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It's a big world. You're always in and out of something.

I relate. I'm not a mom, but watch my nephew 1/2 time so am interested in "mom" topics, but don't feel "official" in mom communities

Whoa.

@kitibelle I don't see anyone in this thread promoting their own blogs right now. Or promoting controversy. I hope you'll come back.

but rather just controversy. I'll check in later, right now I have to step away to fulfill my motherly duties.

many posting here have other agendas (perhaps drawing traffic to their own blogs - I don't know), and aren't really interested in mommyblogs

the community. It's all about attitude and perspective. In short, get involved where/when you want to, avoid what you don't. :)

I know a lot of bloggers right now who are feeling "left out" because they aren't going to BlogHer... but they're staying active in (con't)

SM I wasn't assuming anything - just grabbing for a different topic. I almost said, "single life", many mom's are single. Anyway, it seems

Sassymonkey is part of my community, even if she isn't a mom. Or a welder. And Laurie, you are allowed to speak. Really. You are.

Labels are limiting: no one is a one trick pony. Women are women, mommies or not. We just have different life experiences & perspectives.

that's not the same as feeling unwelcome, right?

Does "left out" = "unwelcome"? Because I can understand feeling left out of a conversation because I didn't understand the mechanics but...

A community is that, a make up of different people with differing POVs. Each bring something different to the table of life.

LOL....what a mess! I've never felt left out of anything. If I see interesting conversations, I jump in (obviously).

Whether because of age, location, popularity, lack of children/too many children - older "children", like anywhere in the world it happens

Having said that, as a mommy who is not really a member of any "mommy communities" I would hope that these places don't exclude non parents.

I can completely understand where in some "communities" you can feel left out - (without having to name them)

Kitibelle why would you assume that I would advocate for that? Child-free is not equal to child-hater.

I think it's the people outside of my own little bubble of life who are able to give me glimpses of different POV that are most interesting.

I don't like exclusionary communities. Why would I want to always surround myself with people just like me, in the very same situations?

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SM I think it's fine as long as you're interested in the topic & not continually redirecting topics to say...the benefits of being childless

I didn't join any of them to argue or debate - but because people are interesting, particularly those who are not like me.

I've joined childfree by choice communities and I have six children.

I have joined diet communities and I don't believe in diets. I've joined food communities and I don't really like food & do not cook.

I have joined knitting communities, and I'm not one. I've joined straight communities, and I'm not straight.

Kitibelle I'm really not. I have friends that are mommies. I know bloggers that are mommies. Am I really not part of that community?

Sassymonkey I think you're just playing devil's advocate. Would you join a welder's community if you weren't one? What would be the point?

Well, um, I suppose I enjoy being enlisted for chores? I mean, I'll do them, but am I allowed to speak at the same time? ;)

@Jenna well I'm a mom and I think you should try skinny jeans too

I have moms, non-moms, dads and non-dads who all read my blog(s). I cherish them all. As I do all of my friends.

My non-mom-friends are good for so much more than picking up balloons. Except when they try to get me in skinny jeans. AHEM.

I do enjoy having none moms around for things like picking up a bouquet of balloons (daunting while simultaneously carting around toddlers).

Well sure. And that's why I just show up. Niches and exclusionary committees bother me. Plus how else would I fill my empty hours? ;)

*smooches Laurie* Now, we're not other. But I've felt I've had that label slapped on my forehead sometimes.

I hang out with the DC mom bloggers. I know their kids. I refuse to isolate myself or them from me. We're really not "other" at all.

We're really talking about communities of women. I don't have kids but I have friends who do and don't.

I'm feeling left out because I've never actually FELT left out of any community.

Kitibelle, all communities have moms. And non-moms. It's all part of the same community. Should we ignore each other? Exclude each other?

I'm missing why you want to be part of the mommyblogger communities. Is there a lack of other better fitting communities to join?

Amy - come hang out with me. I'll never assume that you only want to talk kids and I'm perfectly fine when you do. ;)

So Jyn, are you suggesting that I should only hang out with other non-moms? Because um, I have a problem with that. Many problems. Big ones.

I'm the mother of an older teen - I often feel left out because he refuses to wear diapers, no matter how nice I ask :p

Rachelinbar, it's the same with me- I have 6 and its a whole other world from having 1 or 2.

Even from so called 'Experts', if they dont have kids themselves it's tough sometimes to really take their advice or accept it openly.

I often feel like I'm not part of these communities because I have 'too many' kids... I think most mommybloggers have 3 at most (I have 6).

Well, I think the only issue I see is, for example, when people who dont have kids try and give me advice on how to raise mine.

I can understand how it would be tough- it's about a topic you dont have experience in. Why not join communities closer to your experience?

Actually, my complaint is that everyone thinks the only I want to talk about is being a mommy. Uh...no