How to Follow Through with Consequences

According to Sherrie Campbell, PhD,  our children need rules that are consistent.  "Rules give them guidelines and boundaries to help them define who they are, good and bad", she states.  And I couldn't agree more.  Can you imagine going to work and having your boss change the rules every day?  That would be maddening!...more
These are great points!  Thank you!  I have two tweens and its a constant battle to get them to ...more

Parenting Book Fail: Ridiculous Parent/Child Dialogues

There are a lot of things that irk me about the parenting book world, but nothing quite ticks me off like the inane, complicated, Danny-Tanner-esque conversations all these multitudes of parents are apparently having with their children....more
Personally, when I start speaking in the "book-speak" (and God knows I've tried!) my kids' eyes ...more

Why Spanking Isn’t Necessary (And What to Do Instead)

 Rarely in any parenting topic do I absolutely believe something to be right or wrong, even if I don’t follow its tenets. From time-outs, to bed-sharing to helicopter parenting—these are all parenting methods that, while I don’t always follow, acknowledge and respect their functions for each family. Do what works, I would say, just as I would do what works for my family.Spanking, however, is different. I actually believe spanking to be wrong....more

Why We Stopped Using Time Outs

I had started moving away from using punishments some time ago, for a combination of pragmatic and emotional reasons. Parenting-wise, 2013 was a difficult year for me, filled with intense sleep deprivation and a lot of mistakes (the two not being unrelated, obviously). It dawned on me slowly that time outs were not working to curb Miles’ aggressive behavior toward Julius, AND they were giving me intensely uncomfortable feelings, but I was really at a loss for what else to do. Still, I took one step in the direction of eliminating punishment: I quit using time outs. ...more
I do agree about teaching our children our values, but I don't think that punishment is ...more

Dealing with a Four Year Old Boy.....AGAIN

I walk in from the garage after throwing away some garbage and I’m exhausted. It’s been one of those days and I can’t seem to get caught up between raising children, cleaning, laundry, and figuring out what the heck we’re going to eat for dinner. (Raising kids would be so much more fun if I didn’t have to feed them!)...more

Don't Let This Happen to You: A Son's Ultimate Betrayal

Today I’d like to tell you a little story. It’s a sad story, really. A tragedy in the Greek tradition you might say. A story about hope and love and dedication and generosity that ends in heartbreak and misery. A story about a happy life that was all smashed to pieces by one double-crossing, backstabbing, heartless, little 10-year-old boy. One day this little boy was given a school assignment. An English assignment to write about the “characters” in his own life. He was furnished with a set of questions to help prompt his thoughts on these real-life characters....more
So, my kid is only 18 months, lucky for him (and my husband and I), he cannot speak or read ...more

The shrieking shrew sends her love

Valentine’s Day seems to have gotten a lot more complicated since having kids.Tonight, at approximately 6:33 p.m., I was at my neighbourhood drugstore - along with 86 other last-minute Valentine shoppers – perusing the boxes of kids’ cards (you know, the kind you buy in a pack of 30). I was picking up some little cards for the boys in my six-year-old daughter’s class, because the two packages that I’d bought from Wal-Mart earlier in the day were deemed “too girly.”...more

Are you a Mean Mom

The term "Mean Mom" has been floating around for awhile.  I always thought it meant grown up version of "Mean Girls", all that bitchy stuff.  Well, now it seems to reflect mothers who discipline.Ugh ... since when did discipline get mixed up with being mean?  It's mean NOT to discipline your children....more

Parents, why Discipline is so Important .. and why you should be the Fun Parent

Check out my most recent appearance on Global TV News.  We're discussing how to mix discipline with fun. Bunnage, Parenting Coach ...more