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Coming up Next Week on Backtalk: Family Size. Whether You Have One Child Or Six, Everyone Has Something to Say About It.

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When I was taking care of three Ferrier kids (my two stepdaughters and my own daughter), no one batted an eyelash. But once I was pregnant with our fourth, the comments started coming fast and furious.

"Is this your last one?!" people would ask. Or, "Trying for a boy?" Or my own personal favorite, "Does your daughter and the one you're pregnant with have the same daddy?"

When my son was born, I can't count the number of times I heard, "Well, your husband finally got that boy. I guess you're done now!"

Number one:  As if we had cared whether or not we had a boy. We were shooting merely for "healthy."

Number two:  As if it was anyone's business why we had a child or whether we'd have another one.

The Backtalk moms have learned that anyone who doesn't have the "magic" number of two or three kids, faces all sorts of comments and criticism, whether her family has just one child, six, or, um, 18. We'll talk to moms on both sides of the family size spectrum on next week's Backtalk.

In the meantime, we want to feature you and your blog on upcoming Backtalks! The topics we'll be covering in the weeks to come include:

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mommyof5 5 pts

As a mother of 5 children I often get asked if this is my last one. My husband came up with a very clever response that seems to end the line of questioning we get. When we are asked if we are "done" having kids he simply says, "Yes, we finally figured out what caused them and we stopped doing it."

Most people are too red-faced to ask anything else.

gabriellek 5 pts

I have four kids that happen to have been born within 4 years and seven months. In the past thirteen years I have had one compliment about the number of kids we have. Anything from asking what religion we are to asking us if we know how the birds and bees work, hahaha, would follow. All I know is that each one is a true gift and if I could afford more I would have four more, so there to all the nay sayers!! Just kidding, I'm glad to talk to people and difuse their curiosity and hope that they leave our presence with more joy!

kristidrennan 5 pts

And how many times have I heard since my first...and I'm still on my first....people say, "so when are you having another one?".  Like let me figure out this one and see how it goes before I start on the next! 

Maybe people are just trying to make conversation! Hee hee! ;)

Kristi ;)

http://thedrennans.blogspot.com

csdenault 5 pts

If you want to invite comments about your family, many of them inappropriate, walk around with higher order multiples these days! We have a daughter who is almost three and six-month-old triplet boys.

We attract so much attention when we go places that I often think I would get less reaction if I walked around naked.

The lesson I'd like to impart to people is a simple one that we all learned way back in grade school: If you don't have anything nice to say then don't say anything at all.

Please don't ask which of my boys is the smart one. That one. The other two are dumb as rocks. Don't tell me I've got my hands full, or ask me if we wanted four kids. Nope, but the hospital wouldn't keep any of them, especially the dumb ones. And don't ask if we were trying to have multiples. (By the way, if anyone knows how you *try* to have multiples, please feel free to enlighten me.)

Comments on how beautiful my family is or how fortunate I am, as well as compliments on how young and skinny I look are, however, always welcome.

I had a major rant about the things people ask and the comments they make here: http://trippin-lifewithtriplets.blogspot.com/2009/...

Like all moms, I couldn't imagine life without all of my children so I really don't care what people think about my family, but I sure do wish they'd keep their thoughts to themselves.

Christy

http://trippin-lifewithtriplets.blogspot.com

sylinthecity 5 pts

My sisters and I cannot, however, imagine having to face our parents without each other! Haha, siblings are the BEST :-)

http://www.somewherethesunisrising.com