Social Anxiety and the Pressure to Be Perfect

I believed as a teenager that if I were just pretty enough and smart enough and funny enough, that everyone would love me. I am an optimist and since it was clear that everyone did not love me, it followed that I must be challenged in one of the above referenced areas. Therefore I should just keep trying to be prettier, smarter and funnier for social bliss to ultimately come my way. ...more

I frankly did not understand this was a condition at all until I did some research and ...more

BlogHer ’09 Speakers in the News: Lenore Skenazy

Lenore Skenazy is serious about allowing her children to grow, learn and experience the world from her “free-range” approach to parenting – and it’s one of the reasons we’re so excited she’s speaking at BlogHer ’09 about online safety for kids. ...more

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vita means life vita means business

Loving Vita clients [Vita's Clients] -  vitalingus - @ 08:25:am   ...more

Sometimes a small rebellion is enough.

You know that feeling you get when someone cancels a plan and all of a sudden you have this unexpected clump of free time?  It’s exciting.  It’s a gift.  You were looking forward to the thing, but once it’s cancelled through no fault of yours,  you’re now looking forward  to not going. It’s  a slippery slope from there to canceling something you planned for no reason except you don’t feel like it anymore.  At first it felt like a not-nice thing to do, but I have my rules:   1) I consider whether anyone else be hurt by my actions. ...more

Mary and Max Oscar Winner Adam Elliot's new feature film

Tuesday, Apr 07 2009 Mary and Max's journey [Vita's Arts & Culture] -  vitalingus - @ 02:11:pm Adam Elliot and his Producer Melanie Coombs ...more

The Worry Buffet, and Happy Cavatappi Pasta with Low-Fat Clam Sauce

"No, baby, you can't get swine flu from bacon or pulled pork sandwiches." - the only wise thing I have said all week. ...more

The Radical Act of Knitting: Mothers Warm Hearts World-Wide

Calling all knitters for peace!  Can a cozy inspire positive change?  Can it do more than warm our bodies but also warm our hearts?  Maybe not one cozy but perhaps 4,000 can.  Individuals and groups all over the world in places like; Turkey, the United States, South Africa, Chile, France, and even people in my home town are knitting their way towards a 150' quilt to drape across the fence in front of the White House that promotes peace during CODEPINK's historic Mother's Day event and vigil. ...more

I remember knitters gathering squares for quilts after natural disasters and the "wombs on ...more

California woman claims her father was the Zodiac Killer

Her name is Deborah Perez and she said: My father was the Zodiac Killer. Her father was Guy Ward Hendrickson who died in 1983 of cancer. He was a carpenter and father of 6 children. ...more

Swine Flu Conspiracy???

Yesterday my daughter informs me (are you ready for this "my boyfriend's sister's best friend's hairstylist's cousin" scenario???) that a friend of hers who happens to be in the military police told her that the swine flu that is going around was created from some missing vials of viruses originating from some super-secret virus test lab somewhere in the United States. In her defense, she probably told me where the super-secret lab was...She also told me that the reason Gov. ...more