As I prepare to move from my home but not having yet identified my new one, I am seriously contemplating what I will place into storage and what I will let go of rather than pay to house in anticipation of future use and enjoyment. A number of thoughts and factors are guiding my decision making and leading me to possibly a somewhat radical place.
I find myself toying with and returning to the thought of letting it all go. That's right, giving up everything I own save for the stuff I must keep like my computer and other work tools, client files, tax records, important documents, clothing so I don't get arrested for public nudity, etc....
I saw a news piece about things people place into storage units as they lose their homes in the recession. Several of those profiled were paying to store beat up couches, bags of broken and unloved toys, and collections of stuff that had no value to anyone but the individual. A few of the people the reporter talked with admitted that they hadn't thoughtfully considered what they were paying to store or for what purpose. That report has stuck with me as it is easy to spot another person's folly while remaining blind to your own. Ever since I've looked at what I own with a critical eye towards whether or not it is something I should pay to store and maintain especially since I eventually will give it all up one day.
Recently I drove to a house to pick up some moving boxes that were offered on Freecycle. The house they were at was in one of the neighborhoods that had been devastated in the 1991 Oakland firestorm. Many houses had been rebuilt, some were still under construction and, like the mouth of a child awaiting a visit from the tooth fairy, there were gaps where still-empty lots dotted the winding road. The sight got me thinking... what would I mourn if it was lost in a fire? What would make my life difficult if I were to lose it? What would I be able to replace if I had to start over from scratch? I can tell you that virtually everything falls into the third category.
Even my sofa. I love my sofa. It took me nearly my entire adult life to find a sofa I love. I'm apparently like the princess and the pea or Goldilocks and porridge when it comes to sofas. However, I found it. And if I found a sofa I loved once, I could find one again, I'm sure.
Some things though it strikes me that it might make some sense to store. Like my TV. I couldn't sell it for much given how quickly technology upgrades and prices fall. However, it would likely cost me several times over the cost of storage to replace it eventually so on a strict cost-benefit analysis basis, big screen TV gets a passing grade.
Pragmatic ROI considerations aside, there are more spiritual considerations. Like should I even have a big screen TV? Perhaps this is an opportunity to move on to a non-television way of life without the distraction and with the opportunity to focus on writing, reading and other potentially more enriching pursuits. Maybe I can reduce my carbon footprint and tread more lightly on the earth by responsibly recycling or passing things along an not replacing them. A radical de-cluttering might not only be good for the soul but might open up the path for non-stuff kinds of goodness to enter my life.
I suspect though that ultimately this will be a fantasy that should I ever commit to will have to happen down the road. Getting rid of stuff takes time! Time that I don't really have and energy that is flowing towards all the ancillary business of moving. I am certain that I won't stop thinking about this idea, though and if nothing else I believe it is a useful frame through which to evaluate and view everything I hold on to and bring into my life.
Have you ever undertaken a radical de-cluttering. Lost or consciously rid yourself of most of your belongings? If you've put stuff into storage how do you feel about the decision and the value of the price?
Related Reading:
what_ev at 43 Things: Starting over
I want to keep important and sentimental things, but everything else I want to sell, my furniture, my electronics, my movies, books, everything and pack up and just go where ever the wind takes me...
Amanda Wissmann at La Blondie Peruana: Ever Changing!
Well, life is exciting and ever changing! Shaun and I have decided to go ahead and sell everything we own! (aside from a few keepsakes)
Jessica Tata at Apartment Therapy San Francisco: Selling Everything You Own
Her website, goodbye wafflemaker explains her motivation for selling everything in such an interesting way as being "one part stoop sale and one part personal experiment." Her intention is to lighten her load and remove clutter from her life. While we may not take the idea quite so far, we love the idea of letting go of everything unnecessary in order to think and act more clearly. This is an intriguing idea intended to allow Megan to fund her trip to a poverty-stricken community in order to create sustainable living ideas and bolster a community.
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Blunt Money: Everything you need (and want)
The thing is, many of us probably do have everything we need, right now, without even realizing it. It’s coming to that realization (and feeling like we also have everything we want) that can be more difficult. Does it just take age to get to that point, or can we work on acquiring wisdom at a younger age? What makes a person content?
