There were some great posts about friendship in the BlogHer Sex & Relationships BlogHer Blogs this past month! And what I really love about these posts is that they feature practical advice and tips.

For example, MaryanneLive asks, "Got Friends?"

My mother told me I was lucky if I could count all my real friends on one hand!Must have been fifteen or so years ago now, when it occurred to me after a string of disappointing intimate relationships that maybe she was right—again. That it might be wise to invest more time in creating some deep and lasting friendships, as they theoretically seemed to have greater staying power and could be in many ways equally fulfilling, perhaps in some ways even more.

She lays out what she's looking for in a friendship and her plan to find new friends to bond with.

On the other side of the coin, AnnQuirk writes about When to break up with a friend:

In reality, the decision to end a friendship isn’t that much different than the decision to end a romantic relationship (there’s just no sex involved…well, usually). In a platonic friendship, there’s certainly going to be ups and downs, and lord knows each of you are going to be a jerk at some point.

I think the key is you should be getting more out of a friendship than you’re putting in.

She's dealing with the kind of friend who consistently has drama and pulls you into it.

And here's two way to cultivate friendships from Danielle LaPorte. She suggests asking "How can I help?"

That uncomfortable silence after a friend has told you his bad news or
a rant of how overwhelmed she is. Break ups and broken arms and melt
downs. Even for our best friends we don't always know what to say or do
to make it better. We fumble to fill the space with salving words, or
sometimes worse, with solutions. When really, all we need to do is ask:
How can I help?

This would be when you *don't* want to break-up with your friend! There's definitely a difference between someone going through a difficult time and someone who is just drama, drama, drama, day after day, and month after month, and year after year.

And she hits on a fav topic of mine: giving compliments, in her post, giving compliments, world peace, and the warm fuzzies:

I want to start a Compliment Revolution. There are a few revolutions I'd like to ignite, actually, but this one is super easy. If you're with me {go ahead, shout it now, "I'm with you!",} I think we could change the world this very week. So I'm declaring this the week of Global of Compliments. Someone call Hallmark and the Nobel Peace Prize committee.

And then she gives some great tips on how and when to give compliments.

Finally, here's something I simply must share with you, as *your* blog friend. I found it in a post on BlogHer from J.D. Bauchery: Link Love from HotMoviesFromHer.com. The link I love so much that I've already shared it on Facebook is These Ain't Ya Mama's Disney Princes! And a Facebook friend pointed me to the artist, David Kawena, so definitely check out ALL his sexy work.

Now I'm off to sweet dreams for sure...

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Contributing editor Liz Rizzo also blogs at Everyday Goddess.