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 <description>&lt;p&gt;OK. I don&#039;t completely hate the B&amp;amp;W pics. Since I have no choice, they have grown on me. And, people will comment on how cool they look. I just get &amp;quot;the look&amp;quot; of &amp;quot;I told you so&amp;quot; from the BF when that happens.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&amp;#160;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&amp;#160;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;a href=&quot;http://www.livingwiththeboyfriend.blogspot.com&quot;&gt;Allison&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
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 <pubDate>Tue, 03 Jun 2008 19:56:10 -0500</pubDate>
 <dc:creator>AllisonM</dc:creator>
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 <title>Ah, the fun of cohabitation...</title>
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 <description>&lt;p&gt;Those days are such distant memories for me right now!&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;But I&#039;m guessing that Hunky Actor Boyfriend isn&#039;t the type not to have an opinion.  ;)&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;a href=&quot;http://blogher.org/blog/liz-rizzo&quot;&gt;Liz Rizzo&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;I blog at &lt;a href=&quot;http://everydaygoddess.typepad.com/&quot;&gt;Everyday Goddess&lt;/a&gt;.&lt;/p&gt;
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 <pubDate>Tue, 20 May 2008 18:36:06 -0500</pubDate>
 <dc:creator>Liz Rizzo</dc:creator>
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 <title>Not a Problem Here!</title>
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 <description>&lt;p&gt;When I moved in with my now husband, his apartment was decorated in early frat house. Fortunately he had no problem letting me take over and turn it into an adult&#039;s apartment. As long as I don&#039;t mess with the top of his dresser he doesn&#039;t care what I do with the rest of the house! LOL!&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;a href=&quot;http://wedding-tip.com&quot;&gt;Wedding Tips Blog&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
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 <pubDate>Tue, 20 May 2008 18:33:54 -0500</pubDate>
 <dc:creator>Sue Walsh</dc:creator>
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 <description>&lt;p&gt;much of a problem. &lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;We pretty much liked the same things, and had a home with a rather countryish feel to it. &lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Now when it came to buying furniture, look long, look hard, because finding agreement on any given thing was not an easy task.  Arriving at purchase would feel like we&#039;d just negotiated a new union contract. &lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;a href=&quot;http://www.nelle2nelle.org/&quot;&gt;nelle&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
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 <pubDate>Tue, 20 May 2008 05:50:41 -0500</pubDate>
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 <description>&lt;p&gt;I&#039;d probably been dating Hunky Actor Boyfriend for five minutes - OK, maybe five days - when I thought to myself, &amp;quot;I wonder if we ever live together if he&#039;ll want to hang that giant picture of Woody Allen&#039;s head in &lt;em&gt;our&lt;/em&gt; bathroom.&amp;quot; Now, however, I&#039;ve solved that problem by deciding that I&#039;ll clearly need my own bathroom.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;But now that I&#039;ve solved that currently nonexistent problem, my brain gerbils continue to spin on various other potential conundrums of cohabitation. &lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Thankfully, we both have an affinity for movie posters. That&#039;s a small miracle, methinks, because my &lt;a href=&quot;http://www.impawards.com/2005/walk_the_line.html&quot;&gt;Shepard Fairey Walk the Line poster&lt;/a&gt; is clearly the coolest.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Because walls are the biggest battle ground, right?&amp;nbsp; Allison from &lt;a href=&quot;http://livingwiththeboyfriend.blogspot.com&quot;&gt;Confessions of a Cohabitant&lt;/a&gt; knows what I&#039;m talking about. Moving in with her boyfriend became &lt;a href=&quot;http://livingwiththeboyfriend.blogspot.com/2007/07/decoratingshabby-chic-vs-black-and.html&quot;&gt;Decorating...shabby chic vs. black and white&lt;/a&gt;:&lt;/p&gt;
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Well the B.F. has black and white photos of James Dean, Marilyn, Audrey and Miles Davis which cost him a bundle with custom framing. When we first moved in, I really liked them and thought we could incorporate them into our new living space. I don&#039;t know what I think now. I&#039;m thinking they are more rec-roomish than living areaish. I really don&#039;t like the one of Butch Cassidy and the Sundance Kid and he wants to hang it in the dining room. So, I tell the B.F. this and he offers to give me the Marilyn picture to put in my room to shut me up. It doesn&#039;t work.&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;p&gt;Now, I&#039;m voting for the black &amp;amp; white custom framed photos over the shabby chic, clearly. Perhaps they can solve their problem by just sending them to me?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Alex May calls this: &lt;a href=&quot;http://blogs.theage.com.au/lifestyle/renovationnation/archives/2007/04/decor_wars_inte.html&quot;&gt;Decor wars: interior desecration worth fighting about&lt;/a&gt; (interesting comment thread on this one,too):&lt;/p&gt;
