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Not handing down these genes

leeannthill — Sun, 30 Aug 2009 18:53:13 -0500

I found this discussion via the "What Am I Missing" discussion. I know it's old, but figured there was no harm in adding a post. I've only written one post specifically about being childfree, but when it's relevant, I might mention it. It's something I feel like I want to explore a little more on my blog, but I have concerns about how it would be received. I feel like there can be an almost militant attitude in the diabetes community about diabetic women having children. I've read many discussions about people getting upset if anyone suggests they shouldn't have children because of their diabetes, as if it's a ludicrous suggestion, however it's a big reason I opted to be childfree. So many of my readers are diabetic parents or parents of diabetics, that I feel like anything I write will reflect too much of an effort to not offend them and thus won't be sincere or forthcoming, or conversely, it will just offend most of my readers. I haven't really figured it out.

Lee Ann Thill

The Butter Compartment
A Lifetime of Type 1 Diabetes: War, Peace and My Mission to Help & Inspire Others

Happily childfree

Pamelli — Wed, 29 Jul 2009 12:42:58 -0500

I'm originally from Brazil and have lived in the U.S. for over 6 years. I'm 43 , married and have been childfree in my body and soul ever since I can remember.

My husband and I are happy with the lifestyle we chose for ourselves and wouldn't have it any other way. We love to travel, eat out at fancy restaurants, sleep late and wake-up late on week-ends and we DON'T care if we're not leaving our DNA behind us when we're gone!

We have a cat and a dog ( our children) and I have recently published my first novel 'Copadrama- a Brazilian Tragicomedy' - a romantic satire and faithful portrait of contemporary Brazilian society.

My blog's address is: www.pamelli.blogs.sapo.pt ( it is , however, in Portuguese)

In it I like to write about everything - especially culture and travels- but it is also a 'diary' and definately has a 'childfree' bend to it... - including a couple of posts that I've specifically about childfreedom.

Help from childfree women

Dara — Fri, 24 Jul 2009 16:54:19 -0500

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Love children but don't want my own.

Beth Terry — Wed, 29 Apr 2009 21:26:53 -0500

Hi. I'm another "cats not kids" person, sort of. I love other peoples' kids (which is unusual, no?) Miss my nieces and nephews. And I did have some feelings of sadness after my hysterectomy 2 years ago, even though I'd pretty much decided I wasn't going to procreate.

I've been accepted into the Green Moms Blog Carnival even though I don't have my own kids. They call me a "mother of the earth." I'll take it, although given the choice, I'd rather skip the Mom part altogether.

I really don't blog about being child-free either, my focus being on environmental issues, especially plastic. I do, however, find myself blogging about my kitties in spite of myself. They are the real stars.

While I don't blog about the issue, I'd love to be included in any child-free women bloggers groups.

Beth Terry
www.fakeplasticfish.com
@fakeplasticfish
FaceBook

"Cats not Kids"

antigoddess — Wed, 29 Apr 2009 21:13:10 -0500

My husband and I live by the motto "Cats not kids." We have rescued many cats, and we have three of our own.

Last year, we moved to Nicaragua, and I get even more questions here than I did in the US about when I'm going to have children. So now my response is, "Gatitos, no hijos."

I recently started a blog with a friend called "Be an Anti-Goddess." The main point of the blog is to celebrate the uniqueness of all women, no matter what their life choices may be. It doesn't specifically focus on being childfree, but it does allow me to tell my story of being a childfree woman. The blog is mainly supported by user-provided content -- photos and stories from amazing women doing amazing things. I hope you will check it out if you get the chance.

Rachel, the original Anti-Goddess

Blog: Be an Anti-Goddess

Child Free by Choice

jharb_weave — Sun, 19 Apr 2009 18:12:24 -0500

My husband and I decided that we wanted to focus on our relationship and providing a great home for our two rescue dogs. I'm in my late twenties and don't have the need to have children. Right now we're putting it off and going to discuss again in five years to see if our opinions have changed at all. At that point we will pursue permanent contraceptive options.

That being said I don't blog about it except to discuss my mirena (IUD) in relation to my healthy lifestyle quest.

[Blog]

Child-free and single

Onely — Sun, 19 Apr 2009 17:13:42 -0500

My co-blogger Lisa and I (at Onely.org) have both pretty much decided that we don't feel the need to have children. I would like to read more about the community of child-free women who are also single. Much writing about child-free women focuses on coupled women (note above post's comment, " we are family members too (families of two)".

