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Laura, words are powerful

Wilma Ham — Sun, 08 Feb 2009 15:16:41 -0600

Laura, that sounds great. Words are powerful and can hurt. I love the way your other verbs keep the respect in place and you wouldn't be called rebellious for nothing with your last statement about keeping the disengagement ring :)

Wilma Ham

www.wilmasblog.com

oooh one of my favorite topics

washwords — Sun, 08 Feb 2009 13:38:47 -0600

I, too, have a billion stories. I started trying to compile them in book form and found... it was less funny... and more heartwrenching then I'd hoped.

Finally, I'm starting to "get ready" and as an exercise and to populate the blog while I'm there (and busy working on "red line to dumpsville"): find some of my ex files here:

X 365 returns and I do mean EX

washy || http://washwords.com/words || washwords.dc@gmail.com

Dumping Symantics

blindedbyblonde — Sun, 08 Feb 2009 01:42:01 -0600

How about saying to Biff and Buffy that you can't make it to the dinner party because you were recently castrated from your other half and the Dr. has you on strict order to keep ice on it.

how about

Sorry Buffy, but my significant other and I parted ways and since I know women are to insecure to have a single gal around their significant others, I am just going to sit your dinner parties out but feel free to call my Ex because you wont be threatened by him.

Have You Been Dumped or Let Go?

rebellious thinker — Sat, 07 Feb 2009 21:39:56 -0600

I wonder why a better verb has not been found to use in these situations? Why not "let go"? That at least gives the person who was acted upon some remnants of dignity, which is surely a better place to start picking up one's self-esteem than from the old dumpster in front of one's heart.

Another possibility would be "unentangled." This surely enables both parties to regroup their selves and things, and get moving on becoming entangled with someone else. Surely to tell a friend that you have been unentangled and so, no, you won't be joining them for that couples weekend at the beach is far more respectable than to be dumped.

And if an engagement is ended, why not use the wonderful "disengage"? As in, we have disengaged, but yes, I will be keeping the disengagement ring.

Laura, www.RebelliousThoughtsofaWoman.com

So You've Been Dumped...

Thea Newcomb — Fri, 06 Feb 2009 11:43:12 -0600

Over the many years of running So You've Been Dumped (SYBD), there have been tens of thousands of stories posted from people of all ages and in all four corners of the world. Some are a little funny, others are downright shocking, many are sad and most are deeply universal.

One of the longest running (and most entertaining) threads on the site depicts people's stories of "how, when and where" people were dumped. This thread alone has had hundreds of tales of woe which are slowly being compiled into a book. I just thought I'd give you a little teaser....

First, let's take Heather* for example who, whilst away on a camping trip with her husband of eleven years, learned of his infidelity and got dumped in the process. Double whammy! Naturally, it made for a challenging camping trip, and due to having a ten-year old daughter, it made for a challenging recovery too. Six months down the road, she made heaps of progress, and was starting to feel better when, of course, her ex had a change of heart and came crawling back, but by that time it was too late Heather was too far down the path to recovery to consider it, and she basically told him where to go.

Another of my favorite stories over the years was Jen's story. Out of the many, her's stood out because Jen, a bubbly Californian was dumped from her six-year relationship on a Disney cruise on DAY ONE. As if that weren't bad enough, it was her birthday, which was the reason for the cruise in the first place. When she reminded him of this fact, she simply got "oh yeah, whoops" as if it were an afterthought. Classy.

Speaking of Disney - Ariela was dumped whilst on a People's Airline flight on the way back to New York from a fun-filled trip to Disney World. Seems her ex decided that he was moving to Florida for a new job and just didn't see things working out. All Ariela could think was "Stewardess, how do I open this Emergency door?"

A different kind of Mile High Experience...

Faith was another story that stuck out in my head, as she was not only dumped by mail, but the guy sent the letter Express Mail, Yep, it seems that normal mail just wouldn't be fast enough. I guess at least he took the time to write, that's something, eh? He didn't just vanish.

Cammy went away for a romantic night away the weekend before Valentine's Day. They ate sumptuous food, drank wine, had a a lovely romantic time and then two day's later, on Valentine's Day, he calls to end it. Surely he could have waited a day?

But that's not the worst Valentine's story I ever heard, on SYBD. That would have to be Jane's. Jane was dumped four hours after her grandfather's funeral, as she stood at a pay phone, in the rain.

Ok, I am the first to concede that there is never a truly good time or way to break up, but of course there are sometimes better ways and times than others...is there not? Some of these guys had a real knack for timing, bad timing that is. Generally speaking, it's better to aim to avoid birthdays, holidays, exams or other big occasions but sometimes, I agree, it can't be helped.

Tell us your dumped story!

~~Thea
So You've Been Dumped