father-in-law sitting in our front yard, head stretched back to bask in the sun.  His right hand was busy petting our dog Cookie's soft ears. He was smiling too and seemed to be soaking in the warmth of the sun.  I brought him out a glass of water and he sighed, "Do you have any idea how long it's been since I sat in the sun?" he asked....more

Perfection? Pffft!

The holidays make it worse, don't they? By October, it seems you can't turn a corner without running into a magazine or television show boasting headlines such as: "How to make the perfect holiday dinner for the gluten-free diabetic in your life!" "Get the perfect gift for that hard-to-shop for person!" "Host a perfect cookie swap in 30 minutes or less!"Perfect. Perfection. Please....more

Giving Women The Power to Hit Pause


What are we doing here, anyway?

What are we doing here, anyway? The ER doctor sat with his back to me, facing my aunt, speaking softly and slowly.  My heart sank as he first walked through the door...he looked to be about 16 years old...hair neatly pulled back into a long ponytail and he spoke with a slow, twangy West Virginia drawl...my only thought was that he looked like a 2011 version of Doogie Houser, MD...What on earth could this kid possibly know about geriatrics, Alzheimer's and what it's like to try ...more

She talks to angels...

Am I terrible for being just a little sad that my grandmother is no longer coming to "visit" my aunt now that the doctor's have started her on meds to help with the hallucinations? ...more

Mummy and the Jam Jar: Keep Your Sense of Humor When Dealing With Elderly Parents

Keep your sense of humor. It's become my new "pep talk" mantra to myself. After all, I'm a menopausal, single parent, soon to be empty-nester who is trying to restart a career and I have a mom who is in the moderate stages of dementia. That's a mouthful if there ever was one....more
@Ashleigh Burroughs Hi, This is SO true! Thanks for reading and come back again! Nancymore

15 Wishes

Fifteen years ago today, I sat in the corner of my bedroom in my parents’ house and bought the domain name, Caregiving.com. (You can read more about the story of Caregiving.com here .)In honor of Caregiving.com’s 15th anniversary, I’m sending you 15 wishes:1. I wish you love in your heart for your life, even when it seems this life can’t possibly be yours.2. I wish you forgiveness in your heart for your life, which might be neither what you wanted or expected....more


I love to watch The Real Housewives of… Well, any city, state or county. New York City, New Jersey, Orange County, Beverly Hills, Atlanta. I’m there. And, I love the spin-off, Bethenny Ever After. (I even emailed Bethenny to invite her to be a guest on the talk show to discuss forgiveness.)The reality of their lives fascinates. They live in beautiful homes, they eat out a lot (and don’t gain weight), they attend parties on school nights, they bicker constantly with each other and then meet the next day for shopping and lunch....more

Are We Obligated to Take Care of Our Parents One Day?

I read a post today from a blogger who wrote about one day possibly needing to care for her adult child with disabilities. She herself is disabled, and her mother doesn't offer her much support, which hurts her. She feels that parenting doesn't end when one's children become adults (especially if they become disabled) and that her mother should be helping her more....more
jillicious  Hi Jill. Forgive me for responding in such a delayed manner, but I just today ...more

Homeschooling in a Storm

It is on a day like today, when the house feels like it is about to be blown over by the wind outside, garbage is hitting cars on the roads, and even the Burlington Bridge is closed that I am grateful that I am homeschooling our son. I know where he is and he is working calmly beside me. He is presently taking a test on science and the formation of the world. It is distracting him from the patio furniture that is blowing around in our backyard. My husband just got in as well. The roads were treacherous for him but he was safe....more