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 <description>&lt;blockquote&gt;&lt;p&gt;Education is the key of everything.&quot;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;/blockquote&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Mark - &lt;a href=&quot;http://www.pro-directory.net&quot;&gt;Directory &lt;/a&gt;&lt;a href=&quot;http://www.promodirectory.net&quot;&gt;Network &lt;/a&gt;&lt;a href=&quot;http://www.qualitydirectory.net&quot;&gt;Services&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
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 <description>&lt;p&gt;I don&#039;t think that can be stressed enough. When you feel the urge to retaliate or namecall, take a breath, and take a step back from the computer. &lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;a href=&quot;http://www.fivedollarcamera.com/blog/&quot;&gt;Five Dollar Camera&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
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 <pubDate>Fri, 30 Mar 2007 17:44:34 -0500</pubDate>
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 <title>Thanks Laura ...</title>
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 <description>&lt;p&gt;Laura,&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Thanks for posting the link!&lt;/p&gt;
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 <pubDate>Fri, 30 Mar 2007 14:39:33 -0500</pubDate>
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 <title>thanks for the link love and that fabulous post!</title>
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 <description>&lt;p&gt;This is really interesting all the different perspectives.  If anything positive out of this, we&#039;re talking about it.&lt;/p&gt;
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 <pubDate>Fri, 30 Mar 2007 14:38:49 -0500</pubDate>
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 <description>&lt;p&gt;before you hit the publish button - ask yourself &quot;Would I say this if we were face-to-face?&lt;/p&gt;
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 <pubDate>Fri, 30 Mar 2007 14:35:20 -0500</pubDate>
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 <description>&lt;p&gt;&lt;a href=&quot;http://rarepattern.com/nodes/2007/03/cyberbullies-and-community-standards&quot;&gt;Cyberbullies and Community Standards&lt;/a&gt;. Coming off of a making a presentation at OSCMS at Yahoo! last week on Building Online Communities, where we touched on this topic in a general sense, I realize it&#039;s long past due time for this discussion. Thanks!&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;hr /&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;i&gt;Laura Scott&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;a href=&quot;http://www.pingv.com&quot;&gt;design&lt;/a&gt;, &lt;a href=&quot;http://scatteredsunshine.com&quot;&gt;snap&lt;/a&gt;, &lt;a href=&quot;http://www.rarepattern.com&quot;&gt;blog&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/i&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
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 <pubDate>Fri, 30 Mar 2007 13:04:32 -0500</pubDate>
 <dc:creator>Laura Scott</dc:creator>
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 <description>&lt;p&gt;And congrats to you and Elisa on the interviews.  I mentioned Cyberbullying and linked to you yesterday in this post called &lt;a href=&quot;http://jerseygoddess.blogspot.com/2007/03/have-you-ever-been-shamed-on-line.html&quot;&gt;&quot;Have You Been Shamed Online?&quot;&lt;/a&gt;  I&#039;ll update the to you with a link to this post instead.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&quot;Love is liquid.  &lt;i&gt;Brew&lt;/i&gt; and be drunkards!&quot; ~~&lt;a href=&quot;http://nexus.writingjunkie.net&quot;&gt;Nordette&lt;/a&gt;  And here&#039;s &lt;a href=&quot;http://jerseygoddess.blogspot.com/&quot;&gt;a link to the blog&lt;/a&gt;.&lt;/p&gt;
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 <pubDate>Fri, 30 Mar 2007 12:28:02 -0500</pubDate>
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 <description>&lt;p&gt;what is the big difference between the Choose Civility pledge above and the already existing &lt;a href=&quot;http://chookooloonks.typepad.com/kindblog/&quot;&gt;Kind Blog pledge? &lt;/a&gt; &lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Except perhaps a more masculine badge?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Debra&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;a href=&quot;http://astitchintime.blogspot.com&quot;&gt;A Stitch In Time&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;a href=&quot;http://debsdistractions.blogspot.com&quot;&gt;Deb&#039;s Daily Distractions&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
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 <pubDate>Fri, 30 Mar 2007 11:17:34 -0500</pubDate>
