Changing Your Blogging Identity: Can You Lose (or Gain) That Mommyblogger Title Successfully?
by Jennifer Satterwhite

Six years ago when I started my personal blog, Mommy Needs Coffee, the title was cute.  I had no problem being called a mommy blog. I did not mind that the word "mommy" was in my title and url.  In fact, I thought it was cute because I still had a toddler calling me mommy. 

Time marches on and now I have two teenagers and a second grader.  There is not a lot of "mommy blogging" left in me.  I have considered changing my blog title more than once.  A name to reflect who I am now.  The laid back mom who deals with the tougher parenting topics?  The professional author writing about the ups and downs of writing her first book and the shock of landing an amazing agent?  The freelance writer on the hunt for the next article or job?  Or do I just let my writing represent who I have evolved into and let the name I have always had stand as the brand I have created over the last six years?

Can you successfully change your online identity?  If you are a mommy blogger, can you change your blog name, what you write about and still keep your audience? If you are making money with ads because of your traffic, is it worth the change to have your blog better represent who you have become and what you want to put out there.  There have been more than one successful blogger that has been able to do this.

One such blog had a huge following and went for the name change and she seemed to become even more adored.  When Chris Jordan went from Big Yellow House to Notes From the Trenches, her audience followed her.  Her blog name changed but her stories stayed the same fun and heart warming stories she had always written.  It was a name change more than a massive blog overhaul.

Now take another mom blogger who has been around for years and became very well known by her blog name/identity.  In fact, it wasn't until recently many of her readers discovered her real name.  Many of us read, knew and hung out with Izzy of IzzyMom.  In one amazing leap of faith she decided to shed that identity that many readers knew her as and started over.  Meet Janet of The Caffeinatrix.

I’ve now reached a point where I’m more willing to self-censor, if necessary, for the trade-off of being who I am and opening a door that has been barely cracked to most of the people in my life. This decision didn’t come easily but it was obvious my passion was starting to wither, that I no longer felt like living up to what was expected of me. So—no more carefully crafted “pieces” on specific topics, no more writing to avoid land mines…

In exchange for my freedom, I’ve chosen to give up steady ad revenue checks every month and a fair amount of name recognition/popularity, as well as the holy trinity of blogging…traffic, page rank and comments.

It takes a special act of bravery for a well known mommy blogger to do that.  But for many of us, we have thought of and perhaps dreamed of doing the same thing.

What about the other side of the coin?  What about bloggers who blog about infertility and then become moms?  Do they lose the following they had gained through shared experiences?  What about the community they create around a shared experience?

Many of us have followed Julia of Here Be Hippogriffs.

Julia Litton had four miscarriages over the course of three years before conceiving her son, Patrick, 5. And four years ago, the 35-year-old began trying to have another baby—and entered the dizzying world of assisted reproductive techniques. Seven more miscarriages and multiple fertility treatments later, Julia and her husband conceived twins. Caroline and Edward were born in 2008.

I know I was not alone each time I would log onto her site and read about another heartbreaking miscarriage.  Though, I did not know her personally, I wept each time she had another miscarriage.  However, after she had her twins, Caroline and Edward, did I stop caring about her?  Not at all.  Now I began enjoying reading about her adventures with Patrick and the twins.  

But could becoming a mom after being an infertility blogger cause a blogger to lose her readers?  

I have followed Julie of A Little Pregnant long before she was pregnant.  I held my breath with her through all of her trials and infertility challenges.  I wept when she became a mom to Charlie who was 10 weeks premature. Her site is an amazing showcase of talented writing and stories that will make you laugh, cry and cheer with her.  It may even help you.

This site started as my personal journal during my first IVF cycle. As the days wore on and it became clear that this wasn't going to be a garden-variety pregnancy, I spent a lot of time scouring the Internet to learn more about what was happening to me. But I wasn't always able to find the kind of information that would have helped me.

This led me to continue my journal in a more public way. I don't know that anyone who stumbles across my highly opinionated account of my personal experiences will find it exactly useful, but I suppose it's theoretically possible.

Perhaps there are some who stopped reading these blogs because they were there for the commonality of the topic, but for those who left, there were many who came and read these blogs that were new to them.  

Whether it is the former mommyblogger who is no longer writing about her children but about her life in general with no expectations or the infertility blogger who became a mom and is now writing about life as a mother, bloggers grow. 

Bloggers change.

And some of us have the courage to do it out loud for the entire blogosphere to enjoy!

