Permissive Parents: Beat your Brats

Okay, so maybe LZ Granderson said "Curb your Brats" in the title, but if you read even a bit of his obviously enhanced-for-web-traffic piece, you'll see that I'm not so far off.Granderson says he has an issue with parents unable or unwilling to discipline their children. If this were really the case, I'd back him up 100 percent. But that's not what I got from his unsubstatiated, anecdotal diatribe....more

How to Handle Tantrums

Like with just about anything, there are good ways to deal with tantrums, and bad ways to deal with tantrums. I have some effective ways of not only dealing with tantrums in the moment, but lessening their frequency and intensity, if not stopping them altogether.There's a bit of short term pain for long term gain with this one so be prepared. It's well worth it as if you follow my advice you could have a tantrum-free family. That means less chaos, less stress, and more manners....more

Discipline and the 2 Year Old!

 Milo Jekyll ...more

i never say the word "no"

Today while we were out running errands, my son was asking about doing something or other and as I answered him I realized I never actually say the word "no." It's just instinctive now, I don't even think about it. The easiest way to set off an oppositional child is to directly challenge them. Saying "no" does just that. Through necessity, I have found a way to answer "yes" to just about everything. Indirectly, that is. An example of this is while checking out at a big box store today, they had all sorts of candy and chocolate right by the register. My son asked if he could have one....more

Teaching Children the Fine Line Between Honesty and Manners

Momma, he is so large, she says to me, to herself, to him, to no one and all of us at the same time, but not nearly as large as the shame-hole I just fell face-first into, kid, I whisper silently, a prayer for either forgiveness or forgetfulness, though I am not sure which would have been preferable....more

As a plus sized person,when I was at a heavier weight, I know and have known what the gentleman ...more

Acquaintances and Ignorance

Interesting conversation today with an acquaintance. Just to clarify, an acquaintance, not a friend. Anyway, she was speaking about a mother she knows whose son has mental illness. She was chatting away judgmentally about how the son can get very violent due to this illness and sometimes the mother has locked herself in the bathroom in fear. This acquaintance was going on and on about how it must be a discipline problem and how she would never put up with that, she would put him into some sort of institutional care....more

How to Lay Down the Law: Tips for Making House Rules

Sticking To It While I'm a list-maker, I tend to make too many lists, revise lists and sometimes scrap the whole list. I'm not at all a person who sticks to a routine or schedule. Instead, I flit and float from this to that. These are more reasons {in addition to the reasons in yesterday's post} why I have been hesitant about making House Laws for our family; I'm worried that I won't think to enforce them and I, myself, won't follow them. ...more

Laying Down the Law: House Rules

Follower of the Law In general, I follow laws....more

Saying NO From the:  "Disturbing but this is apparently life in 2011" file, an 8-year-old kid in Colorado with a history of anger management issues was pepper-sprayed by police at his school this week.  His mother is upset. Hmmm. ...more