BlogHer Comments - School uses mom's blog as evidence against her

Well, I've thought about

MissSuzy — Fri, 01 Aug 2008 04:53:30 +0000

Well, I've thought about this a lot, as well. I once had my diary/writing journal stolen and used against me in a divorce. It was ugly and I was violated. This was before the days of blogging, and because the experience was so awful, I haven't written in a paper journal since.

I've even resisted blogging, but finally caved in a few months ago. I do write with a pseudonym, and I do write about some terrible experience my son has had in public school. I try to keep it anonymous. I'lll probably be "found out" at some point. I amy not be clever enought to write without a trace.

Frankly, I don't trust gubberment schools to have anyone's best interests in mind besides their own, and I can picture some employee gleefully and wickedly snooping through that poor mom's blogs looking for something they could use to nail her.

It's a real bummer and she'll not trust again any time soon. Her daughter is probably short of services she needs, too.

MissSuzy

www.introvertigo.typepad.com/licensetolove/

Thanks JUNOSMOM!

osoleomar48 — Sat, 26 Jul 2008 15:50:53 +0000

THANKS JUNOSMOM!... i think so about me too...I peruse randomly in the blogs daily (and not only in BlogHer) About this argument i'll wraiting the post very interested in the future( i will studing about now...) in my personal blog:Granny "BELARDA"

blogging out loud

junosmom — Fri, 25 Jul 2008 17:09:33 +0000

Cathy
http://www.lifetimelearning.blogspot.com

Very interesting. Yes, it is a dilemma, the need to be heard and receive feedback versus public exposure which could harm. As I peruse blogs randomly, I am struck by how many very talented and creative people write blogs. It has opened up many avenues for writing. Yet, it could be used against one, as it has been made public.

In that one case by case...it's all rigth!

osoleomar48 — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 10:52:42 +0000

Really! In that one case by case it's all rigth ! belived me..I think so! tanku u so much!

How timely!

kmoldofsky — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 10:11:37 +0000

I've had trouble finding the right school for my boys. They are about to start at a new public school and I know I need to take a thoughtful approach to what and how--or if-- I blog about it.

Kim blogs at Hormone-colored Days, Momformation and Chicago Moms Blog

"To write a blog

Maria0305 — Sun, 13 Jul 2008 20:57:02 +0000

"To write a blog honestly, I think you must either be ignorant of
potential consequences, know and not care, or have the knowledge to
choose what you say wisely and the maturity to deal with the fallout if
someone misinterprets or misrepresents what you've written."

Perfectly put. I'm struggling with the same things on my own blog, knowing that they'll most definitely be used against me in my upcoming divorce and the looming custody battle that should ensue during and afterward.

I feel an obligation to myself, since I am who I blog for first and foremost, to not censor myself too much, but also feel I must be careful and considerate for the delicate situation I am in. I'm quite probably not writing with enough caution, but bleah, I can only put so tight a lid on me. :)

- Maria

http://immoralmatriarch.com

The "consequences"

Cindy La Ferle — Sun, 13 Jul 2008 20:53:40 +0000

This is an extremely important topic, and I'm glad to see it put out there for discussion. As Nordette put it, as much as we value our freedom of expression, there are "consequences for speaking your mind."

Blogging is a relatively new form of communication and expression, and in a broad sense, we're just beginning to see its positive and negative impacts on our personal and professional lives. We're just starting to hear about high-profile bloggers, for example, who've lost jobs thanks to their blog postings. Of course, these isolated cases don't overpower the fact that blogging remains an incredible community builder.

In a way, bloggers wrestle with the same dilemma that every celebrity faces: We value our privacy and cherish our families -- but we also want people to pay close attention to what we're doing. Not an easy tightrope to walk.

As a family newspaper columnist, I was hired to write weekly about my family life in our typical American suburb. My son was in his early grade school years when I started that column, and my husband's career was just taking off. So I had to be very careful of what I wrote -- because even what I considered "innocent" topics were embarrassing or potentially hazardous to my family members. (I never wrote much about my in-laws!) As careful as I was, I still found myself in hot water sometimes. And I wasn't reaching nearly as many people in print as I can potentially reach online.

I keep these lessons in mind whenever I blog. And I am always a bit surprised when I learn about bloggers (and print journalists) who've not considered "the consequences."

Cindy's Home Office: www.laferle.com

To blog or not to blog

cutiebootycakes — Sun, 13 Jul 2008 19:42:53 +0000

I think that your post brings some very important issues to light - specifically how transparent are we when we blog and what are the potential ramifications? I am new to blogging and was very clear with myself about how I am going to blog. Although this is an "online journal" I would not share my personal journal with the world and therefore will not do so in my blog.

But, as is the case with Ms. Sohn, how likely is that to serve as protection? In her case it may very well have been better for her to have written her feelings about her daughter's education however that may have been used against her too.

In a perfect world we would be able to write what we want to write, hear the opinions of others and just go on about our way. But the reality is that in the world we live in we have to always watch what we say.

Renée

www.cutiebootycakes.blogspot.com

I think so about it...

osoleomar48 — Sun, 13 Jul 2008 17:42:23 +0000

I think so about it... "All people needed to
communicate " This's the probem! And then i was been a good idea now! We'll (
all womans, all mothers, all daugthers in the world) incouraging the
children' s generation to give the blogs!
This 's my idea
today! And so! All of us (The womans bloggers) we'll learning the
childrens to communicate
to all people of the world, and then they will communicating in really
time with the web's language that's very smart very suitable for
childrens and so all every emotions, sameone needs, in all directions
in
the terrestrial space's.

"on blogging on learning"... or "on blogging on jogging"

Dose it the fair slogan for the next young winners in next our future?What's u think abaout
it?

I've this good idea because haw many research about the children's
generation in all world's places tell me everidays "haw many childrens do use the mobile on
messaging in the World actually?"Look! That statistic numbers tell us
about that hig risk, they'll doing as our phatological dipendence in the
future.

Please!Have a mind about it!

it was my post in last week ago

Have a nice day!

Great Post

JanMBSC — Sun, 13 Jul 2008 17:22:23 +0000

How sad that Judi chose to take the high road and mention only the positive and the school uses that against her child. I have always loved the written word but don't think I truly appreciated how powerful and far reaching blogging (anybody besides me dislike that word?) has become.