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 <title>Multiculturalism Gone Awry</title>
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 <description>&lt;p&gt;That&#039;s a great post Danielle!  And I totally agree with what you are saying.  I think that in critical race studies what you are talking about is &quot;essentialism&quot; - looking at subjective parts of a person or culture and making generalizations for the whole.  I&#039;m Filipino American and have been asked so many times to comment on the experiences of &quot;my people&quot;, and often the &quot;my people&quot; that is referred to are not even part of a culture/race/ethnicity that I identify with!&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;I call it multiculturalism gone awry...there is such an emphasis nowadays to achieve multiculturalism, but it is done so sloppily.  People like you and I are asked to speak for an entire culture, when in reality, everyone experiences their racial/ethnic/cultural identities so differently depending on their personal history and life context.  While we might have some shared experiences and history, expecting that you speak for &quot;your people&quot; belies the nuances behind these experiences and the fact tha multiculturalism is not just a recognition of diversity, but that diversity is experienced in so many ways.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Glad you liked Seattle.  I live there now...hope the rain didn&#039;t get to you!&lt;/p&gt;
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 <pubDate>Thu, 23 Feb 2006 23:50:07 -0600</pubDate>
 <dc:creator>Aileen Duldulao</dc:creator>
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 <title>My &quot;Black History&quot; School Moment</title>
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 <description>&lt;p&gt;I was in an academically gifted English class my 11th grade year when I was duly reminded that I was indeed black. I think we all have that poignant moment at some point in our lives. Like Cornell West once said about young blacks who are raised in an integrated &quot;everything&quot; and don&#039;t meet racism head-on until later in life: &quot;You just keep livin&#039; and stay black.&quot;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;We were studying Langston Hughes one day and a boy in the back of the class asked why could Hughes talk about being proud to be black, but whites can&#039;t talk about being proud to be white?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;I was the only black student in the class that day -- the other black was absent -- and the teacher allowed all the students in the class to ask me crazy questions like: Why do blacks get their own magazines and television stations? The crap really hit the fan when -- in the heat of this one-sided conversation -- the teacher said, &quot;Jennifer would get into Harvard before any of you would.&quot; I got my first real taste of racism that day.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;It was absolutely horrible especially when I had gone to school with these students most of my life and we were mostly all &quot;friends&quot;. I just sat there and cried. In fact, I cried all day.&lt;/p&gt;
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 <pubDate>Tue, 14 Feb 2006 23:14:28 -0600</pubDate>
 <dc:creator>mama-noire</dc:creator>
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 <title>Singled Out Or Invisible</title>
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 <description>&lt;p&gt;I&#039;m not really sure which one is worse: feeling the heat of being singled out by an insensitive teacher or being made to feel invisble by one.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;I didn&#039;t attend integrated schools until my last two years of high school in the late 70&#039;s. I was the only recognizable black student in my European History class (there was a bi-racial boy who you only knew was black after he told you his dad was black). The instructor, who also happened to coach the mostly black basketball team, made a &quot;freudian slip&quot; one day and made some reference to &quot;German niggers.&quot; I was too mortified to speak and he knew it was too late to clean it up so he just moved on as though he didn&#039;t say it. After class, the other black kid asked me if I&#039;d heard what the teacher said and I said yes. We both just shrugged. I never told my mother and I am not sure if he ever told his father. &lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;In college, I sat in a Marketing class while the professor made jokes about Sportscaster Greg Gumbel mispronouncing the beer called Schlitz (apparently he claimed Greg said Slitz) and said &quot;What do you expect from a Zebra?&quot; ... If I recall correctly, neither Bryant nor Greg Gumble are &quot;zebras&quot; and have two black parents  - albeit fairskinned. Again I was the only black and he acted as though I wasn&#039;t even there as I watched to my white peers fall out of their seats in laughter. &lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;So, I&#039;m not sure what is preferable ... them focusing on your color or them pretending you don&#039;t even exist.&lt;/p&gt;
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 <pubDate>Sun, 12 Feb 2006 00:44:29 -0600</pubDate>
 <dc:creator>Qusan</dc:creator>
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 <description>&lt;p&gt;What a wonderful post.  I&#039;m sorry to hear that a teacher singled you out in such a way.  I teach fourth grade and would hope to think I would never make a child feel that way.  Thanks for the reminder.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Kalyn Denny&lt;br /&gt;
&lt;a href=&quot;http://kalynskitchen.blogspot.com&quot;&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Kalyn&#039;s Kitchen&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
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 <pubDate>Sat, 11 Feb 2006 15:53:03 -0600</pubDate>
 <dc:creator>Kalyn Denny</dc:creator>
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 <description>&lt;p&gt;Mrs. Dietzel turned to me, a wiry second-grader, and said, &quot;Danielle, why don&#039;t you tell us all about...about...YOUR PEOPLE.&quot; My first memory of Black History Month was created around the feeling of being singled out for being diferent. &lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;As one of only a handful of ethnic children in a small town, I was constantly being singled out by my classmates - my skin was &quot;too white for a black person&quot;, my hair was &quot;weird - why don&#039;t you wear it down like us? Why is it always in braids?&quot; After a short time, I grew to expect that feeling from children, but often found solace in adults. My teachers never cared that I was black - only that I spelled my words correctly. They never cared that my hair was in braids - only that I wasn&#039;t pulling the hair of another person in class. &lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;At seven years old, I knew very little about the entirety of the civil rights movement. I only knew how important it was to my family. I knew who Martin Luther King, Jr. was, but wasn&#039;t prepared to give an on-the-spot lecture about his life. My teacher pointed me out because of the color of my skin, assuming that no one else would have knowledge of &quot;my people&quot;. &lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;I see people making this assumption today. When a white professor taught a Black History class on the campus where I used to work, the students protested. When standing next to one of my Asian friends at a lecture, a woman we were speaking to started asking her questions about how Pearl Harbor affected her family (my friend is Filipino). It&#039;s not a wonder how some bloggers are starting to feel &lt;a href=&quot;http://www.reappropriate.com/2006/02/confession.html&quot;&gt;like this&lt;/a&gt;. &lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;I appreciate that BlogHer is interactive, that other editors can add content to each topic. We all have something to offer, new or different information, in conversations about race and ethnicity. &lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;I am driving from Alaska to Rhode Island. Today, I am in Seattle, surrounded by amazing friends and beautiful weather. In the few moments I have to myself, I&#039;ve been thinking about Black History Month, and more specifically about Martin Luther King Jr. I know more about his message than Mrs. Dietzel could ever give me credit for.&lt;/p&gt;
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 <pubDate>Sat, 11 Feb 2006 14:09:44 -0600</pubDate>
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