That Can HAPPEN?

Or, the ways my doula scared the shit out of me.   Ok, that's an exaggeration.  She didn't scare me.  But there were several things that I didn't even know should be considerations  in the birthing process that made me go, "WHAT? That can HAPPEN?"  And, I warn you now, not everything here is pretty.  And, I'm not very technical here, so if you want more specific information, ask your doctor.  Or Google it.  Because everything on the Internet is correct....more

Thanks for letting me know that about the catheter!  You and few other people have said ...more

Hair Color While Pregnant - Wouldja, Couldja, Didja?

I wanna get my hur did. I haven't had my hair cut, styled, and/or colored since BEFORE I got pregnant with Athena. We're talking over 3 years ago. I haven't been able to put my finger on what has been bothering me about my looks latetly, and I think this is it. My.Hair.Is.GROSS. I want a complete overhaul. I can't do anything medically about my now thin hair until after Zofia comes out, so I thought a good cut and color may help for the time being. So what's the view on coloring your hair when pregnant? Wouldja? Couldja? ...more

Go Forth, but Don't Multiply

As Told to Mona by Mike, Her Husband I’d like to tell you I’m sharing this story in the hopes that one other guy will read it and feel more fully informed or that the subject will be somehow demystified. But the truth is, I need to write about it to process it myself. The tadpole party is over! I had a vasectomy today. ...more

This post is wonderful.  All men considering vasectomy should read!


My pregnancy - 10 things I needed to survive!

Looking back, there are some things I would NEVER have got through pregnancy without. Here are my recommendations for what were really essential during my pregnancy....more

Ow, Today Hurts "We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." -E.M. Forster...more

What You Need to Know About Postpartum Depression

There is a lot of stuff to think about when you're having a baby. Will I have a boy or a girl?  Do we have enough onesies?  Is that how the crib is supposed to be set up?  Do I really need a Diaper Genie? There's even more stuff to think about once you've had the baby. How am I going to get this child to sleep through the night? Why can't I get her to burp? Is he latching on correctly? What on earth is that rash?! ...more

Thanks for this great article! I wish I'd been more aware of all of these online resources ...more

I've Been Working on the Nur-sery! (Part 1)

And so it is official - the nursery decorating is in progress!  The plan is this: my super handy dad is going to install white wainscoting around the lower half of the walls.  The upper half will be stripes that are 6" pale pink and 12" a nice, calming green.  I know, nothing that hasn't been done before, but I'm excited.  ...more

Five Things To Do Before You Get Pregnant


Your Birth Story, Part 2

The mucus plug, that bloody knob of indeterminate viscosity but certain significance, stared up at me from the toilet bowl. It’s been almost exactly six years and I still wish I’d made a movie of me bending down to take a closer look, straightening up with 10 months’ worth of stiffness, hands on my hard-to-see knees, and muttering, Holy shit. It seemed like a cinematic moment at the time. ...more

Your Birth Story, Part 1

Your father and I were making a point of ignoring the Super Bowl, watching five back-to-back episodes of Queer Eye for the Straight Guy, and then a few Larry Sanders shows, the first ones I’d seen, long overdue. You were three days “late.” You’d been due on Friday, but I wanted to be macho so I drove downtown to a Happy Hour with grad school friends at the Lion’s Nest. I didn’t expect to be back to work on Monday; the doctor would insist on inducing that day if you didn’t show up....more