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My twin brother is full-time

Liz Thompson — Sun, 06 Jul 2008 12:09:58 -0500

My twin brother is full-time Army and his unit was deployed from Ft. Dix, last month. Though, I'm relieved that he's home and training troops for Homeland Security (due to a medical condition) it's hard to see him watch his guys and gals go.

It's really hard for him, being left behind.

We spent 4th of July on base and got the chance to meet more families who deal with very difficult situations, every day. Ready to leave at a moment's notice. Leaving their kids behind. Military families are a tough crowd, but their support of each other is neverending. Thank you for your post, Shannon - I'm passing it along to my brother - and THANK YOU to all of our soldiers and their families.

FYI: I also celebrate "Red, White and Blue Fridays" on my family blog, with an Honor Wall (explaining how it all started with one blog post) and it's where I like to share stories of simple ways in which bloggers can all help show support for our military and their families.

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myrnatheminx — Sun, 06 Jul 2008 01:08:07 -0500

My sister just left for the second half of her deployment after two weeks of R&R. I think we need to move beyond thinking about soldiers as men. Upwards of 15 % of our militarry is made up of women who face some of the same struggles men do, but also some very different ones.

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Thanks! This is an

eyefulofcanon — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 17:05:30 -0500

Thanks! This is an especially nice collection of links for those of us that aren't living in the U.S. right now, but want to feel like we do. These ladies (and gents) do a fabulous job of reminding me why it is that I am grateful for the time and service of everyone in the military and their families.

-Kirsten

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Rebekah Sanderlin is pee-your-pants funny

Lisa Stone — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 12:12:44 -0500

...and sobering at the same time. You have to read all ten on her list, from Afghanistan as golf game to her sarcasm about voters learning the world map.

When it's not you or your family or your friend in active service -- and I have none of the above right now -- I've found it's too easy for me to forget the daily family reality behind the headlines. Thank you so much for this post, Shannon.

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Thanks Shannon!

Lisa Boyd — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 08:47:49 -0500

For giving us a piece of these ladies and linking to their blogs! I wish I could tell all the soldiers "thank you!" I'm especially glad that they are going to share good stories from over there. It'd be nice to hear something good now and then!

Military Families Blogging Deployment

rocksinmydryer — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 08:01:16 -0500

My favorite thing about participating in the blogosphere is the opportunity it provides to walk a mile (or two, or twenty) in the shoes of people in very different life experiences from my own. I have been learning much lately by reading some of the blogs by parents holding down the fort at home while their spouses are deployed overseas in the U.S. Armed Forces. Many of these families are blogging their journey with great honesty and courage.

Fayetteville Observer journalist and military wife Rebekah Sanderlin compiled a list of "The Worst Things You Can Say To a Woman Whose Husband Is Deployed". Number one on the list?

1. "Aren't you afraid that he'll be killed?"
(This one ranks in at number one on my "duh" list. Of course we're afraid. We're terrified. The thought always lingers at the backs of our minds ---but thanks, you just brought it back to the front. Maybe next you can go ask someone with cancer if they're scared of dying.)

Situationally Single shares news from the front lines, and asks for prayer for her husband and his comrades:

Please pray for my hubby, his unit (the 404th Civil Affairs Brigade) and all of the other soldiers, military personnel and civilians that are in Iraq working to make it a better place. There really are good things going on over there; the media just does not highlight it. So I'm going to blog now and then about positive stories that I read from over there and the good things that are being done to help the citizens of Iraq have better lives.

Fifteen Months shares her memories about the morning her husband left for his post:

When we got to the airport, there was a few piles of young Marines sleeping in the hallways near the USO, which wouldn't open for several more hours. They either arrived on a red eye or were there to make sure they caught their own flight back I'm sure. It broke my heart to see these young men without a send off that befitting to their service. No a wife or parent or volunteer or camera....just some lady riding up an escalator with her husband at the end of R&R taking a picture with her cell phone. Did America know the USO isn't always open?

Heart and Home writes with great pride about what she sees her husband doing:

People hear that my husband is in Iraq right now and often they tell me a sincere and sweet thank you and ask that I would extend it to him. Every time I hear it, my heart swells and I'm thankful again for these guys (and girls) and thankful I can be part, in my holdin' down the fort kind of way, in this fight for liberty.

Of course, is it not only women who find themselves stateside with a spouse in a war zone. A Soldier's Mind tells the story of Tim Gilhool, who is parenting his son while his wife has been deployed for the last year:

“You do your best...You can’t be the mom. Like planning birthday parties, combing Molly’s hair, putting in the braids, shopping for girlie stuff. You do the best you can, you get advice.”

Tammi Domininski wrote in Newsweek last month a heartfelt column about her family's deployment experience, one that seems to echo much of the resolve I've seen expressed by these families:

I battled through, sometimes with support, sometimes alone, and ultimately came out on the other side better, wiser, stronger. We military wives live our lives like patches on a quilt, lives we stitch together to make a blanket of memories, and of strength, that covers us forever, no matter where we go, no matter how hot the water gets.

Shannon Lowe is a BlogHer contributing editor (Mommy/Family), and she blogs at Rocks In My Dryer.