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Death

ellaMAX — Thu, 04 Jun 2009 18:27:32 -0500

My apologies for not seeing this email. I hope this reply finds you. If there is one thing that I can't speak on is getting over those fears that haunt you from life experiences. Just last week my couselor said, "there are some old feelings that you are still having about the events in your life." That stuck with me and I have been chewing on the thought of my old feelings, I'm ready for new feelings and I think wanting to move on may be a turn toward a new view.

Take care.

Death of a child

Michah Hadley — Sun, 26 Oct 2008 07:29:22 -0500

Hi There, I have never experienced the death of a child but your story really affected me. I hope I am not out of line in writing to you. I am a mentally ill mother and have spent alot of time in a psychiatric unit over the years. i have had quite a bit of contact with mothers in hospital whose children have died as well as facing my own mortality issues. I am quite familiar with death and am often terrified that somehow it will pass on to my son like some contagen. I do not profess to know an inch of how you feel but I really feel for you and your children. My best wishes for you.

Mental Health and Death

ellaMAX — Fri, 10 Oct 2008 15:34:20 -0500

Three years ago on October 7th, my three month old daughter Ella died. The three months she experienced this world was asking a lot of her. In 2001 my birthed my first child at 21 weeks gestation without success. Now I'm left with memories and anxiety that have began to affect many aspects of my life. I have anxiety of visiting doctors and stress about death of my other children. I know death is as much of life as birth. I am a firm believer in celebration at death, it's as important to our existence as birth. That doesn't make it easy. Explaining all this to my children, who have handled death early in life very well, I feel is my obligation. I wanted to post this to see how other parents/women have been able to deal with the death of their children.