Co-sleeping at eight?


Today, when I was helping the boys get ready for bed, I saw this on Big A's bunkbed........

Things has a tendency to come to a full circle!! 

Remember my post about co-sleeping when Big A was three?

Today, when I was helping the boys get ready for bed, I saw this on Big A's bunkbed........

Things has a tendency to come to a full circle!! 

Remember my post about co-sleeping when Big A was three?

Today, when I was helping the boys get ready for bed, I saw this on Big A's bunkbed........

 

.......his two teddy bears already tucked in and waiting for their friend to snuggle with them. The teddy to the left has been Big A's companion since he was one. He was given to Big A by my aunt. The biscuit-colored teddy to the right joined the team when Big A brought him home from a Build-a-bear workshop he attended in a field trip in kindergarten.

I exclaimed, "Oh, how cute that is!", and decided to click a picture!

Maybe I shouldn't have, because the minute I did, I could see anxiety clouding his expression. I could tell from the tightness of his features that he was not happy.

We said 'Good night', and I came out of their room to sit at the computer.

I knew it. After five minutes, I hear the door behind me opens a crack and two big eyes peek out!

"Mamma," says their owner, "can I talk to you for a minute. It's really important"!

 "Sure, come on out so you don't disturb Little a"

"Mamma.......I was thinking......about my teddy bears.........do you think I'm too old for them. I mean, should I stop sleeping with them. After all, I can't sleep with them in college!"

I look at my child-boy and inwardly sigh. It was easier being a girl in this regard! I totally slept with my soft toys even when I was in college!! I debate whether it makes any sense to tell him that but decide it absolutely does not! He's not ready to let go of his companions of eight sweet, long years, and yet, the pressure to do just that is slowly mounting on him.

"Look," I say as gently, but firmly as possible, "I think it should be fine for you to sleep with your teddies for as long as you want! One day, you may not want to, but I don't think that day has come yet. I see nothing wrong with having them there, do you?"

He nods but then quickly says, "But....what will my friends say if they find out about this!"

I look him in the eye and say, "Who's going to tell them?!"

We both look at each other for a split second and then both smile! I see the spark return in his eyes and he heads back to his room with a more cheerful "Good night, Mamma!" than before!

"Good night, sweetheart!" Stay a child for as long as you want!
 

.......his two teddy bears already tucked in and waiting for their friend to snuggle with them. The teddy to the left has been Big A's companion since he was one. He was given to Big A by my aunt. The biscuit-colored teddy to the right joined the team when Big A brought him home from a Build-a-bear workshop he attended in a field trip in kindergarten.

I exclaimed, "Oh, how cute that is!", and decided to click a picture!

Maybe I shouldn't have, because the minute I did, I could see anxiety clouding his expression. I could tell from the tightness of his features that he was not happy.

We said 'Good night', and I came out of their room to sit at the computer.

I knew it. After five minutes, I hear the door behind me opens a crack and two big eyes peek out!

"Mamma," says their owner, "can I talk to you for a minute. It's really important"!

 "Sure, come on out so you don't disturb Little a"

"Mamma.......I was thinking......about my teddy bears.........do you think I'm too old for them. I mean, should I stop sleeping with them. After all, I can't sleep with them in college!"

I look at my child-boy and inwardly sigh. It was easier being a girl in this regard! I totally slept with my soft toys even when I was in college!! I debate whether it makes any sense to tell him that but decide it absolutely does not! He's not ready to let go of his companions of eight sweet, long years, and yet, the pressure to do just that is slowly mounting on him.

"Look," I say as gently, but firmly as possible, "I think it should be fine for you to sleep with your teddies for as long as you want! One day, you may not want to, but I don't think that day has come yet. I see nothing wrong with having them there, do you?"

He nods but then quickly says, "But....what will my friends say if they find out about this!"

I look him in the eye and say, "Who's going to tell them?!"

We both look at each other for a split second and then both smile! I see the spark return in his eyes and he heads back to his room with a more cheerful "Good night, Mamma!" than before!

"Good night, sweetheart!" Stay a child for as long as you want!
 


.......his two teddy bears already tucked in and waiting for their friend to snuggle with them. The teddy to the left has been Big A's companion since he was one. He was given to Big A by my aunt. The biscuit-colored teddy to the right joined the team when Big A brought him home from a Build-a-bear workshop he attended in a field trip in kindergarten.

I exclaimed, "Oh, how cute that is!", and decided to click a picture!

Maybe I shouldn't have, because the minute I did, I could see anxiety clouding his expression. I could tell from the tightness of his features that he was not happy.

We said 'Good night', and I came out of their room to sit at the computer.

I knew it. After five minutes, I hear the door behind me opens a crack and two big eyes peek out!

"Mamma," says their owner, "can I talk to you for a minute. It's really important"!

 "Sure, come on out so you don't disturb Little a"

"Mamma.......I was thinking......about my teddy bears.........do you think I'm too old for them. I mean, should I stop sleeping with them. After all, I can't sleep with them in college!"

I look at my child-boy and inwardly sigh. It was easier being a girl in this regard! I totally slept with my soft toys even when I was in college!! I debate whether it makes any sense to tell him that but decide it absolutely does not! He's not ready to let go of his companions of eight sweet, long years, and yet, the pressure to do just that is slowly mounting on him.

"Look," I say as gently, but firmly as possible, "I think it should be fine for you to sleep with your teddies for as long as you want! One day, you may not want to, but I don't think that day has come yet. I see nothing wrong with having them there, do you?"

He nods but then quickly says, "But....what will my friends say if they find out about this!"

I look him in the eye and say, "Who's going to tell them?!"

We both look at each other for a split second and then both smile! I see the spark return in his eyes and he heads back to his room with a more cheerful "Good night, Mamma!" than before!

"Good night, sweetheart!" Stay a child for as long as you want!

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