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Consider the Thistle and Find Your Way Home

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For nearly three weeks, I've had a copy of Find Your Way Home: Words from the Street, Wisdom from the Heart. The book has been a balm, a burden, and a bounty of inspiration.

It's been a balm because in the women who present their stories in the book, I see that the universe has not forsaken humanity's spirit to overcome horror. A burden because as I hold these women's words and stare into the mirror, I see that I often lack their courage. And a bounty because their words lift that burden and any other weight that may tether me to self-doubt and despair. This little book of feminine grace has the inspiration and spiritual guidance of a tome.

The Women of Magdalene wrote this book with the founder of the Magdalene community in Nashville, Tenn., Becca Stevens, an Episcopalian priest. You may be aware this organization under the name Thistle Farms through the marketing of its handmade candles and bath and body products.

Thistle Farms is a non-profit business run by women who have survived lives of violence, prostitution, and abuse. Thistle Farms products are hand-made by the very women they benefit. All proceeds go back into Thistle Farms and the residential program, Magdalene. Into every product goes the belief that freedom starts with healing and love can change lives.

... Magdalene is a two-year residential community founded in Nashville Tennessee in 1997 for women with a history of prostitution and drug addiction. Magdalene was founded not just to help a sub-culture of women, but to help change the culture itself. We stand in solidarity with women who are recovering from sexual abuse, violence, and life on the streets, and who have paid dearly for a culture that buys and sells women like commodities. (ThistleFarms.org)

With the current downturn in our economy, Thistle Farms/Magdalene community faces a dip in donations. According to a local news story with video, the organization has had to to cut its budget by 13 percent. One of its houses is in such disrepair, residents can't live in it.

After reading about the women this program helps, I decided to participate in a blogging initiative that Thistle Farms supporters hope will raise awareness of the work of Magdalene community. Through that effort I received its little book of wisdom for review.

The book is broken into 24 sections, 24 rules by which women in the Magdalene community live while in the program. In the book's introduction, Stevens explains that Magdalene community developed guidelines for its communal living in a way similar to St. Benedict of Nursia's development of the Rule of Benedict.

With each rule presented in Find Your Way Home comes personal stories and reflections from Magdalene community residents. Stevens writes:

In the Magdalene community, we start everyday by gathering in a circle where we read a meditation, pray, and make sure everyone is all right. We share stories and wisdom. We tell the truth. In this book, we invite you to share the spiritual principles of Magdalene.

Before I share part of one of its stories, here's a little background from both its website and the postcard that came with my book. It tells why Magdalene community uses the thistle as its symbol.

Considered a weed, thistles grow on the streets and alleys where the women of Magdalene walked. But, thistles have a deep tap root that can shoot through thick concrete and survive drought. And in spite of their prickly appearance, their royal and soft purple center makes the thistle a mysterious and gorgeous flower.

Like all of the personal reflections in the book, the story under Rule 14 puts flesh and bone on symbolism and the abstract:

Rule 14, Consider the Thistle

I know Dickerson Road all too well. I lived there in abandoned sheds and lots. The smell of urine was everywhere. I kept all my worldly belongings in garbage bags. I spent hours looking for restaurants where I could wash my body off. I spent days going to thrift stores looking for free clothing. All of this so I could hang out at the gas station to panhandle or catch a trick, whichever came first. I had no shoes, no good clothes, nowhere to sleep, no food to eat; and yet I am beautiful and worthy of every good thing. (from Find Your Way Home)

And yet ...

Much of this little book could be called "Psalms of And Yet," and I mean that in

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LaurelH 5 pts

Thank you for giving this book and this community of women a wide audience. I work in fundraising for a nonprofit, and these are very difficult times with donations severely impacted by the recession. Fortunately, violence against women is one of the areas that will receive funding under the Obama Stimulus bill, through the Department of Justice. I love the metaphor of the thistle and will buy this book!

Laurel

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nellewrites 6 pts

my shipment, and it is perfectly lovely. :-)

*dual purpose of bumping this up!*

Well worth ordering, folks... and for a very good cause. 

llhaesa ( http://llhaesa.org/ )

Nordette Adams 6 pts

Yes, I thought the writer at WDBD did a wonderful job reviewing the book. Thank you for your comment, Wilma.

Nordette ( http://blogher.org/blog/nordette ): BlogHer CE. Blogs @ WSATA ( http://bigsole.blogspot.com ) & UMBOP ( http://urbanpsalms.blogspot.com ). @Twitter ( http://twitter.com/nordette_verite )

Nordette Adams 6 pts

You're an action taker. :-) I hope many other will follow your lead.  We all need to put our money where our mouth is whenver possible.

Nordette ( http://blogher.org/blog/nordette ): BlogHer CE. Blogs @ WSATA ( http://bigsole.blogspot.com ) & UMBOP ( http://urbanpsalms.blogspot.com ). @Twitter ( http://twitter.com/nordette_verite )

Nordette Adams 6 pts

I'm glad I had the opportunity to review the book.

Nordette ( http://blogher.org/blog/nordette ): BlogHer CE. Blogs @ WSATA ( http://bigsole.blogspot.com ) & UMBOP ( http://urbanpsalms.blogspot.com ). @Twitter ( http://twitter.com/nordette_verite )

Wilma Ham 5 pts

I love the line, all women aim for peace, self esteem and a successful path.
We all do, albeit that the starting point from where we are coming from is different.
But going for the same things unite us and makes us understand and recognize each other, no matter our circumstances.
That is what I love about these projects, they allow dignity and make us unite rather than talking about them and us.
Good move to ask for comments, this really deserves attention.

Wilma Ham

www.wilmasblog.com ( http://www.wilmasblog.com/ )

nellewrites 6 pts

There are quiet and not so quiet little victories, and itis nice some publicity is flowing there way.

Someone I know in London has helped bring change there with DV, and we've talked on occasion about those brought into the country specifically to serve as prostitutes. It is estimated that in London alone, there are around 750 such establishments.

When one sees a number like that...

yay for all those involved in this programme, and I do believe this is a bood I'd like to read. 

llhaesa ( http://llhaesa.org/ )

Denise 9 pts moderator

I've actually read the post three times, and each time I find myself wishing I'd have thought to open a post that way. It's just excellent. It also makes me want to read the book and I did put it on my wish list the first time I read the post.

~Denise
BlogHer Community Manager

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