So, the other night at bedtime, I totally biffed it and got caught up in the world of manipulation and calling bluffs.It was bedtime and little girl, newly transitioned from our bed to brother's room, still needed me in the room to fall asleep. Little boy gets a bit distracted by his sister on occasion who plays stand up and flop down games and blows kisses and other things siblings do at bedtime....more
Christmas is just over a week away and for my family that means there’s been a lot of talk about the Naughty and the Nice lists. Like generations of mothers before I have told my five-year old son that Mr. C keeps two lists: one is of those who have behaved well this year and the other is those who behaved badly, and depending on contributing factors like effort at school, general kindness towards others and a consistent bedtime, every person on earth’s name will end up on either one of these roll calls....more
This is a partial list of all the things I fought about with my 2.5 year old daughter today: Her dress, her socks, her shoes, cutting her hair, brushing her hair, brushing her teeth, her breakfast, her lunch, her dinner, taking a picture, taking her brother's toys, taking a bath, putting on her diaper, going to bed.Here is a complete list of all the things I fought about with my 4 month old son today: Morning nap, afternoon nap, evening nap, bedtime, taking a bottle....more
It's that time again--when I come to you, my readers for help. Help!
Lately, Sawyer has been having some trouble dealing with his emotions. He's three. This is par for the course. But this is my first three-year-old and I am struggling with the right way to handle some of his emotions. I'll give you some examples and then you can (hopefully?) offer some thoughts.
When things happen that are upsetting to him, he runs to his room (or behind a couch or chair) and cries. This is different (and yet similar?) to throwing the tantrums that kids start throwing when they're two....more
My blogging experience over the past two years has taught me some valuable lessons and given me great insight.It can be (and for the serious blogger/writer, should be) considered a job. Accordingly, I need to approach it as such. That means I keep at it, even when I want to call in sick or take a personal day. I show up, I put in a good amount of time and effort. And when the situation calls for it, I go above and beyond the norm. Maybe this means finding a hot topic to discuss, or just a new writing style to try out....more
My nearly 6-year-old son is something of a perfectionist and almost totally a rule follower. At my first-ever-elementary school parent-teacher conference, my heart burst with pride when I heard what an extremely respectful and sweet boy I was raising. Score: He says, “Yes, m’am,” when I’m not around. He hates to disappoint grown ups. He’s a pleaser. He colors in the lines (as best he can) and he wants to get it right....more
You know how the most obvious rule for getting a well-behaved toddler is to say something and then follow through with it? Apparently it's more difficult than I previously thought, since I had assumed I was doing it, and I was not.I was following an old model. A model for babies. Not for toddlers. I was, in essence, teaching my kids to tantrum. Way to go, me. Aces.It hit me last week. My kids were yet again crying and screaming about something ridiculous in public. We were at family art, and Natalina wanted to use glue, but this week's project didn't involve glue....more
I have mentioned before that we've had a rough go lately with the four year old. I love him to pieces, but that boy knows how to test the limits. And push my buttons. I am pretty structured in our routine and try to be consistent - in schedules and sleep and discipline....more