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Lingerie, hands down

avflox — Sun, 14 Dec 2008 00:19:49 -0600

My understanding about the Victoria's Secret brand is that they're
moving toward a more comfortable approach to sensuality. Ever since
they began reshaping their image, I have found myself less and less
attracted to their products. I like the floss of thongs, feel of
stockings and confining squeeze of corsets. I buy them alone, with only
myself in mind. Sometimes I share them, but usually, they sit in my
closet to be worn some morning when I'm home alone and able to enjoy
them on me.

I have never asked the men I'm with what they think is sexy. To be
perfectly honest, I'm not entirely sure I care. I might suggest I was a
terrible lover, except evidence points to the contrary. It's possible
there is a degree of selfishness in possessing your sexuality. You want
what you want and you're going to find someone who can give it to you
as fast, hard and often as you like. It's here and now or bust, baby.

That or I'm a Scorpio.

My understanding about the

avflox — Sun, 14 Dec 2008 00:19:12 -0600

That or I'm a Scorpio.

My understanding about the

avflox — Sun, 14 Dec 2008 00:18:32 -0600

My understanding about the Victoria's Secret brand is that they're moving toward a more comfortable approach to sensuality. Ever since they began reshaping their image, I have found myself less and less attracted to their products. I like the floss of thongs, feel of stockings and confining squeeze of corsets. I buy them alone, with only myself in mind. Sometimes I share them, but usually, they sit in my closet to be worn some morning when I'm home alone and able to enjoy them on me.

That or I'm a Scorpio.

Is Naked the New Uber Sexy?

SexyWhispers — Wed, 03 Dec 2008 03:09:30 -0600

“Your shirt or sexy lingerie?,” I text My Favorite Scorpio. Honestly, the men in my life have it so difficult. I ask them the most point blank sexual questions about men and their perceptions of women. Then, I stand back innocently expecting an answer.

Of course, the great thing is that the few men that are really close enough to me to encounter this triad of personally evasive questions seem to love to share the answers.

“No question. My shirt,” his answer buzzed back almost immediately. To say I was surprised by this response is not accurate. See…I asked because I have my sneaking suspicions. The Marine has always loved naked instead of his shirt (I think that is a laundry issue!) or sexy lingerie. He tells me it has something to do with ruining the mood when he has to figure out complicated hooks and fasteners. Ok, I can understand that. To be fair, the fasteners on my garters confuse my mind and aggravate my sexual soul too. For the men in the audience that believe a bra without a front closure should be banned from the face of the sexual surface of the earth, a corset can be more than a heart can stand.

However, what did strike me as odd was not only the number of men that I asked who reported that sexy lingerie did not turn them on, but I started to notice something completely particular. Even the greater catalogs that build their sexy reputation on scantily clad women in the widow maker, high heels, and stockings, the stuff masturbation dreams are made for young boys suffering from puberty in a small bathroom; do not offer sexy lingerie as a product anymore.

Enter Victoria’s Secrets. If you have perused a VS catalog lately or been into one of their stores, you might notice a suspicious absence of the hallmark of their earliest existence: sexy lingerie. Now they focus mostly on bras, panties, and scents. I would like to say that the switch is a matter of women understanding that sexy is what is inside. In reality, I think that it is more a matter of women not believing the mythology anymore that you have to be sexy on someone else’s terms. Or, is it a matter of men, growing up in the TV / Internet generation, with sexual ADD?

Or…is it?

If men find that a t-shirt and pretty panties are a turn on, then are we still experiencing sexuality on our own terms?
Does wearing his t-shirt give him a feeling of comfortable sexual ownership or possession (not judging that as wrong...just questioning the world!)?
If women accept that the shift in Victoria’s Secrets represents what women want to wear to feel sexy, then why are we paying amazing prices for an uncomfortable bra, panties that remind me to floss every morning (if you need an explanation…then you should enjoy a thong for a few hours!), and a collection of body scents that could send you running for the allergist?

So…here is what I want…from each of you that reads this rant of sexuality! Yeah yeah…I do mean YOU! I want to know…what turns you (or your significant other) on? Really…enquiring minds want to know… Sexy Lingerie, his (my) shirt, or nothing at all?

Get going! Please and thank you. ~~Dee