Getting Used to an Empty Nest During the Holidays
By dlehrlee on November 29, 2012
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It was official, we were empty nesters and it didn’t feel so good at that point. Monday morning would be even more difficult as my husband went back to work and the house was completely quiet and empty. I spent the day licking my emotional wounds as I finished the clean up. I knew that I needed a better plan for empty house syndrome. I vowed that I would do things differently the next time this scenario occurred.
I came up with a plan. I would have a special day planned for the first empty house day after a family gathering… especially when all the kids left at the same time. I would treat that day as my own personal holiday where I rest, reflect, relish the memories and rejuvenate. As a side note, I have found that it is a much easier adjustment if the kids leave at different times.
So for the last three years, I have enjoyed amazing After Thanksgiving Empty House holidays. As Thanksgiving is the beginning of the holiday season, last year I purchased tickets to Fioli’s Christmas Open House and Boutique for the following Monday. I went with a friend to see the beautiful Fioli mansion decorated to the hilt and purchased some new Christmas decorations.
After a leisurely lunch, we headed back home. I entered a clean, quiet home, brewed a cup of fresh tea, put on some Christmas music, started a fire and put my feet up. I felt content, whole and at peace. While I had enjoyed the most recent invasion of the kids for Thanksgiving vacation, I was glad to have my house back. I was getting used to and enjoying the empty nest syndrome. I realized that I loved both aspects of my life. I loved the wild family times but I also appreciated my personal time and fulfilling my personal desires and dreams.
Empty nest is a wonderful time to get back to your life after so much dedication to your kids and their busy lives. It isn’t the day-to-day empty nest that I find difficult. It is the first empty house day after a big family event that hits me in the gut.
How about you? How did you feel when the kids left after Thanksgiving weekend? Did you have a plan for your Personal After Thanksgiving Empty House holiday? Don’t you think it should be a Hallmark Card Holiday? Please leave me comment @gameplancoach1 on twitter or FB YourCollegeGameplan and let me know how you deal with empty nest.
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