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 <description>&lt;p&gt;I will be adding the badge on my blog as soon as I finish this comment. One of the things that struck me on the video that the &lt;a href=&quot;http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=seOQyMvG99w&quot;&gt;Link Text&lt;/a&gt;AD Council created is an easy to remember guideline,&lt;br /&gt;
Don&#039;t say anything online that you wouldn&#039;t say to someone&#039;s face.&quot; That works for me.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt; elana&lt;br /&gt;
Blogher Contributing Editor,Business&amp;amp;Careers&lt;a href=&quot;http://funnybusiness.typepad.com/funnybusiness&quot;&gt;FunnyBusiness&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;p&gt;First off, I want to thank Andy Carvin for organizing this day and the &lt;a href=&quot;http://stopcyberbullying.ning.com/&quot;&gt;ning site&lt;/a&gt; and leading by example - showing us how to take an issue and integrate the use of new social media tools!&amp;nbsp; Also, hats off to Lisa, Jory, and Elisa (as well as to my fellow CE editors) for posting such brilliant thoughts about this topic.&amp;nbsp;  &lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Andy&#039;s &lt;a href=&quot;http://www.andycarvin.com/archives/2007/03/using_twitter_to_fight_cyberbullies.html&quot;&gt;post&lt;/a&gt; yesterday describes how he is experimenting incorporating the use of Twitter into this campaign.&amp;nbsp; &amp;nbsp;He hasn&#039;t neglected the traditional tools either - yesterday he and I as well as Elisa Camahort &lt;a href=&quot;http://www.andycarvin.com/archives/2007/03/on_air_with_the_bbc_today.html&quot;&gt;were interviewed on the BBC&lt;/a&gt; about this issue.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;This issue is so massive that it is going to take an ongoing effort from many different angles -- educatiing young people with help from teachers and parents as well as everyone who is using the Internet now - to model good behavior and continue to the dialogue around this.&amp;nbsp; &amp;nbsp;I also think that &lt;a href=&quot;http://beth.typepad.com/beths_blog/2007/03/stopcyberbullyi.html#comments&quot;&gt;those who make&lt;/a&gt; the tools need to have awareness of this too.&amp;nbsp; &lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;As I think about my own children getting to the age when they will use the web, I&#039;m trying not to get too depressed about what educators have &lt;a href=&quot;http://stopcyberbullying.ning.com/forum/topic/show?id=665344%3ATopic%3A304&quot;&gt;said&lt;/a&gt; about this growing problem of cyberbullies over at the Stop CyberBullying site.&amp;nbsp; Yet, I have only to click over to &lt;a href=&quot;http://coolcatteacher.blogspot.com/2007/03/b-stop-cyberbullying-bit-by-bit.html&quot;&gt;Vicky Davis and I&#039;m inspired&lt;/a&gt;.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Here&#039;s her advice for educators, students, and parents on how to stop Cyberbullying Today!:&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;li&gt;&lt;span&gt;JOIN the &lt;/span&gt;&lt;a href=&quot;http://stopcyberbullying.ning.com/&quot; title=&quot;Stop Cyberbullying network&quot;&gt;Stop Cyberbullying network&lt;/a&gt;to&lt;br /&gt;
create a central repository of information that is rated and reviewed&lt;br /&gt;
by educators and to discuss what works. View it like the front lines&lt;br /&gt;
establishing a form of communication. (If the network is blocked, I&#039;ve&lt;br /&gt;
got &lt;a href=&quot;http://coolcatteacher.blogspot.com/2007/03/go-join-stop-cyberbullying-network.html&quot; title=&quot;a template on my blog&quot;&gt;a template on my blog&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
that you can mail your IT person to ask for it to be unblocked.) After&lt;br /&gt;
joining, post hyperlinks or review and comment on the resources of&lt;br /&gt;
others, join the conversation.&lt;/li&gt;
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&lt;li&gt;&lt;span&gt;EDUCATE YOURSELF - &lt;/span&gt;Read how your school can &lt;a href=&quot;http://www.stopcyberbullying.org/take_action/take_a_stand_against_cyberbullying.html&quot; title=&quot;respond to&quot;&gt; respond to&lt;/a&gt; and &lt;a href=&quot;http://www.stopcyberbullying.org/prevention/index.html&quot; title=&quot;prevent it&quot;&gt;prevent it&lt;/a&gt; over at &lt;a href=&quot;http://www.stopcyberbullying.org/take_action/take_a_stand_against_cyberbullying.html&quot; title=&quot;Stop Cyberbullying.com&quot;&gt;Stop Cyberbullying.com&lt;/a&gt; &lt;span&gt;(and how to tell the difference between &lt;/span&gt;&lt;a href=&quot;http://www.stopcyberbullying.org/lawenforcement/telling_the_difference.html&quot; title=&quot;harrassment and cyberbullying&quot;&gt;harrassment and cyberbullying&lt;/a&gt; from a legal standpoint.)