Parenting with Love, Consistency, and Expectations - Not Manipulation, Bargaining or Fear

So, the other night at bedtime, I totally biffed it and got caught up in the world of manipulation and calling bluffs.It was bedtime and little girl, newly transitioned from our bed to brother's room, still needed me in the room to fall asleep.  Little boy gets a bit distracted by his sister on occasion who plays stand up and flop down games and blows kisses and other things siblings do at bedtime....more

The adolescent IQ fluctuates with changes in the brain

See? You're not crazy, your teen is! Although these impulsive and risky behaviors are scary to us as parents, at least now we can understand where they're coming from and that they'll likely go away.(The risky behaviors, not the kids!)But it's probably only temporary since the structure of the brain is constantly changing during adolescence. 1. The prefrontal cortex, which helps inhibit risky behavior, doesn't get fully developed until age 25.2. The connections between the prefrontal cortex and other areas are still developing...more

Advice For a Sleep Deprived Mom...

The Boy is a wonderful little treasure.  He is…. I am continually repeating this in my head this morning.Yes, he is a gift.  Of course, I would prefer this gift not to want to be given at night while I am sleeping....more

What do people see?

What do people see when they see me walking with (specifically) Rachel and Simon?  Do they see a mom with 2 kids?  If we are having an "A-moment", do they think how could I allow my children to become such spoiled brats?  Or do they actually see the autism?  Can someone who has never seen me or my children before recognize the struggle that I must mentally prepare for every time we leave the house?  I always feel I have to explain myself or their behavior away, even when things aren't so bad.  I feel I have to prepare everyone for the imminent breakdown that is...more


FOR THE THINKING PENIS IN THE AGE OF TECHNOLOGYby Tracey Jackson   So we have another one.  Just when I was going to write about my iPhone obsession we are literally faced with Weinergate. One more politician who lets his member do the thinking for him bites the dust....more

My Kid Turned 11...and Into An Alien

I guess I have gotten used to most of the boy's behavior over time (this is the recently-turned-11-year-old).  But it seems like in the last two weeks, his defiance has become markedly clear.  It's like he turned 11 and decided it was time to amp it up a bit....or something like that.  I find myself arguing with him over simple things:  taking out the trash, emptying the dishwasher, cleaning his room, putting his clean laundry away.  I tell him to do something, he gives me crap; I tell him again, he defiantly looks at me like "I'm not gonna do it."  I t...more

Mine too! I have 2 boys (13 & 15 this month), and have decided that they are no less hormonal ...more

Early Intervention and Best Practices for Autism Awareness

I want to tell you a secret about Autism Awareness Month. I'm telling you because you have a stake in the autism community -- whether you touch one or many lives, you can change them, you are powerful. And, like me, you care. You want to make a difference -- for yourself, for your child, for someone you love, for someone who depends on you. And you can make a difference, you will, if you keep this cornerstone of Autism Awareness in mind at all times. Ready? Here it is: Behavior is communication. That's it. That's all. That's everything. ...more

"It can help describe your child, but it doesn't define your child." This spoke to me. I don't ...more

ADHD? Autism? Tantrums? There's an app for that!

If you child has ADHD, autism or even just plain tantrums, you've now got help on your iPhone. Yep, if you need to transform into your own supernanny, there's an app for that.Billing itself as a tool to teach parents and caregivers when to intervene, "Behavior Breakthroughs(tm)" uses game-based technology to train parents and caregivers to deal with disruptive behavior. There's only Level 1 right now, but apparently more extensive programs are scheduled to be released later this year....more

I just read your blog, and I am excited to share a new organization that I just started, ...more

6 Tips for Friendlier Skies

By Kristin Fast, Lifestyle Editor and In-House Wit-Cracker There was a time when traveling on an airplane was the height of sophistication… ...more

Tantrums, Troubles, and Treasures (Changing Lyrics)

Today's blog deals with a behavior problem that occured in my home.  I go over my thought process, my action, the results, and when I figured out what I did worked.  I hope you enjoy!!! Clayton Thomas Find me on Twitter: @claylauren2001...more