UPDATED: Cindy Anthony's Testimony: Would You Lie for Your Child?

I don't think I could. Not in that situation. I would owe my grandchild. And as much as I would love my daughter, there is something very wrong with a mother that can kill her own child and lie to her own parents about everything. What a sad situation.

Thank you for your comment, Stacy. I had also heard the talking heads this weekend talk about those specifics. Cindy Anthony obviously doesn't know what she's doing... and I hope someone says so. Soon.

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She said she was searching for chlorophyll and the effects of too much chlorophyll. I just searched for "too much chlorophyll" (without the quotes and with) and chloroform doesn't show up on the first page. Granted, things change everyday with Google ranking, but I still don't buy it.

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I wouldn't do it. In fact, I just wrote about this!

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I'm not sure what I would so in that situation, but I have a hard time believing she would be searching chloroform. Did she give a reason why she searched it?

My Mom lied for my sister when we were teens for one of her friends and of course got caught and I learned a lesson. Never lie for someone you are going to get caught. It was extremely humiliatingly for my Mom when the woman came back and confronted her. They became friends nevertheless and my mom learned a lesson not to cover for her or someone Else's misbehaving child or teen. It does no one any favors. By the my sister is still miss behaving 30 years later and so is that girl both became drug addicts and liars seems like from birth. Just like Casey Anthony.

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I don't think I would.

I think what Cindy is doing is actually kind of (morbidly) practical. She feels awful, but NOTHING will bring her granddaughter back, so shouldn't she try to save the rest of her family?

The thing that floors me is the thought of Christmases to come. How can this family EVER be okay again??

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I think how a grandparent feels about a grandchild very much depends on the situation. Although I can't imagine loving people more than my own children...I can't imagine lying for someone that hurt any child- even lying for my own.

But I think there might be some guilt on grandma's part somehow. She just might be feeling guilty about how her daughter acted...their relationship. Maybe she feels this is what a good mom does.

There are so many what ifs....

I would like to think I would not lie to protect my child from something I know they did...but if I wasn't sure...? I would defend them with my life.

I'm not going to say that if I were in the grandmother's situation, I would thisandthis. Because I am certain that our family dynamics are not and will never be what theirs are.

I am also not a grandmother yet. My children are still very young.

I can say that I know already that the thought of being a grandmother makes my heart burst with love for those wnuki (grandchildren). Wnuki which aren't at least 15-25 years away from even being created. Those will be the children of my children. The 3rd generation of my love for my husband.

I couldn't imagine how I would feel to think of them being hurt. And of the possibility that my own child would hurt them.

So, I cannot say what I would do.

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I would never lie for my child.The truth will always come out sooner or later.

I am not a fan of never say never in this type of situtaion. I have already NOT lied about things that could have "saved" my kids. They need to face the consequences of their actions, no matter what the consequences are!

Becka. Stay at home, business owning mom of 4 young kids, Nick the Sportsman, Michele the Princess, Wyatt the Wild One, and Evan the Baby, and wife to 1 big kid, Chris. I could not ask for anything more!

No.

And I've been in situations where a simple little white lie would have "saved" my son from the consequences of his own actions.

Which is why I didn't do it.

Children who grow up being "saved" and "protected" from the consequences of their own actions become insufferable adults who become outraged, frustrated, and disbelieving, when forced to face consequences, and are determined to find someone or something else to blame - NEVER themselves. I'm sure this woman loves her daughter no matter what the daughter might have done, but genuine love doesn't cover up; it supports while helping UNcover.

Unless, of course, you're stuck, emotionally and mentally, in the "literal" phase of comprehension, and really believe those snarky memes such as "real friends will help you hide the body."

Which, it seems to me, is exactly what these women are trying to pull on society.

Sick bitches, both.

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I would not lie for my kids. (Not like that, anyway)
My husband and I have tried very hard to instill honesty and integrity into our kids. Each of them have a great understanding that truth & it's consequences are inevitable. While we love them more than life itself--we cannot aide them in wrongdoing.
Ever.
Once when our oldest son was a freshman in HS. He spent the night with a friend. While there his brand new ipod went missing. After weeks of searching and pleading with the family....another friend confessed that the friends brother had stolen it while he stayed over.
We went to the parents to recover the ipod and they both lied (he-a doctor, her-a teacher). We knew they knew and they knew we knew. Still they lied right to our face. It killed our son's respect.
We drove away and our son broke down crying. My husband said, "Son, I will never lie for you!" and he said, "I know Dad and thank you!".

An hour later....the doctor and the son brought the ipod back. We forgave them. But still....really?

I'm pretty sure I don't want to lie for my kid but I do live by the never say never rule. So I just don't know.......

But I don't think I would out right lie, and I honestly feel like that is what Cindy Anthony did. One of the talking head legal people pointed out that it's not the searches themselves that point to Casey Anthony as the person at the computer, but the other online activity. Searching for chloroform, but then going to Myspace and facebook, and then searching for chloroform again.

Cindy Anthony does not understand computers and has testified that she did not know how to use myspace (or was it facebook?) until after Caylee was found to be missing and then someone had to show her how to do it. Even her testimony yesterday was from someone who does not understand how basic search engines function. The lawyer had to explain to her what a browser was. This doesn't mean she lied, and no one but herself God knows if she did, but I did not find her credible yesterday.

I would do anything within my power to protect my son. But if he had done something terrible, like hurt someone else or robbed a bank, I can't change the facts. If he was innocent, I'd do everything I could, if he was guilty, I'd pay for the best attorney money could buy. But I would and could not change the facts.

And I think Cindy Anthony is trying to change the facts in her life.

I'd like to draw a comparison:

In the early 90's there was a serial arsonist terrorizing Seattle. The man's father began to suspect his son, and turned him in. Later, when he was interviewed, he said, "My son was doing the wrong thing and hurting people. I couldn't abide by that."

Take the case of the Unibomber - turned in by his brother because his conscious couldn't abide what he knew that his brother had done - turned him in.

I would hope that if one of my children committed an unspeakable crime like killing her own child, I would be the first one knocking on the door of the police station. Would it kill me, too? Of course. Is it still the *right* thing to do? YES. Unquestionably. I would then let the police do their jobs.

"Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage." ~Anais Nin

Even with never say never, I think I can say, in this sort of case where my child MIGHT or might not have hurt my grandchild or even someone else, I would not lie to help them.

If I believed they were innocent I would testify to that, but that's it....

I'm pretty sure I would be willing to lie to keep my child from getting the death penalty, regardless of what they did. But I don't think any of us can really know. There's a lot going on with that case. Was Casey Anthony really abused as a child? If so, the mom may be dealing with a guilty conscience of her own. Parent-child relationships are highly complex. If your child murdered someone else, wouldn't you wonder even a little bit if you had somehow failed him or her?

I don't think grandparents love their grandchildren more than their own kids necessarily, but I do think they love them more freely. Unless the grandparents have custody for some reason, they get to have all the joy of raising children without any of the guilt and responsibility!

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