&amp;nbsp; &lt;a href=&quot;http://www.wiredsafety.org/educators.html&quot; title=&quot;Take some of the free lessons&quot;&gt;Take some of the free lessons&lt;/a&gt; at Wired Safety.&amp;nbsp; Listen to &lt;a href=&quot;http://www.speedofcreativity.org/2007/02/26/podcast133-ideas-for-addressing-cyberbullying/&quot; title=&quot;Wes Fryer&amp;#039;s podcast&quot;&gt;Wes Fryer&#039;s podcast&lt;/a&gt; (or &lt;a href=&quot;http://teachdigital.pbwiki.com/cyberbullying&quot; title=&quot;read his wiki&quot;&gt;read his wiki&lt;/a&gt; ) about Cyberbullying.&amp;nbsp; You can listen to the whole podcast, or if you are short on time,&lt;a href=&quot;http://in2.innertoob.com/toobs/coolcatteacher/d97299223e87cb93fd6ad83294d0b2.htm&quot; title=&quot;read the highlights that I have annotated&quot;&gt;read the highlights that I have annotated&lt;/a&gt; and listen to the clips you choose.&amp;nbsp; (I did this using Innertoob -- a great way to grade podcasts, by the way.)&lt;/li&gt;
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&lt;li&gt;&lt;span&gt;&lt;span&gt;SHARE -&lt;/span&gt;Plan to&lt;/span&gt; &lt;a href=&quot;http://stopcyberbullying.ning.com/video/video/show?id=665344%3AVideo%3A199&quot; title=&quot;show this video&quot;&gt;show this video&lt;/a&gt;&lt;span&gt; to your students&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
during the next several weeks and talk about the importance of telling&lt;br /&gt;
someone when they are being harassed online. (You can also see a &lt;a href=&quot;http://stopcyberbullying.ning.com/video&quot; title=&quot;wealth of other videos&quot;&gt;wealth of other videos&lt;/a&gt; collected at the Stop Cyberbullying Network)&lt;/li&gt;
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&lt;li&gt;&lt;span&gt;REPORT&lt;/span&gt; - Every little BIT&lt;br /&gt;
helps. When you see someone inappropriately attacking another blogger&lt;br /&gt;
either on comments on or a blog, say something! (Often we DON&amp;quot;T see it&lt;br /&gt;
because of comment moderation.) We often don&#039;t say things because we&lt;br /&gt;
are afraid. Afraid that some &amp;quot;nut case&amp;quot; is going to come after us.&lt;br /&gt;
However, if we agree that we will all band together and speak up. If we&lt;br /&gt;
are afraid to &amp;quot;stand up,&amp;quot; Wired Safety has a &lt;a href=&quot;http://www.wiredsafety.org/911/index.html&quot; title=&quot;Cyber 911 tipline&quot;&gt;Cyber 911 tipline&lt;/a&gt; that you can also use.&lt;/li&gt;
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&lt;li&gt;&lt;span&gt;SPEAK&lt;/span&gt; - &lt;a href=&quot;http://www.scottmcleod.net/cyberbullying/&quot; title=&quot;Use a badge from Scott McCloud&quot;&gt;Use a badge from Scott McLeod&lt;/a&gt; on your blog and hyperlink it to &lt;a href=&quot;http://stopcyberbullying.ning.com/&quot; title=&quot;http://stopcyberbulling.ning.com&quot;&gt;http://stopcyberbullying.ning.com&lt;/a&gt;, or just copy the link and image from the picture.&amp;nbsp; Post and share the facts from the experts and tag it &amp;lt;a&lt;br /&gt;href=&amp;quot;http://www.technorati.com/tag/stopcyberbullying&amp;quot;&lt;br /&gt;
rel=&amp;quot;tag&amp;quot; &amp;gt;stopcyberbullying&amp;lt;/a&amp;gt;. Speak up in your sphere of&lt;br /&gt;
influence: the classroom, the PTO, the civic group, the government&lt;br /&gt;
agency, the educators organization. Make sure this is a topic that your&lt;br /&gt;
teachers learn about and understand. We must become a cacophony of&lt;br /&gt;
voices speaking out about how to be wise, civil, and successful online.&lt;/li&gt;
&lt;li&gt;&lt;span&gt;BE AN ADVOCATE FOR WISDOM&lt;/span&gt; - When the leaders of the Dark Ages became afraid of thoughts and dissension, they burned books.&amp;nbsp; &lt;a href=&quot;http://coolcatteacher.blogspot.com/2006/07/uneducated-pass-laws-restricting-our.html&quot; title=&quot;We cannot afford to burn blogs&quot;&gt;We cannot afford to burn blogs&lt;/a&gt; (&lt;a href=&quot;http://coolcatteacher.blogspot.com/2006/07/uneducated-pass-laws-restricting-our.html&quot; title=&quot;as DOPA would do&quot;&gt;as ill-thought out DOPA would do&lt;/a&gt;) and the trail we have blazed into a new, more productive society through the Internet&#039;s new communication tools.&amp;nbsp; The &lt;a href=&quot;http://www.ornl.gov/sci/techresources/Human_Genome/home.shtml&quot; title=&quot;Human Genome project&quot;&gt;Human Genome project&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;
shows what amazing things can happen through collaboration. If we want&lt;br /&gt;
important breakthroughs to happen faster, we must promote effective&lt;br /&gt;
techno-personal and collaborative skills in the classroom. We cannot&lt;br /&gt;
walk away and ignore the fundamental change in our society:&lt;br /&gt;
Internet-enabled communications. Those who are vicious and hateful will&lt;br /&gt;