It’s not the amount of stuff. Older folks often end up giving away the majority of their stuff, as they move into assisted living centers or in with family. Or they leave the bulk of their stuff home or give it away to travel around in 200-300 sq ft trailers. Of course, not every older person is perfectly content, but I haven’t ever heard one talking wistfully about wanting the latest gadget. They might go shopping, if they can, but it’s for a pair of shoes that won’t hurt their feet or to get the grandkids a treat.
reanbean at How Do you Do It?: Trying To Curb My Inner Pack Rat
I’ll admit, I’m one of those people who likes to save everything. As and adolescent, I saved every note passed between my BFFs and me in Jr. High and every card I received for my 16th birthday. The outfit I was wearing when my first boyfriend kissed me behind the town pool was saved for years in a box in the attic along with every card, dried flower, and gift he’d ever given me. (We only dated for about six months, but when you’re 12, six months is a lifetime.) These things were so special to me. How could I just toss them into the trash can or the Goodwill bin?
Laura at I'm an organizing junkie: Organizing a move...
Purge before you move
Moving is a great opportunity to see what you own, determine what you would like to take with you and figure out what you can leave behind. Many movers charge by the box. You don’t want to have to pay movers to transport boxes of stuff you never use and don’t need anymore.
Purging Before Moving Will Save You Money and SPACE
Tina at Think Simple Now: Stuff-onomics: Hidden Side of What You Own
After traveling for several months in one bag: two pairs of pants, a few shirts, a jacket, several books, and my iPod (which I used once)…. Coming home to 50 boxes full of Stuff, it felt like my world was once again being weighed down by things I didn’t need. It felt as if the things will consume more of me than I will ever consume of it. Thus, my new project: to simplify my life… starting with Stuff.
Sara at On Simplicity: Oh Crap! I Got Rid of Too Much Stuff!
Spring cleaning should really be classified as a temporary disorder, causing us to do things we would never consider under different circumstances. Overcome by the urge to purge, it’s easy to toss perfectly good items out with the genuine clutter. When you open your closet door and think, “I know I had more than a pair of Pumas and a black blazer at one point; I’ve been robbed!”—that’s probably a sign that you overdid it with the spring cleaning.
It’s definitely happened to me. I was so thrilled to get rid of anything I didn’t absolutely love that I found out after the fact that apparently, I didn’t love any work-appropriate clothes. Oops. Fortunately, it’s easy to fix. Learn from my mistake, and you can recover from overenthusiastic decluttering pretty painlessly....
Finally, don’t panic. Whether it’s your wardrobe, your pantry, or your collection of books, having too little probably isn’t all that urgent. Most “things” are replaceable. Take a step backward and ask yourself whether your overzealous spring cleaning is worth worrying about. (Hint: It’s probably not.) In the end, you can replace what little needs to be replaced and you’ve still come away with a cleaner, more streamlined end result. It’s just not worth overanalyzing for most folks.
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Crabby at Cranky Fitness: Getting Rid Of Stuff You Don't Need
BlogHer CE Siel: Radical uncluttering: Getting rid of stuff in search of new adventures
Seek adventure and freedom? Willing to give up everything you own to bring those things in your life? No? Well then you can at least experience those things vicariously via intrepid people who are de-stuff-ing their lives so they can travel light and free in pursuit of new adventures.
BlogHer CE Maria Niles is working on not agonizing and just purging it at PopConsumer.
Comments
Moving helped in the letting go
I have moved several times over the last few years. Once I rented a storage space to house items I thought I might need, I didn't miss them. Upon finally opening the unit, most items were no longer important to my life and off they went to charity. The cost of storing in the end was not worth it.
On my last move which was a greater distance I realized how stressed I was while packing more of our "stuff." I gave so much to charity, a couple of garage sales were helpful but still I was lost in a sea of boxes. Since then for every one item that comes into our home more goes out. Moving cured me of over-buying and the "I might need that one day" collecting, it is so much easier to let go--- a freeing experience.
In the end, I have looked at, What would I try to grab if there was a fire? Those are the items that obviously I would need to keep. Everything else is just temporary comfort clutter and easily replaceable should I second guess my de-cluttering.
