Are you a Mean Mom

The term "Mean Mom" has been floating around for awhile.  I always thought it meant grown up version of "Mean Girls", all that bitchy stuff.  Well, now it seems to reflect mothers who discipline.Ugh ... since when did discipline get mixed up with being mean?  It's mean NOT to discipline your children....more

Parents, why Discipline is so Important .. and why you should be the Fun Parent

Check out my most recent appearance on Global TV News.  We're discussing how to mix discipline with fun. Bunnage, Parenting Coach ...more

Discipline & Fun

Discipline has gotten a bad rap over the past 30+ years unfortunately.  I think partly because we think of discipline in terms of hitting, yelling, etc.  Discipline to me is just about accountability.  Once children understand they are accountable for their actions, they just change....more

Let's learn something: Can't yell, can't bribe...what can you do?

By now, most of us have seen the study from the Journal of Child Psychology indicating that yelling at children is just as harmful as spanking. So let's review what parents can't do to discipline their children:...more

Do You Use Santa As a Threat?

Christmas is such a magical time of year for children young and old alike. But the most magical piece for little ones isSanta. So why do adults insist on using him as a threatening figure?Sound familiar?...more

Parenting: A job that gets easier or harder?

 Most things in life  gets easier as we do them longer but not parenting. In fact, I’m becoming more  and more convinced that the year of infancy when they cry, never sleep through  the night, and need you to do everythingfor them is the easiest year. I even recall  older parents telling me to enjoy that year because it just gets harder. Lucky  for me my girls were both amazing night sleepers....more
That's what teenagers are for, to make it easy for parents to let go. In fact, depending on the ...more


Helping Kids Listen: The Non-Compliant Child

I get a lot of questions from parents when I teach my parenting classes. I loved this question because it highlights how truly different kids are:I have 4 children. I am able to use the more effective communication skills I have learned in your classes however I find that it will work for some kids but not the others. For example, I will say, “When the all the crayons, markers and paper are put back in the arts and crafts drawer then we will have our snack.” 3 children will clean up and one will start throwing around the crayons. What do I do then?...more

Parent vs Friend: Can You Be Both?   ...more