not walk away from the Internet. It is imperative that the level headed&lt;br /&gt;
and wise should not abdicate their responsibility to civilize the&lt;br /&gt;
Internet and make it a safer place.&lt;/li&gt;
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&lt;p&gt;Some advice on what&#039;s needed on the Web/Blogopshere for the here and now for adults .... about civility!&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;img border=&quot;0&quot; alt=&quot;Download&quot; title=&quot;Download&quot; src=&quot;http://beth.typepad.com/photos/uncategorized/2007/03/30/download.jpg&quot; /&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Created by &lt;a href=&quot;http://www.scottmcleod.net/cyberbullying/&quot;&gt;Scott Mcleod&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;David Weinberger &lt;a href=&quot;http://www.hyperorg.com/blogger/mtarchive/stop_cyberbullying.html&quot;&gt;wrote&lt;/a&gt; about the lack of norms of behavior on the Web.&amp;nbsp; He has suggested that we create a No Bullies Pledge - that is self-regulated similar to Creative Commons licensing and that clarifies the codes (or &amp;quot;rules of engagement&amp;quot;) people already have on Web.&amp;nbsp; He started a list of items that people wouldn&#039;t tolerate, although admittedly it is complex because of all the shades of gray and people&#039;s different levels of tolerance.&lt;/p&gt;
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Here&#039;s a start: &lt;/p&gt;
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1. Threats of physical harm.&lt;br /&gt;
2. Violent imagery. &lt;br /&gt;
3. Name calling. &lt;br /&gt;
4. Targeting a single person.&lt;br /&gt;
5. Ethnic, racial or gender slurs.&lt;br /&gt;
6. Bad language directed at a person. &lt;br /&gt;
 7. Violent or threatening images. &lt;br /&gt;
 8. Arguments directed at the person rather than at the ideas. &lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Marianne Richmond over at Blogher, &lt;a href=&quot;http://www.blogher.com/node/17461&quot;&gt;comments&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;blockquote&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;em&gt;Online and off, we seem to have lowered our standards of civility.&lt;br /&gt;
Perhaps we all need a good hard look in the mirror. Can we make our&lt;br /&gt;
points, based upon their merits without&amp;nbsp; using a label or an&lt;br /&gt;
insinuation to discredit those who disagree; can we listen to an&lt;br /&gt;
oposing point of view without feeling the need to silence the voice of&lt;br /&gt;
disagreement?&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;p&gt;The discussion thread on civility reinforces the complexity of this topic.&amp;nbsp; &amp;nbsp;As noted, there are people&#039;s difference tolerances levels as well as people&#039;s difference levels of self-awareness.&amp;nbsp; There is also the fact that we&#039;re using text and we loose the body language that provides more context and meaning.&amp;nbsp; One person&#039;s typed remark could be taken as a slur even if the person didn&#039;t intend it in that way or lacked some self-awareness in writing and self-control in posting it.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;I also really appreciate how some bloggers have posted their own code of ethics.&amp;nbsp; &amp;nbsp;Liz Ditz shared her &lt;a href=&quot;http://lizditz.typepad.com/i_speak_of_dreams/2005/12/blogging_princi.html&quot;&gt;blogging principles&lt;/a&gt; and pointed to her inspiration from &lt;a href=&quot;http://www.cadence90.com/wp/?p=3476&quot;&gt;Lisa Williams&lt;/a&gt;.&amp;nbsp; I&#039;ve been struggling with writing something for this blog and I&#039;m glad I have two excellent role models.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;There is also a distinction to be made between cyberbullying and online sexual harrassment as Elana &lt;a href=&quot;http://www.blogher.com/node/17462&quot;&gt;points out&lt;/a&gt; on BlogHer.&amp;nbsp; &amp;nbsp;&lt;a href=&quot;http://www.blogher.com/blogher-news/2007/03/today-is-is-stop-cyberbullying-day&quot;&gt;Lisa Stone&lt;/a&gt; has reposted a piece she wrote several months ago about ignoring words that hurt. She also provides&lt;br /&gt;
resources for reporting threats to police, where appropriate.&amp;nbsp; She asks &amp;quot;Now, after the events of this week, what would you add?&amp;quot;&amp;nbsp; &lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;span class=&quot;technoratitag&quot;&gt;Technorati Tags: &lt;a href=&quot;http://www.technorati.com/tags/stopcyberbullying&quot; rel=&quot;tag&quot;&gt;stopcyberbullying&lt;/a&gt;, &lt;a href=&quot;http://www.technorati.com/tags/&quot; rel=&quot;tag&quot;&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
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