Control Freak: Tips for Safe and Happy Traveling with Kids

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I have to admit I get a little panicky when it comes to flying, as I have mentioned in The Overly Cautious Traveler post. It isn't flying per se that bothers me. It's the full relinquishment of all control. And I'm a control freak.

Every time I buy a ticket I hesitate in that second before I purchase. And then when I'm standing in the jet way about to board, in that last second before I step onto the aircraft, I pause and consider not getting on the airplane; not going on my trip. Once on board, I silence the tiny, but loud paranoid voice in my head. Once on board, I don't allow that little voice to speak, but I accept whatever fate is mine.

Flying with Kids

It actually helps to have the kids along. I have too many other things to focus on to think about my control issues. Between wrangling the kids, 18 bags (I'm exaggerating – a little), stuffed animals, and a stroller and keeping our boarding passes in hand, I somehow forget my worries. I know, I know. Flying is statistically safer than driving a vehicle to my destination, blah, blah, blah. My brother is a pilot, and he is forever reminding me of all of these facts. Even still, the unrest remains.

Travel Tips

One thing that does make traveling with kids more relaxed and happier for everyone is to be organized and prepared for almost any scenario. I always have a few new, small, quiet toys, books, DVDs and player, a favorite stuffed animal, easy to eat, healthy snacks, their cups and supply of water, juice and milk, any essential medicines, and few chocolate bribe treats (as in please stop screaming and kicking the back of that poor man's seat and have some M & Ms), a change of clothes or two (depending on the length of trip), lots of diapers for Darling 2, extra underwear for Darling 1 and lots and lots of wipes (you can use them for so many things).

Here's what one expert has to say:

Based on analyses of dozens of aviation incidents and accidents involving children and on personal experience as a traveling parent, has ten travel safety tips:

  • Plan ahead: Ask yourself what supplies you will need to have on hand to take care of any normal or special needs for the child. Remember, it is the airline's responsibility to carry passengers to their destination, but it is the responsibility of the parent or responsible adult to take care of any children.
  • Use a child restraint system for children under 40 pounds (18.1 kilos): The U.S. Federal Aviation Administration strongly recommends that children weighing less than 40 pounds be put into a child restraint system appropriate for their weight. Children under the age of two may be carried on the lap of an adult, but the lap child should have some kind of restraint system.

    For small children, consider the following recommendations:

    • Find a way to conveniently carry an appropriate child restraint system through airports and into and out of aircraft.
    • If the child is over the age of two and less than 40 pounds (18.1 kilos), follow the FAA recommendations for using child restraint systems.
    • If the child is under two, consider buying a separate seat for the child and use an appropriate restraint system for the seat.
    • If the child is under two and will be traveling on the lap of an adult, consider using an appropriate in-flight child restraint. Also, bring along an appropriate child restraint system for a seat just in case you happen to be next to an unoccupied seat.
  • Prepare for possible emergencies: Make sure you are aware of emergency equipment or procedures that would apply to your child:
    • Pay attention to the standard preflight emergency briefing
    • Ask a flight attendant if that particular aircraft has emergency equipment like life preservers specifically designed for small children
    • If your child has a medical condition that may become an issue during the flight, make a flight attendant, counter agent, or gate agent aware of that possibility before the flight
  • Take all essential items for the children in carry-on luggage: Take enough food, diapers, medicine, and other items to last through possible flight delays and lost luggage. Carrying all the child's essentials with you is especially important if your child is on a special diet or on medication.
  • Keep your children under control at all times: YOU and not the flight attendant is responsible for supervising your child at all times. An unsupervised or unrestrained child could quickly wander way into dangerous areas such as galleys, especially if the responsible adult falls asleep. During a very long flight from Australia to the U.S., I observed a parent traveling alone with a child fall asleep and then saw their toddler wander down the aisle. You should also be careful when walking about the aircraft with your child so that they don't reach for cups of hot coffee, silverware, and other hazards.
  • Seat your child away from an aisle: Small children enjoy reaching out and exploring, but if they are on the aisle they could get hurt if their little arms get bumped by a person or serving cart passing down the aisle. Ideally, two responsible adults should sit on either side of the child. Also, one can seat the child on a row with a window on one side and a responsible adult on the other.
  • If emergency oxygen masks deploy, put your mask on first: This advice may seem cruel, but there is a very practical reason for it. If the brain is starved of oxygen (hypoxia), one can get confused or pass out and be unable to help themselves or their child. By putting on their mask first, the parent or responsible adult will reduce their chance of falling victim to hypoxia.
  • Keep your child belted or in a child restraint system at all times: Turbulence can happen at any time and without warning, so keep your child belted in as much as possible. If the child, wants to get up and move around, let them do so only if the seat belt sign is off. The FAA has related information in this brochure about child seats and turbulence.
  • Bring along safe toys: Try to avoid bringing along toys that are sharp, heavy, or that break easily. If the child has an electronic game, only allow them to use it during the cruise portion of flight. Electronic games may interfere with an aircraft's navigational system during other phases of the flight.
  • Take extra precautions for children traveling alone::
    • Escort the child onto the aircraft and check the area around the seat for hazards such as heavy carry-on items in the overhead storage bins.
    • Inform the chief flight attendant that the child is traveling alone
    • Ensure that the person meeting the child at the destination will have proper identification.
    • Make it clear to the child that they should report any problems to a flight attendant. This could range from feeling sick to having a suspicious character seated next to them.
    • If the child has to change planes, make arrangements for the child to be escorted between gates. This usually costs extra and is required for small children and is recommended for older children, especially those old enough to do it on their own but not mature enough to deal with potential problems or temptations at a busy airport
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    This blog has some great tips starting from the beginning of the trip: Get to the airport early. There are also some great related links to other Delicious Baby blog posts with travel tips like how to keep your kids busy on the airplane and practical tips for breastfeeding and pumping on the airplane:

    Wow! This site has a really long list of travel game ideas: some for the car, some for the plane, all really fun and creative, adaptable for a variety of ages. Make sure to check this site before you take off on your next adventure:

    Another really great idea from a mom, no less: Mom Maps, an iPhone application, helps you find fun, kid friendly locations on the go! Search our extensive list of parks, playgrounds, restaurants, museums and indoor play areas, as well as reviews by parents, for parents. Using GPS, you'll see nearby results, plus a map to get you there. There are 22 cities "mapped" with new destinations being added continually. So, if you find yourself in an unknown city and want to find a park, a clean bathroom, a kid-friendly restaurant, etc. this is a great app to have:

    The Scoop

    What are your tricks and tips for traveling with kids? Please drop me a line here, on Facebook or Twitter. I would love to hear from you. Did I mention that I am flying on Thursday? Yep, I'm going to New York for the Blogher Conference. I will be posting from the City that Never Sleeps (my kind of place) on Friday. Wish me luck! Over and out…




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