No-Drama Discipline {Book Review}

Challenge accepted!

Although I am feeling slightly daunted by writing on this site and cross-promoting my little, old blog on such a huge platform with such awe-inspiring company, I am trying to develop a whole new attitude of "F---IT" in my life and this is giving me a good place to start.I'm pleased to find that NaBloPoMo exists. Here are my thoughts on that delightful serendipity on my blog, Adventures in Single Mommyhood....more
Thank you, JoAnne! I am excited to be here and in good company :)more

How to Follow Through with Consequences

According to Sherrie Campbell, PhD,  our children need rules that are consistent.  "Rules give them guidelines and boundaries to help them define who they are, good and bad", she states.  And I couldn't agree more.  Can you imagine going to work and having your boss change the rules every day?  That would be maddening!...more
These are great points!  Thank you!  I have two tweens and its a constant battle to get them to ...more

Discipline vs Abuse

There has been a lot of talk recently about child abuse and child discipline in light of a certain football player who beat his child.  And this is a topic I just couldn't stay quiet about.  First off, let me reiterate the facts first.  What Peterson did to not one, but two of his sons, was beat them.  That is not discipline.  That is not correcting their behavior.  When you break the skin on your child, that is abuse and should be treated as such. ...more
GREAT Article.  I couldn't agree more.  Children have been considered "property" for far too long.more

Parenting Book Fail: Ridiculous Parent/Child Dialogues

There are a lot of things that irk me about the parenting book world, but nothing quite ticks me off like the inane, complicated, Danny-Tanner-esque conversations all these multitudes of parents are apparently having with their children....more
Personally, when I start speaking in the "book-speak" (and God knows I've tried!) my kids' eyes ...more

Why Spanking Isn’t Necessary (And What to Do Instead)

 Rarely in any parenting topic do I absolutely believe something to be right or wrong, even if I don’t follow its tenets. From time-outs, to bed-sharing to helicopter parenting—these are all parenting methods that, while I don’t always follow, acknowledge and respect their functions for each family. Do what works, I would say, just as I would do what works for my family.Spanking, however, is different. I actually believe spanking to be wrong....more

Why We Stopped Using Time Outs

I had started moving away from using punishments some time ago, for a combination of pragmatic and emotional reasons. Parenting-wise, 2013 was a difficult year for me, filled with intense sleep deprivation and a lot of mistakes (the two not being unrelated, obviously). It dawned on me slowly that time outs were not working to curb Miles’ aggressive behavior toward Julius, AND they were giving me intensely uncomfortable feelings, but I was really at a loss for what else to do. Still, I took one step in the direction of eliminating punishment: I quit using time outs. ...more
I do agree about teaching our children our values, but I don't think that punishment is ...more

Dealing with a Four Year Old Boy.....AGAIN

I walk in from the garage after throwing away some garbage and I’m exhausted. It’s been one of those days and I can’t seem to get caught up between raising children, cleaning, laundry, and figuring out what the heck we’re going to eat for dinner. (Raising kids would be so much more fun if I didn’t have to feed them!)...more

Don't Let This Happen to You: A Son's Ultimate Betrayal

Today I’d like to tell you a little story. It’s a sad story, really. A tragedy in the Greek tradition you might say. A story about hope and love and dedication and generosity that ends in heartbreak and misery. A story about a happy life that was all smashed to pieces by one double-crossing, backstabbing, heartless, little 10-year-old boy. One day this little boy was given a school assignment. An English assignment to write about the “characters” in his own life. He was furnished with a set of questions to help prompt his thoughts on these real-life characters....more
So, my kid is only 18 months, lucky for him (and my husband and I), he cannot speak or read ...more

The shrieking shrew sends her love

Valentine’s Day seems to have gotten a lot more complicated since having kids.Tonight, at approximately 6:33 p.m., I was at my neighbourhood drugstore - along with 86 other last-minute Valentine shoppers – perusing the boxes of kids’ cards (you know, the kind you buy in a pack of 30). I was picking up some little cards for the boys in my six-year-old daughter’s class, because the two packages that I’d bought from Wal-Mart earlier in the day were deemed “too girly.”...more