Oh what I wish...

Laracolvin — Fri, 28 Mar 2008 20:36:22 -0500

Thank you for putting this out there! I completely agree, and I have been shocked at how secretive the young/new mothers' society is! Perhaps our hormone levels while pregnant deter other moms from stating the truth about the pros and cons of motherhood, but for whatever reason I just think it is WRONG not to share.

I struggled for the first couple of years - and honestly, still do - with this "is this it?" feeling. I have been crippled with doubts, guilt, anxiety, and I've worked my a** off trying to balance my job, my marriage, and motherhood. I just wish someone would have told me it was going to be this hard.

Luckily, I've found some freedom with the blogging habit, but we all know it is much easier to write these feelings than to talk about them in public!

Thanks again for sharing!

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Motherhooduncensored — Fri, 28 Mar 2008 09:16:17 -0500

It seems as though motherhood has a huge taboo surrounding it, with many new moms walking blindly into what can be a very dark hole. I was always curious why no one warned me. Granted, when I entered motherhood, I only had one mom friend at the time, and I suppose most good friends don't want the scare the crap out of a cute and giggly pregnant woman.

But sometimes, I wish she had.

There's a fine line between offering someone assvice and then offering them a truthful discussion of how things are. I'm not sure I would have necessarily been scared had she told me about hemmarhoids or the real truth about how much sleep you get. And I think we all know that motherhood can be hard. But when you end up with a difficult baby, hard is an understatement.

And then there's the havoc it wreaks on your marriage. Oh right, that's always a good thing to mention.

When my friends come to me now, I don't tell them anything they don't ask for. I'm not going to sit and lecture them about my own experiences unless they want to hear them. Plus, they can always go and read my blog to hear all about it.

But if someone asks me "how it was" or "how it's going," I tell them the truth. And I don't just do it for them. I do it for myself as well. I feel like perhaps admitting it is hard is the first step in making it easier.

We hope you'll share your story today with us. What do you wish your girlfriends had told you about motherhood? Or maybe they did, and you were one of the lucky ones.

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