Still learning the lesson
Having moved a ridiculous number of times you'd think I'd have learned this particular lesson but sadly I've just gone ahead and moved the same boxes over and over.
I appreciate your sharing what you've learned. It's helpful encouragement. Thank you!
BlogHer Contributing Editor PopConsumer Beyond Help
Let it go!
As someone who moved two years ago from our first family home to a condo and needed to downsize...I would for sure encourage you to let things out of your life. We were in the process of selling our house and moved before tha was completed. A family member packed up the house for us as it sold a month or two after we left, and filled a storage unit that we paid monthly to store random boxes. After we bought our new home 2 hours away from that storage unit, we had to rent a moving truck to bring down all those boxes (that we didn't miss) to the new place.
The boxes now live in our basement. Stored again, not doing anyone any good. It was such a major fail! I was overwhelmed with all of the boxes of things we no longer needed or wanted. Haven't had a chance to go through and pass these items forward, but doing so is a 2010 goal.
Good luck with your moving!
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Getting past the overwhelm
It can be a daunting challenge to tackle. I got so excited that I had finally emptied all my boxes and then found 10 more hidden away! But since I've built up some momentum and gotten more comfortable with trusting that I can let stuff go - I was able to tackle 5 of those new discoveries today.
Good luck on you 2010 goal and thank you for the supportive wishes!
BlogHer Contributing Editor PopConsumer Beyond Help
Save the pictures and the memories. All the
rest can be replaced
I opted to put my belongings in storage at one time in my life when my living arrangements didn't accomodate a household full of THINGS. Looking back on it, I wonder why I wasted the money on that storage unit. Of all those things I paid to save, only the photos, journals and ONE BOX of memories remains! Sure, I'd like to keep all the cool trinkets and doodads I've collected, and I loved my bed. But most of these things wear out anyhow.
If I had it to do over again, I'd put the box at a friend's house, then sell or give away the rest.
Jen
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Thanks for the insight
I'm finding that the hardest part is deciding what fall's into the "memory worth saving" category. Photos are a definite yes but the rest of the stuff is fuzzy. While I am enjoying the trips down memory lane I've still had memories of people and experience even all the years the items have been in boxes, so... But it helps to hear what other people have found in similar situations so thank you for sharing your story, Jen!
BlogHer Contributing Editor PopConsumer Beyond Help
I got rid of everything!
in 2000, we sold all our stuff and our house, and bought an RV--a 34' travel trailer. We have lived a mobile life for 9 years now, not burdened with all the things that once held us back. Was it hard? yes, it certainly was. It took almost a year to get rid of everything. Some things were easier to part with than others.
My photographs, all tossed in boxes over the years, were the hardest--it took me about 6 weeks to sort through them. I had shoeboxes set in a line, and divided the photos up between my four kids, my siblings, my husband's siblings, and several friends. And one large box for myself, that I scanned to a CD after we moved into the RV.
Next up were the Christmas ornaments. I picked a few of my most treasured ones to keep, then let each of the kids pick the ones they wanted. The rest went to the estate sale.
Then, my "party dishes". The collection of serving bowls and platters I had taken years to accumulate. They were the hardest of all things to part with, but again, I picked three I wanted to keep, and gave the rest to my daughters.
We contacted an estate sale company, who came in and did the rest. It took a week to set up the sale, two days to sell it all, and then it was done. Then we sold the house.
I have not regretted for one moment getting rid of all that stuff. It owned me, not the other way around.
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Thanks for the inspiration!
I love your blog, Karen and your stories of how you re-created your life and follow your passion are incredibly inspiring. Thanks so much for sharing this story and comment!
BlogHer Contributing Editor PopConsumer Beyond Help
Oh, yeah, I almost forgot!
Because we work seasonal jobs, and move every six months, now I have a "semi-annual" toss out--I go through every closet, drawer, storage bin in the RV, and get rid of things we don't need, things we haven't used in a year, shirts and pants that are stained or torn, old food that has been in the pantry for too long. I never did that when I lived in my house, but because we have weight limitations on towing the trailer, I do this religiously now. As a matter of fact, I am in the process of doing it this week.
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