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Contributing Editor (Mommy & Family) Jennifer Satterwhite also writes at Mommy Needs Coffee and Parenting and is the founder of Mommybloggers.

Comments

 

I've wondered about that

I didn't think twice about my blog name and URL either. Heck, at this point I'll always be a mom right? But now that my son is getting older, I think more about his privacy. I was really glad to see that Izzy (I mean Janet, I can't get used to her real name), made the switch as she was dying to make some sort of change. Great round-up of blogging metamorphoses.

Angela at mommy bytes
BlogHer Contributing Editor in Mommy & Family Cribsheet

 

I stopped worrying about it

I used to agonize over "what kind of a blogger am I?" but not anymore. I still use "mommy blogger" for SEO purposes because if I had to fit my blog into a niche, it would still be "mommy blogging" and I do want people who search for “mommy blogs” to find my blog.

But I write about whatever I want, which means I mostly deal with women's issues, feminism, self-development and financial planning. I don't think I will feel the need to change my blog's name any time soon. A big part of my identity - blogging and real life - is tied to being a mom and many of my life choices are heavily influenced by having children.

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A Mommy Blogger and a Blogger For Hire

 

I never really worried about it much.

I first started blogging as a way to keep sane during my first pregnancy.  I still occasionally post to that first blog now and again, but the posts there are really more like letters to friends, since it's largely friends and family members who read it.  Today's Notes and later Tekaran Lady blend my identity as a mother and as a writer.

When I first stumbled across Freelance Writing Jobs and Work at Home Mamma, the way the women blended their personal and professional lives into the blogs, speaking about the challenges of writing while parenting and sometimes working multiple jobs was the thing that pulled me into the blog in the first place.  Personally, I can't compartmentalize my life.  I've tried, and that way lay frustration and anger.  I need to write to stay sane, and with two very little girls, there really are no set hours for this or that.   Besides, the drama in finding a balance makes for good reading.

 

Wait - you have TWO

Wait - you have TWO TEENAGERS??  How did that happen? =)

I like reading and writing about other issues, but somehow everything I read and write still passes through the "mom filter," and I suppose it always will.  Still, at some point I will probably have to change my blog name to "Raised Five."  Doesn't have quite the same ring.

  

 

room of your own?

This is EXACTLY what I wanted to talk about in A Room of Your Own this year at BlogHer. I have a description posted for it called, "Ch-ch-ch-changes: Can your blog survive your happiness?" - going from depression and infertility to mommyblogging has been a big challenge for me both writing-wise and time-wise. But also audience-wise. I found my blog niche with infertility and I am part of that world forever. It's weird to be on this side of things.

Any interest in joining a panel on this at BlogHer?

- bri

www.unwellness.com

 

taking the plunge

great post. and a timely one for me too. i am in the middle of launching a brand new blog as we speak. i'm totally afraid that i might lose some of my audience that got to know me through MamaLaw. but that is a group blog and i would really like a place on the web of my own. i agonized over the new name and decided to go with something that would still relate to my blogging persona at MamaLaw: it will be called Just Fergie. now begins the hard work of making sure all the blog directories, etc. out there are updated to my new url. what makes it tougher is that i still plan to blog at MamaLaw, so it's not like i can do a simple url re-direct. anyway, i don't mean to ramble but this topic is exactly what i am dealing with right now!! thanks for the encouraging words.

justice fergie
http://mamalaw.blogspot.com
http://www.justfergie.com (coming soon!)

 

Related question regarding identity/URL

Along kind of the same lines, what if I have a blog name/identity which I LOVE and really describes my blog well, but no one can spell it?!

Is it worth changing it to something easier to remember and spell even though it would be less accurate or descriptive? I am still trying to figure this out...

http://ConscientiousConfusion.blogspot.com

 

Tracey's done this, too.

Our own Sweetney recently made the step away from self-identifying as a mommyblogger, about a week after Izzy, I mean, Janet, did. :)

I think it's great. Writers are versatile.  All hail Everywoman. All hail Mommy. 

 

Rita Arens writes at Surrender Dorothy and BlogHer and is the editor of Sleep is for the Weak.

 

Very much on my mind

Thanks for the nice mention, Jen.  Meeting you at BlogHer a couple of years ago was a highlight for me, so I'm flattered to see what you've written here.

The transition and whether I can make it, and whether I even want to, is very much on my mind these days.  I'm intrigued when writers make an active play to do so; for me, if it is happening, it's happening organically, just as a consequence of my changed circumstance. I admire those who do it intentionally; it shows a real self-awareness and willingness to declare themselves.