BlogHer - No, I'm not on Facebook. - Comments

Ehh, no judgment over

Yarrow — Sat, 16 Aug 2008 14:41:49 -0500

Ehh, no judgment over somebody choosing not to join Facebook, however I very much enjoy it. Through it I've been able to keep in touch with people I never would have been able to without it (or at least I would have had a hard time), I've found a number of people for networking purposes, and I've been able to easier organize people in my area when something needs to be done.

I view a lot of what is done on Facebook to be childish, but I just don't participate and voila, there you go. Turned off the requests for applications I don't want, for example, and now it doesn't bother me.

-- Jack Scheerer
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social networking peer pressure

Liz Rizzo — Thu, 14 Aug 2008 01:43:24 -0500

Love it; totally get it. And have given it, too.

I have to admit, I'm loving every and any negative Facebook comment so I don't have to give in! LOL

Liz Rizzo

I blog at Everyday Goddess.

Peer Pressure

biggirlblue — Sun, 10 Aug 2008 19:46:33 -0500

I think Hi5 was the first social network I joined. I've visited maybe five times in that many years (it seems). I joined Myspace a few years ago and I find it more user friendly and entertaining. It stuck and I'll visit it once a week to keep up on friends and comments.

A few months ago I joined Facebook out of peer pressure and quite frankly I don't care for it. If I get one more fairy, fruitloop or tadpool request I might burst. Yesterday, again because of peer pressure, I joined Linked in. I'm so impressionable!

Moe
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Facebook peer pressure

Liz Rizzo — Thu, 07 Aug 2008 09:47:39 -0500

AdviceMaven - I have so many MySpace friends like that! They join and then they never come back. I have to admit, I wish that some of my friends who aren't on it were on it. If I heard that they joined Facebook, that would tip the scale for me.

Decoybetty - OMG, AWESOME Facebook story. LOL

Liz Rizzo

I blog at Everyday Goddess.

Facebook = the Devil

Decoybetty — Sun, 03 Aug 2008 23:28:09 -0500

I dated a guy once who begged me to get on facebook while i was in college. begged. pleaded. And finally i was all, "fine, sure" So i join. and three months later he breaks up with me over FACEBOOK. It was tragic. The End.

Although I do laugh whenever anyone says "we go way back, we're facebook friends" insta-giggle.

www.decoybetty.com

I Belong to All and Use None

AdviceMaven — Fri, 01 Aug 2008 18:00:46 -0500

I have profiles on Facebook and Myspace, plus the business sites and the Mom sites. I have a friend or two on each who convinced me to join. If they ever come up with a application where you can update your profile in one place and have it update all your other profiles, then maybe I would use them and wouldn't be so overwhelmed.

Tina

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Still conflicted...

Liz Rizzo — Wed, 30 Jul 2008 09:56:31 -0500

But Facebook assimilation seems near...

Awesome comments! Rock!

Liz Rizzo

I blog at Everyday Goddess.

I'm not a Facebook Junkie

kishau — Wed, 30 Jul 2008 01:19:31 -0500

... but I prefer it to myspace. My younger siblings coerced (forced) me onto Facebook. I actually use it as my "real personal" social networking site (family & close friends). I also like the picture & video sharing features on Facebook. I prefer the user interface to myspace; for some reason I get headaches if I stare at myspace pages longer than 10 seconds. :) I think the social networking sites can be fun ... and perhaps helpful as well if you can manage them properly. I select the few that I like and I stick with those. There are literally thousands out there. It's kinda difficult (impossible) to become engaged in an online community if you're a member of all of them. IMO. - Kishau

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I joined facebook

kazari — Tue, 29 Jul 2008 22:29:02 -0500

Because my sisters made me!
It makes a lot more sense when you realise that I'm on the wrong side of the country from most of my family, and my sisters are both on the other side of the world.
I found out my brother split up with his girlfriend - via face book.
I saw my sister's birthday photo's - on facebook. I saw some pictures of my MUM, from the last wedding she attended.

I'm a bit selective about who i add as friends. if we aren't friends in real life, or from my blog, then you're probably not in my friends list. and i don't add applications.

I think I have a recipe for that...

"People who would never join

ppurdum — Tue, 29 Jul 2008 22:22:01 -0500

"People who would never join MySpace back in the day are on Facebook."

LOL-I am one of those people! I resisted, and resisted MySpace. I resisted, and resisted Facebook until I couldn't resist anymore. I feel like a sell out. Actually, a big reason why I joined facebook is because a lot of my family (who are spread out across the world) are on it, and it's a great way to "check-in" on them, see photos, etc.

I love Facebook.

lauriewrites — Tue, 29 Jul 2008 22:10:44 -0500

Love it. Love my ability to add or not (because you don't have to accept if they do), find people or not, check in with my friends from school...Love it. Can't help it.

I'm as socially networked as one can get, but it's just fun for me. And as far as the applications go, I just take them as part of the game; I ignore the ones that really seem stupid and add the ones that I think are funny or interesting (You can always take them off the wall if you want.) And it's good to know that a lot of times people aren't asking me (or anyone) to add applications INTENTIONALLY. If I want to know the answers to my quiz about what being left-handed says about me, I have to invite people. They can totally decline. I do. ;)

I'm just really light-hearted about Facebook for some reason. Playing Scramble with my sis in California is fun. Chatting with my friend Karen in Michigan is fun. It's a low-stress space for me.

