The Critical Thing Your Doctor Needs To Know – & Probably Doesn’t

From time to time, pain grips Anna’s belly so severely that she has to excuse herself, hide in the bathroom, double over on the toilet, and dab herself with lavender oil to try to keep from puking. The first time it happened, she called her best friend, who took her to the emergency room, where they poked, prodded, scanned, and examined Anna, only to dose her up with morphine, shrug their shoulders, and send her home with Vicodin and a referral to a gastroenterologist.

But then it happened a few days later. So Anna made an appointment with the gastroenterologist, who sticks a scope up Anna’s butt and slaps her with the label of irritable bowel syndrome. Anna tries a few medications, as well as some dietary changes, but the pain actually gets worse. When she tells this to her gastroenterologist, the doctor refers her to a gynecologist, who performs laparascopic surgery on her and diagnoses her with endometriosis. The gynecologist recommends a drug called Lupron, which puts 32 year old Anna into temporary menopause, but when Anna tries the Lupron, her hot flashes, insomnia, vaginal dryness, and night sweats are so severe, she decides the belly pain is less traumatic than the menopausal symptoms, so she stops the Lupron.

Procedures… And More Procedures

Because the first dose of Lupron hadn’t helped her symptoms, her gynecologist suggests she visit a urologist, so Anna complies. The urologist performs yet another procedure, putting a camera into Anna’s bladder. The urologist detects some worrisome abnormalities and diagnoses her with interstitial cystitis. More drugs are prescribed, as more dietary adjustments are made.

The next week, Anna is doubled over on the toilet, again, soaking herself in lavender oil at least twice a day.

Yet nobody ever talks to her about the fact that her pain only appears when her Devil Wears Prada boss storms down the hall with one of those, “How dare you fail me like this – again?” grimaces on her face.

The Real Diagnosis

None of Anna’s doctors suggest that perhaps Anna’s dysfunctional relationship with her boss is manifesting as physical symptoms because of chronic repetitive stress responses in the body. As I describe in detail in my new book Mind Over Medicine: Scientific Proof That You Can Heal Yourself, the body is brilliantly equipped with natural self-repair mechanisms that reduce inflammation, alleviate pain, fix broken proteins, kill the stray cancer cells we make every day, fight infection, and prevent major disease. But those natural self-repair mechanisms only work when the body is not flooded with stress hormones like cortisol and epinephrine.

What Anna’s doctors missed in their diagnostic and treatment process lies at the crux of her health condition. Perhaps, rather than drugs or surgery or even diet changes, what Anna needs is a new job – or at least a new boss! – so her mind can relax, her stress responses can flip off, her relaxation responses can turn on, and her body’s natural self-repair mechanisms can once again activate so Anna’s body can heal.

A Radical New Intake Form

When I was working in Marin County, where all of my patients were health enthusiasts who ate vegan diets, drank their green juice, worked out with personal trainers, and took 20 supplements a day, I was surprised at how sick many of these patients were. It didn’t make sense. Surely, people engaging in such rigorously healthy behaviors should be the epitome of health! Yet, they were less healthy than 98 year old Stamatis Moraitis (whose story I wrote about here)!

So in my patient intake form, I started asking my patients questions most doctors don’t ask.

The Million Dollar Questions Questions

•             Is anything keeping you from being the most authentic, vital you?

•             Are you in a romantic relationship? If so, are you happy? If not, do you wish you were?

•             Are you fulfilled at work? Do you feel like you’re in touch with your life purpose? Do you enjoy the people you work with?

•             Do you express yourself creatively?

•             Do you feel financially healthy or is money a stressor in your life?

•             Do you feel connected to a Divine source?


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