Changing the way women talk.....to themselves (+Sunday Short-term Goals)
By coveredinchalk on December 14, 2013
I think I should make one of my Sunday short-term goals be that I actually post my short-term goals on a Sunday!
But before I get into my short-term goals, I wanted to write about something awesome that I've noticed happening in the social media sphere recently. I don't know if this is a new thing or just something that I'm more exposed to now that I spend my free time reading Crossfit blogs...lots and lots of Crossfit blogs.
What I've noticed is that the conversation about women's bodies and what it means to be healthy is changing. The message has changed and women, in the social media sphere, are pushing back against the traditional messages that we've grown up hearing. Even more so, it seems that women are saying: leave our bodies alone and let us do our thing; there is no one ideal; everyone is equal and beautiful; and above all, love you and all the bits of you.
I love this. I walk away from these blogs feeling great about being a woman, being a Crossfitter and sharing space (a very, very tiny space) with the great women who are elevating these messages and getting them out there to readers like me.
To give some examples, here are some of the posts that I have read just in the last few weeks that have been really inspiring and heartwarming.
Gabby's Gluten Free: Changing the conversation argues against the negative messages and self-hate that women seem expected to direct at themselves and wants to change the conversation. (Plus I love this line, because it echoes how I feel so much more often these days: "I just want to hand everyone a barbell and a steak and give out free hugs and say “See?! It doesn’t have to suck!" mmm....free steak...).
Lift me Up Fitness': Why I won't apologize for my body shines the light on the diet and fitness industries efforts to make women "hate themselves thin" and promotes a message of self-acceptance and self-love as a key part of being healthy. ("Fitness and body positivity can go hand in hand.").I love this blog for its continued focus on "lifting women up" and the awesome, positive, strong message it sends to women.
Elizabeth Akinwale (love her!!)'s post on Them Thighs Though is essentially a love letter to having nice, big, strong thighs. ("Stay strong and keep those thighs just the way they are…or maybe bigger.") I recently tagged a twitter post #thighlove, something that would never have happened pre-crossfit. My thighs and I have never been on friendly terms but recently I'm all about how bad*ss my thighs are. In addition to being an AMAZING athlete, her posts always make me feel great about being a woman and a crossfitter. I actually suspect that I get a little bit cooler everytime I read one of her posts.
The Great Fitness Experiment tackles the Problem with "Real Women have Curves" and highlights the fact that all women, curvy, lean, whatever are "real" and that we don't need to elevate one body type over another..even if it is to try and send a positive message. (By labeling some “not real” we risk marginalizing all of us and losing the ability to see the real beauty of women).
and always, one of my personal favorite, I just freaking love this blog:
Emily at One Day I'll Move Out in her Pass the Seconds post shows how we still encounter out-dated messaging about how women should be (and eat), even at home through the best intentions of those who love us. This is a great post that highlights how the changing of how we think about our bodies, changes the way we feel about them ("F*ck perfectly smooth thighs. If they can’t help me squat 300 pounds, I want nothing to do with them."
There are many more blog posts out there that capture this change in messaging. Read them. They will inspire you and make you feel great about yourself and being a woman in a world where women are raising their voices...to talk about the importance of loving yourself.
So my short-term goal for this week is to take the advice of these blogs and counteract any negative messages that I see and that I send to myself with a positive message. My goal is to embrace this journey that I've been on to get to a place where I am comfortable with myself, inside and out that began the day I walked into a box and heard "let me see your squat" for the first time.