Thanks,

Christina

I am already fulfilled with my existing "children"

spiralmama — Fri, 21 Nov 2008 11:10:26 -0600

I have two rescued dogs of my own and a revolving stream of foster dogs and cats who bring me endless joy and fulfillment. I also have a maternal protective feeling toward all the wildlife and plants and ecosystems on the planet, and have no desire to bring an additional human into a world that already has so many. One more human means less space more danger of extinction for my existing family, and a good mother would not expose her family to these risks.

Hi there - I'm in my late

FleurDeLis — Sat, 28 Jun 2008 01:18:43 -0500

Hi there -

I'm in my late twenties and have never wanted children. Though I don't post about it all the time, my blog is angieoneal.com.

Take care!
Angie

Like Elisa, I live it but don't blog it.

debra roby — Mon, 19 Nov 2007 11:16:54 -0600

I am childless by choice, having gone as far as having my tubes tied in my 20s. But I don't blog about it. It's just a part of who I am. I am not a mother... but I'm also not pro athelete and not a chef, not a gamer, not a political hot-shot, not a whole lot of things. And I rarely blog about what I'm not. So while as a woman I fit this group, as a blogger I don't.

Debra
A Stitch In Time
Deb's Daily Distractions

I wouldn't look for the Childfree in a "Mommies" Category

Angry_Grrl — Mon, 19 Nov 2007 09:35:13 -0600

I'm childfree by choice and have been for over two decades now. It's one of many topics I discuss on my blog. I would not feel comfortable in a category dominated by mommies, because I don't share so many of their life experiences. "Mommy and Family" is off-putting to me and is definitely NOT where I'd go on a search for childfree women's blogs.

Angry Grrl

Probably plenty like me...

Elisa Camahort — Sun, 18 Nov 2007 10:51:47 -0600

I am childfree by choice. Never wanted them ever. And despite the number of people who were sure I'd change my mind, I never did. It's funny how many people ask about the kid thing now that i've recently gotten married. I start out by saying that I'm 43, so you know, that horse has left the barn, but I'm amazed at the number of people who think 43 is a perfectly reasonable time to start procreating. So, then I have to really specify: no thanks, not interested.

All that being said: I don't blog about the issue. Now, this is part of the not blogging about many aspects of my personal and family life. My personal blog doesn't run to the intensely personal, if you know what I mean.

So, I don't even know if I fit into a category of Childfree Women Bloggers, because it's not at all a topic I cover or discuss.

Elisa Camahort
BlogHer
elisa@blogher.org

That's the way to do it

Denise — Sun, 18 Nov 2007 10:27:26 -0600

I'm guessing you saw my comment in the thread where I talked about our invisible sub-topics and the use of "free tagging". I'm thrilled and I really hope you and many other childfree women will blog on BlogHer and take advantage of free tagging.

:-)

~Denise
BlogHer Community Manager

Fast Times @ Homeschool High & Flamingo House Happenings

Tags: Non-Traditional Families, Childfree, Childless by Choice

Purple Woman — Sun, 18 Nov 2007 09:54:36 -0600

Hi Denise,
Thanks so much for your comment.

I really think you are right. I was advised to make use of BlogHer's tags in the meantime. I plan to start cross posting on my chosen topic (it's all about choice ladies), on this site, and I plan to tag as above!

BTW, we just hosted a Purple Women Count Day on November 15th from our blog. We learned that childfree women would like to read other childfree women bloggers, so we plan to create our own PW Blogroll.

Be well,

Teri Tith
Creator & Contributing Editor
Purple Women & Friends

Life

Denise — Fri, 26 Oct 2007 05:23:45 -0500

Life would be the section I'd drop my childfree blog into first - If I had a childfree blog, that is. Then, if I wrote about family on my blog then I'd also fit into Mommy & Family - that "& family" part means "AND" family - all sorts of family. BlogHer doesn't attempt to define what a family is.

:-)

~Denise
Fast Times @ Homeschool High & Flamingo House Happenings

Childfree Women Bloggers

Purple Woman — Thu, 25 Oct 2007 20:01:45 -0500

Are you out there? Are you ready to stand up and be counted? We are sometimes hard to categorize, some of us don't even self-identify as being childfree, or childless by choice -- yet we have no intention of having children. Some single gals simply haven't decided yet.

No offense to the Moms here, but we are family members too (families of two) and we do own pets, in fact, our pets are often called "child-substitutes"! Do we fit in the Mommy & Family & Pets section, or Gender and Feminism? A tight squeeze either way.

If you are a member of BlogHer, or own a blog, and are childfree, please leave a comment here.

I run a blog by, for, and about women who are childfree. We keep it clean and we keep it topical. We often have a hard time fitting into categories that others create for us. We are simply Women Without Children, not the majority for sure.

Teri Tith
Creator & Contributing Editor
Purple Women & Friends