But I can see how it'd get on your nerves if you just weren't down with it. ;)

laurie

Unfacebooked, and proudly so...

nelle2nelle — Tue, 29 Jul 2008 21:59:28 -0500

I once registered at the behest of a friend;and immediately unregistered. Why in bloody hell do I wish my identity to accumulate whatever it is shows up there?

As one who adjudicates unemployment bennies for a living, having an actual identity out there is not a very healthy thing.

nelle

llhaesa

I heart FB

Love_Is_Dope — Tue, 29 Jul 2008 14:30:16 -0500

I've had a MySpace page for a while and was kinda resistant to FB because I felt like one social networking site was really enough. I eventually broke down and got a page though and now it's almost completely replaced MySpace for me. I'm hardly ever on MySpace now, but I check FB everyday. I love that I'm reconnected with so many friends and co-workers and people I've met through networking. Long live FB!!
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It gets worse, I'm going to London to MEET a man I met on F-book

KateSavage — Tue, 29 Jul 2008 13:40:54 -0500

I resisted facebook for a long time, too, but was encouraged by my PR friends to join, as a networking tool for work. Then, it became useful for sharing photos with captions with my family and far-away friends. Then, I was invited to join a little humour-poetry group, where I was eventually introduced to "Mr. England".

A best friend introduced us, but on Facebook, and in 14 days, I'm headed to Heathrow to see if he really IS as amazing as I think he might be. I can't really make excuses for myself. I'm embarassed that romance can have anything to do with Facebook, but maybe, if it works out, I won't be so embarrrased anymore:

You might as well hear it from me – I met a man on the internet. I just said that out loud, didn't I?

from

All Over the Place (Montreal)

The power of social networking

mrodgers — Tue, 29 Jul 2008 13:36:41 -0500

I laughed out loud to read because the sentiments are shared!

Or Were....

What I love most about facebook is that "seven degrees of seperation" something it adds to my life. Of course I was always the girl who had to make friends, go to a new school and then get settled only to move again, so I love re-connecting with people I have not seen in so many years.

I've had some great reunions, and I've actually loved the updates and photos and seeing what my friends are reading and watching... I've got two kids and so it's hard to keep up otherwise and lets face it, the last time I bought a book of stamps I was twelve years old. I've also set up a fan page for my business and linked my blogs in and so I love the ability to personalize your business in a different way.

In any case...once you do join ( because it's just a matter of time) look me up :-)

Monica

No, I'm not on Facebook.

Liz Rizzo — Tue, 29 Jul 2008 01:27:03 -0500

Look, I have a Friendster page, which now I just leave up, ignored, because I feel bad about deleting it and losing my connections there. The ones I never do anything with because I never go there anymore. And I'm on MySpace, which I like a lot more now that it's the red-headed step child and with the band pages and stuff. And I'm on LinkedIn. And, btw, flippin' Google me if you want to find me.

College-born Facebook opened up its virtual doors, and I just wasn't interested, yo.

I didn't like that you couldn't completely delete your profile if you wanted to, and now that that's fixed, and Facebook is Oh. So. Popular. I just can't seem to care.

Sometimes I decide that I'm actually ahead of the curve where everyone abandons Facebook and then suddenly I'm so cool because I was never on it in the first place. Or somethin'. Like that.

Other times I realize I'm just fighting it and maybe I'm just not with it and maybe it's a losing battle but seriously - I don't want peeps "writing on my wall" and sending me annoying applications and games. And something about how people find and add you just seems a little creepy to me. I say, having never even looked at the site. Oh man, I think I just defined "crotchety."

Maybe I'm just at online profile overload. Can't. Take. One. More.

OK, but how many stories now involve the words, "...found me on Facebook"? Lots, my friends. LOTS.

Some of the people who find you are creepy. Jax from The Roaring Twenties blogs A very weird thing happened today...

Well, he changed his name...(yes, he really did..cause that's not creepy) and moved away.

We had some knock down drag outs. I seem to remember an iron getting thrown at me....and I think I threw quite a bit at him. Way too much for a freshman relationship. *insert wide eyes shaking my head*

We'll go ahead and tag that as my slightly-violent/abusive/creepy stage of dating for me... The other stages havent been as dramatic.... haha...thankfully.

I never heard from high school guy. Until today. When he found me on facebook.

And now they're Facebook friends. She's rising above.

Kate Savage from All over the place (Montreal) has a story: Kiss, or just Tell:

We lost touch when he moved to London to become an editor or something for a more respectable magazine, but just recently, as all modern friendships go, we reconnected via Facebook. He looks great, and happy, and hooked-up. His status says he's "In a relationship", and I think I really believe it this time.

As opposed to the time she found out *she* was in a relationship with him, and it was news to her!

But. I found many, many stories of romance involving being found on Facebook. My fav is Mikey. <3 from The Life and Times of Nessie. "OMG- Mikey likes me!"

Prividinie from Messages calls her post PooPooPooPooPoo, but it involves "And Thursday is now a special day for me as I have my first ever proper date." And I'm not jealous of that proper date AT ALL, by the way. Ahem.

And Kusugutaai from It's Only Words and Words Are All I Have blogs All Loved Up. Another delightful date. That I am not jealous of at all. Ahem.

So. There is Facebook goodness to be had.

But still. Really. I'm with Countess Lboogie from the soundtrack of my life… Just Google Me Baby!

Contributing editor Liz Rizzo also blogs at Everyday Goddess.