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Living on your own must be bliss. After all, it&#039;s hard to have a decor war with yourself.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;Decor wars are a regular affliction in many households, particularly mine. My husband likes indigeneous art. I hate it. Husband also has a peculiar fondness for dusty Ganesha statues. I don&#039;t.&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;p&gt;Now, she&#039;s in Australia. In Los Angeles, it&#039;s not Ganesha statutes you have to watch out for (although, btw, totally cool), it&#039;s action figures. You simply can&#039;t tell by looking at a person that they own every Transformer and multiple Buffy figurines. It&#039;s best to see someone&#039;s apartment as soon as possible to avoid any nasty surprises - wherever and whatever your line is.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;It&#039;s like Nicole Spiridakis says on &lt;a href=&quot;http://www.sfgate.com&quot;&gt;SFGate.com&lt;/a&gt;: &lt;a href=&quot;http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=/c/a/2006/09/09/HOG53L0EU41.DTL&amp;amp;type=printable&quot;&gt;Decorating for Two; Moving in with someone means having to mesh your tastes&lt;/a&gt;.&lt;/p&gt;
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One night, my boyfriend came home flushed and triumphant. He lugged a white bookshelf that had seen better days in an Ikea showroom long before being unceremoniously dumped on the streets of our Western Addition neighborhood.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&amp;quot;This will go perfectly against that bare wall!&amp;quot; he said happily, as I looked with disdain at its rickety shelves.&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;p&gt;Or maybe you&#039;re not sure if &lt;em&gt;you&lt;/em&gt; fit into your new co-habitation. And maybe you&#039;re struggling with what to take with you and what to get rid of. BlogHer&#039;s Kristy from &lt;a href=&quot;http://shewalks.blogspot.com&quot;&gt;She Just Walks Around With It&lt;/a&gt; recently moved into a new loft apartment with her boyfriend. While packing she blogged &lt;a href=&quot;http://shewalks.blogspot.com/2008/01/and-so-it-begins.html&quot;&gt;And So It Begins...&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
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The problem is that I now have a stronger-than-is-maybe-psychologically-sound emotional attachment to some of the things that I do own. Especially those things that came from a long time ago. Thus, I tend to make very odd moving decisions. Ex: I have a great coffee machine, but it&#039;s not as great as Ish&#039;s and it&#039;s big and bulky and so I&#039;m giving it away, even though it&#039;s in perfect condition. Whereas I have a navy blue sweatshirt that I got at the GAP for my 12th birthday that is all but un-wearable for its holes, etc. and I am 100% unwilling to part with it...&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;So how do I even start, knowing that I&#039;m strangely sentimental about things like 20-year-old-sweatshirts and at the same time, too lazy to bother moving my &amp;quot;nice&amp;quot; things?&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;...And while we&#039;re at it, I&#039;m happy to get advice on What To Do If Your Apartment Is Entirely Cooler Than You Are.&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;p&gt;And finally, from Mary of &lt;a href=&quot;http://odegaardbaby.blogspot.com&quot;&gt;The Odegaard baby: in progress&lt;/a&gt; blogs &lt;a href=&quot;http://odegaardbaby.blogspot.com/2008/05/story-of-nursery.html&quot;&gt;The Story of the Nursery&lt;/a&gt;:&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;blockquote&gt;&lt;p&gt;Then came the decision: what would our theme be? As Matt bemoaned the fact that no one makes baby bedding in a snake or spider theme, I began the tedious process of weighing the options. After much internal deliberation that Matt probably has no idea I went through, I/we decided on farm animals. &lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;[Disclaimer: The I/we construction used represents the fact that I made the decision and Matt agreed. In the realm of baby bedding decisions, I think we both prefer it that way!]&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;p&gt;The tagline on her blog is, &amp;quot;Coming mid-summer 2008 to a family near you...Baby Girl Odegaard! Help us get ready to welcome her!&amp;quot;&amp;nbsp; So tune in now for all the baby prep action.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;And remember, even after that initial step into cohabitation, the joy of joint decoration goes on and on and on and on...&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;~&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&lt;i&gt;Contributing editor Liz Rizzo also blogs at &lt;a href=&quot;everydaygoddess.typepad.com/&quot;&gt;Everyday Goddess&lt;/a&gt;.&lt;/i&gt;&lt;/p&gt;
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