I left my dad in limbo for

Kimberly_Rastin — Fri, 12 Oct 2007 18:52:04 -0500

I left my dad in limbo for about a week when he added me. I just wasn't sure if I wanted my privacy and my life laid bare like that. But really, what are you gonna do, reject your dad's friend request? So I finally added him. I'm not too thrilled with it, though.

yeah

landismom — Mon, 01 Oct 2007 20:48:16 -0500

that's what I figured

Tough question

Denise — Mon, 01 Oct 2007 14:59:21 -0500

I'm pretty easy to find online, that doesn't really mean I want anyone in my family to help someone else in my family find me - at BlogHer, on my blogs, or on Facebook. So, I'd probably keep quiet about it. Probably.

~Denise
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Facebook and family etiquette

landismom — Sun, 30 Sep 2007 20:10:21 -0500

So I was talking to my mom on the phone this morning, and she was complaining (as she often does) about how one of my brothers (D) hasn't sent her any pictures of his kids in 2 years, despite the fact that she's constantly emailing him to ask for them. There was a moment where I almost said the following: "You should sic Z (another brother) on him. Z was the one who finally got D to put up a picture on his Facebook profile."

And then I thought, is it wrong to 'out' my brothers (and myself) for having Facebook profiles to our mom? Will they feel weird about this? Will I have to spend a bunch of time telling my mom what Facebook is? and hey, what's on my Facebook page that I wouldn't want her seeing (probably nothing).

I have an anonymous parenting blog, which no one in my family knows about (or at least, if they do, they're polite enough not to tell me). If one of my brothers were to find out about it, I certainly wouldn't want them telling my mom about it, since one of the things I've done on my blog is complain about her, from time to time.

While I don't think that my brothers complain about my mom on their Facebook pages, they may be writing up stuff that they don't want her to read. Z is young enough (and single enough) to still have social conversations about parties and things like that on his page.

It's not like any of us are hiding--we all use our full names, so she could find us, were she to join Facebook and enter into the crazy world of Web 2.0. But what's the etiquette on revealing a friend or family member's online existence to others -- including people in that person's own family?

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I left my dad in limbo for

yeah

Tough question

Facebook and family etiquette