A Widowed Mom Reviews "The Boys Are Back"

Hollywood loves the widower as romantic lead. Clive Owen’s character in the Boys are Back promises a trifecta cliché: he cared for his wife when she had cancer, he parents their small child, and he has no idea how to do laundry.I can see the screenwriters salivating: enter the beautiful divorcee with a kid the same age, cue music, and as the sun sets we know closure’s been reached. And no one really expects a movie to hit it on the head when discussing an issue like losing a partner and raising a child amid the stress and numbness of grief. ...more


There can be few things so embarrassing or troubling in a parent's life as being called into the Principal's office. If you thought it was bad as a kid, it's nothing like being the so-called adult in the relationship and still not getting it right....more

Operation Terrible Twos

Out of my intrepid fear of cliches, I may have been unclear with Tuesday's post. Even though we survived the Spawnocalypse--two and a half years of transition from daydreaming newlyweds to sometimes-haggard parents of back-to-back babies--this journey and blog are far from over....more

To spank or not to spank? Study says early spankings make for aggressive toddlers

A new study of 2,500 white, Mexican American and black children from low-income families suggests that early spankings make for aggressive toddlers. According to the study, which is published in the journal Child Development, "Children who are spanked as 1-year-olds are more likely to behave aggressively and perform worse on cognitive tests as toddlers than children who are spared the punishment, new research shows." ...more

I have a huge problem with the quoted study "2500 low income 1 yr olds". First, why does a 1 yr ...more

Do you pay for grades?

I remember once in my youth, I must have been about 11 or so, sitting on a schoolbus listening to two boys talking in the seat in front of me.  One of them was showing off a wad of cash. "Thirty-three dollars, man," he said proudly.  "It's 'cause of the 2 A's and the 2 B's that I got.  My parents are so excited." I couldn't contain myself. "Your parents give you money for your grades?" I asked, interrupting them. ...more

So first, I feel not-so-smart for taking five mintues to figure two A's and two B's is ...more

Active Supervision, the Unsung Hero

Ask 100 parents if they supervise their kids, and I bet every last one will say they do.However, as someone who works in public health and child safety, my lie detector would start beeping immediately. I know better. ...more

Let him cry

I really, REALLY, hate it when my husband is right. This is probably mostly due to the fact that I don't like to admit when I'm wrong. Me, wrong? Psh. Sadly, it turns out that I can't be right all of the time and, though I often like to boast of my mad intuition and superspectacular parenting skills to those who feel the need to offer me free advice, even I can fall prey to the beguiling of my precious. ...more

I'm with ya!  We let our son cry it out after eight months of waking up between 2-5 times a ...more

Just the Tip Tuesday...A Day Late

I know my Tip Tuesday is late, but I have a great excuse. Actually, I don't have an excuse at all. I just slacked off yesterday. My brain is a little fried with the end of summer break in sight. My tip comes from something I tried this morning before my brain exploded. <!--break--> ...more

The dealings with general uncleanliness

Lord knows I try, really I do. I threaten, I scream, I plead, I beg, I demand, I reason, I order, I compromise, I donate. Our house is being overrun buy children's playthings. ...more