CONFIDENCE......WHEN SOMEONE DOESN'T LIKE YOU......WHEN DISASTER STRIKES.....Go To Grandma's House....

WHEN SOMEONE DOESN’T LIKE YOU….

I used to get my feelings hurt years ago when I felt someone didn’t like me…..I simply could not imagine why someone wouldn’t like me….I am always nice, polite, kind, thoughtful, and all the other great things…..What is there not to like about me? Are they crazy?

Well, I have determined that lots of people are crazy and if not crazy then there simply are some “not nice” people out in the world….There are also jealous people and negative people who do not like to see others happy…..There are also people that we simply do not have a thing in common with outside of being human beings and so they simply do not see in us any desire to give us their time…..There are also people we may have been friends with along the way that no longer seem to want to be friends with us anymore….What happened?

Sometimes we simply cannot figure out why someone doesn’t like us….Sometimes we will never know….But I always think if someone doesn’t like me they were not supposed to be in my life in the first place….That something spiritual is going on between the two of us that neither of us can see and the pushing away of each other is simply because we are not the missing part to the puzzle any longer for the other person…

There can be almost any reason for someone not liking us. Often they do not even know why…..If we allow ourselves to be bothered by everyone who does not like us we will take the attention off of the people who do like us…..For there will be far more people that will like us than don’t like us….SO it all balances out in a positive direction…..

Simply put, when we quit worrying about being liked that releases us to be who we are and to attract those people into our lives that love us for our authenticity….not for who we are not….We want to be ourselves…and if someone cannot like us for who we are we are better off to know up front than down the line…

When Someone doesn’t like us….remember to LOVE OURSELVES...

 

CONFIDENCE…..

I truly believe in life that Confidence is what is needed by more people…..Confidence is not arrogance or what we see on some of the talk shows with people being rude and overbearing….Confidence often is quiet……Confidence doesn't have to shout to be noticed....

I noticed at a school play one day a girl who stood out as very different from the rest….She could have been bullied or not liked by many, but what I found out is that she is very well liked, respected, and sought after……and I believe it is because she has confidence about who she is……She simply goes about her life and her business with an inner knowing that she is "perfect" just as she is.....

Confidence doesn’t have to scream to be heard….Confidence doesn’t have to be rude to be heard….Confidence simply is…..Smart people recognize confidence right away…..The Confident people I have met are almost always nice. Actually I have not met a not nice confident person….because confident people simply pride themselves in being nice people…..

Being Confident is one of those things that comes from inside of us.....It doesn't come from the outside.....Looking for things to make us confident will never work...at least not for long....Our Confidence comes from Us....and we quietly show it to the world.....The World normally responds to how we see ourselves.....Confidence....

 

WHEN DISASTER STRIKES….WHEN EVERYTHING GOES WRONG….GO TO GRANDMA'S HOUSE....

What does one do when Disaster strikes….When everything goes wrong….When one’s worst fears come about….What does one do then?

So many fears simply never happen….Many people live their lives in fears that they never see come to pass….Often most fears are simply that “fears” and nothing more…..but there are times that that dreaded fear does come to pass…..That it does happen….That fear that you truly were afraid of and feared would happen…..What happens then….?

I think shock is still there like it would be with an unexpected event taking place. The only difference is that this one was sort of expected although hoping it would not happen. That is truly the only difference…..There still is shock, disbelief, and fear of the “what ifs”…..

When a person’s worst fears has come to pass it is initially as if everything has been drained from them….that they just feel weakened…..That is a normal reaction to a person’s fears having taken place in reality……

Once one has passed that point of initial reaction it is the time to regroup and take in all the information surrounding the events….To begin to organize that information in a way that is almost systematic….What has occurred, what is occuring, likely events that will take place as a result, a list of positive strategys to cope with it all, finding all positive and competent resources (avoiding the wrong ones) to help navigate through these storms, and to come up with a strong way of going forward……

Often there are no clear solutions and we have to simply do the very best we can each step of the way….hoping and praying as we go along while using our minds and resources to the best at getting through what has taken place…..

Another key to dealing with our “worst fears that took place scenario” is to hold tight….believe that one will get through it…..That one will survive…..and ultimately thrive again…..That a new normal will come forth after the storm is over……

We may not always be able to avoid our worst fear scenerio….sometimes our worst fears can happen….We pray they don’t and in most cases they don’t. As said, most are simply fears and nothing more…..but in the event one does take place we need to have a basic plan for what to do and how to get through it….

When Disaster strikes….When Everything goes wrong……We simply have to take it one step at a time….Rest our minds when we can….Find a place that we feel safe and can “think” and rest…..Find comfort in any positive way we can….I always say “Go to Grandma’s House…” where it is safe and warm….Grandma’s House is simply a term I use for finding a place of comfort….Sometimes a place of comfort can help us get through a storm…..

Keep faith….Keep prayers going….and believe you will get through it….and life will begin again in a most positive way….

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