Positive Reinforcement For Kids

Over the years we'd been asked about our "bead earning chart" a few times by some of our fellow parents. We're not judging your techniques or suggesting you try our way because it's the ONLY way. It's just one that has worked in our situation and we have heard many times how it seems like a great idea.  Today we're going to share how it came to be and why we think it's so great. When we started potty training Pie, it became obvious that she had a currency. Back then it was stickers, my goodness did she love stickers, mini marshmallows, and mini m&m's....more

Surviving my Worst Mommying Weekend Ever

My daughter, Honeybun, has an unusually hard life for a five year old who has pretty much everything she could ever dream of.  She also has a really hard time listening, following directions and doing the right thing.  Her poor decision making often gets her a stern talking to or consequence of some kind which lately has resulted in her uttering her current phrase of choice: “This is the worst day ever.”...more

Are Men More Controlling?

I’m not sure. Are you? Women have long been unfairly labeled as bitches when demonstrating firm leadership skills while men are described as strong. This often relates directly to control. I can cite numerous times in the workplace where both men and women have gotten so controlling, so out of hand, that they undermine the morale of their team and the success of the very project their managing. You can too, right?...more

5 Things Kids Do Too Long

I cannot be the only one...who has suffered through one day too many of their child's whining and began to wonder, how long is this whining phase going to last? Some of the things my six year old does seem to never change, perpetuating for what feels like forever.  With this in mind, I decided to list the 5 changes Sonny Boy has been reluctant to make, and, in the name optimism, the changes that happened so fast, I missed them while they were happening.  I am sure you will be able to relate, so here we go: ...more

Sink to a New Low

I cannot be the only one...whose child's behavior, or lack thereof, has an uncanny ability to make you lower yourself to a level of response that you are ashamed of later (or in my case, immediately).  A child can bring out your childlike happy go-lucky side or a petty not-so-nice side that has been hibernating within your psyche since junior high school. ...more

The Reunion

Cross-post from dousingcomets.wordpress.com 9/13/2012:We often take for granted how much media and culture affect us as individuals, how T.V. and commercials really do seep into our brains without a second thought.  How the individuals that make decisions about programming, in a way, have us by the nads. ...more

Let's learn something: Can't yell, can't bribe...what can you do?

By now, most of us have seen the study from the Journal of Child Psychology indicating that yelling at children is just as harmful as spanking. So let's review what parents can't do to discipline their children:...more

Do You Use Santa As a Threat?

Christmas is such a magical time of year for children young and old alike. But the most magical piece for little ones isSanta. So why do adults insist on using him as a threatening figure?Sound familiar?...more

Behavior

Joh16:5-11  The past few days I have been dealing with a number of mom's who kids are missing.  It is difficult, sad.  I received an email from a colleague damning me--calling me "narcistic", "peter pan", and a "lost boy."  But all I know is what Will Tuttle put into words:Our behavior invariably reflects our understanding, and yet our behavior also determines what level of understanding we are able to attain. ...more