Coping With Infertility on Mother's Day

Dealing with the disappointment of not getting pregnant is hard all the time - but it can be devastating to be coping with infertility on Mother’s Day! Here are five ways to deal with sadness because you can’t get pregnant....

Before the tips, here’s a quick quip:

“Remember sadness is always temporary,” said Chuck T. Falcon. “This, too, shall pass.”

Infertility may or may not pass - but your feelings of sadness or depression will. Different things work for different people, and I welcome your suggestions!

Here are tips for coping with depression on Mother's Day:

1. Acknowledge and share your feelings.
“Recent findings show that when we are able to identify and label how we are feeling, we activate other parts of the brain with very healthy and positive effects,” says Dr George Pratt, Ph. D., of Scripps Memorial Hospital in La Jolla. “Science shows us that if you label your feelings and, ideally, express them to someone else, both your mood and your immune system benefit.”

2. Choose how you’ll spend the day. Give yourself permission to say no if you can’t handle a big family dinner with all your sisters, brothers, their kids, and the extended relatives. I’m not a fan of wallowing in sadness, but I think if we’re coping with infertility on Mother’s Day, we need to prioritize who we want to be around and how we spend our time.

3. Avoid destructive habits. I’m coping with infertility on Mother’s Day, and I can see myself sinking into the greasy fast food, potato chips, and chocolate chip cookies! I’ve got lots of unhealthy ways to deal with stress, anxiety, and sadness - but I feel fabulous when I don’t succumb to my cravings and bad habits. To avoid destructive habits, tell your partner, best friend, or family member that you’re struggling. Ask him/her to help you overcome your compulsion and stay healthy.

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