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don't take it down!

alyssaroyse — Sun, 27 Sep 2009 00:10:40 -0500

My goodness, you don't need to take it down. Parts of it are very funny. And frankly, when lines get crossed, it's the best way for people to actually see where they are.

So we talk about it and learn from it. Make fun of yourself, sure. Make fun of your lover if it's okay with him / her. But we ALL have to be careful when we so unconsciously use humor or casual language in a way that is hurtful.

Pedophilia is not funny, no matter how you slice it. And drawing a connection between a sexual proclivity and pedophilia is precisely what has been done with homosexuality for decades (or longer.)

But don't take it down.... if anything, write another one based on this one.

Ironically, I'm the least PC person you'll ever meet. I hate all this PC crap that doesn't allow us to call things what they are. But it's better - only marginally - than calling things what they're not - at least where things like this are concerned.

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Alyssa Royse

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I apologize

orange peel — Sat, 26 Sep 2009 23:53:05 -0500

I asolutely did not mean to accuse anyone of anything and my God, I have three children. Pedophilia is my worst nightmare. It's not funny at all. I'm sorry if it was taken that way. I didn't even mean anything with the "disturbing" comment. Bad choice of words, I guess. I really could care less what other people do in the bedroom (or on the kitchen table or on the bearskin rug in front of the fire place) as long as it's between two consenting adults.

I apologize. I'm tempted to just take this post down.

Plenty light, but...

alyssaroyse — Sat, 26 Sep 2009 23:46:37 -0500

You called the "bald down there" woman "disturbing," and commented that men who like that are into the whole pre-pubescent thing. It was your commenter, not you, who directly related it to pedophilia. That isn't funny.

Your writing is funny. Sex is funny!

But when our humor crosses a line that links perfectly natural behavior to things like pedophilia, it isn't funny any more. Humor is hard because when it crosses the line to accusation, it's not funny any more.

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Alyssa Royse

Just Cause It: A Web Site To Save The World

READ the magazine http://www.zinio.com/justcause

Sexual kink...

orange peel — Sat, 26 Sep 2009 23:30:40 -0500

Hmmm...it's interesting what people read into things.

I didn't mean to offend anyone. This was meant as a humor piece and had nothing to do with pedophilia or sex with poodles... Just because I don't personally do it doesn't mean I don't or can't see the draw. I said I don't like pain, so I skip the waxing. I could just as easily, and probably will, write a piece on the horror of pubic hair stuck in your teeth. I happen to find pubic hair just as amusing as the lack there of. I myself have many sexual kinks and I could care less if other people find me evil. The whole "happy with they can get" thing is a joke. A joke. The intent wasn't to offend, but to amuse. I wasn't trying to insult anyone; this has been reposted several different times in several different places and this is the first time it has been meet with such a negative reaction . The majority of my readers seemed to get it. And you left such a long comment too! Thanks for giving me the time and setting me right. I should be ashamed!

It's a joke, people. Lighten up.

Congratulations on finding your bald soulmate. I'm very happy for you.

I totally agree

Caissa — Sat, 26 Sep 2009 22:54:53 -0500

Just because a person's preferences are different doesn't necessarily mean it's a bad thing. Is it a consenting adult? Are they engaging in their activity with another consenting adult? If the answer to both questions is yes, then nobody has the right to say anything about it.

Though, as far as the lack of hair thing...all you have to do is have a hair get caught in the back of your throat once to understand the appeal for many.

A Sexual "kink" Is Not A Sign Of Criminal Peversion!

alyssaroyse — Sat, 26 Sep 2009 22:23:06 -0500

Wow, you guys made a pretty big link there between someone liking bare pubes and being a pedophile. Do men who like huge breasts secretly wish they were having sex with cows? Women who like huge cocks secretly wish they were having sex with horses? Do people who "get off" on pubic hair secretly wish they were having sex with poodles?

Just because someone likes something that you don't "understand" or have does not mean they harbor some deeply rooted dangerous pathology or desire to harm people for their own satisfaction.

There are people who love hair, people who can't stand it. Same with breasts, or role playing, or.... Same with pretty much anything else you can name sexually, and it is not your place - or mine - to judge anyone for it.

Personally, I can't stand pubic hair, on me or my partners. Never could. Since long before it was a trend. Same with my lover! Imagine our delight at finding each other! And I can assure you, neither one of us have a single cell of pedophilia in us.

Trends do come and go - take a quick run through the history of Playboy for an easy lesson. But it is NEVER okay to assume that someone's sexual proclivities that differ from yours are in some way evil. That's exactly the same kind of assumption that gives us homophobia, or racism for that matter.

And as for someone just "being happy with what they can get...." I wish for more than that for all of us. I wish for all of us to get what we want, what we crave, and more than that, to be worshiped and adored for who WE want to be, not what society wants us to be.

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Alyssa Royse

Just Cause It: A Web Site To Save The World

READ the magazine http://www.zinio.com.justcause

Ouch!

orange peel — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 14:49:06 -0500

Thanks for reading and commenting! I'm completely with you there! I just don't get the whole thing...maybe I'm missing something? But since I'm not big on pain, I think I'll continue missing it! I had my eyebrows waxed once and that was enough... :)

Exactly...overgrown or not, they're happy with what they get! ;)

Mystery "trend"

Janipurr — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 12:49:41 -0500

I've never understood the whole Brazilian wax trend. I already get the eyebrows waxed--that hurts enough. Getting the entire privates waxed? Not on your life! Just the thought makes me break out in a sweat! I also think it's a little creepy--the whole "only prepubescent children don't have pubic hair" thing. It makes me wonder if all the grown men that are so attracted to that sort of thing aren't also attracted to little girls. Pedophilia is so unattractive. I'll also shave the bikini line and do a little trimming for special occasions--but otherwise my guy is simply grateful for the access, no matter how overgrown it is!

Last Father's Day, I bought

sccruise — Tue, 11 Aug 2009 10:07:57 -0500

Last Father's Day, I bought my husband a shaving kit from http://www.fendrihan.com/ for a little over a hundred bucks. The kit was composed of a shaving brush, a bottle of shave cream, a DE safety razor, blade sampler, and a shaving towel. His skin is kinda sensitive and he usually gets razor bumps. I chose a cream made specially for sensitive skin, and he loved it!

Generation Thing?

EarthToRiot — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 16:12:49 -0500

I'm sure that there are grandmothers who will always be bare-down-there and teens who choose the all natural route. However, being 21, I have no idea what I would look like with any amount of hair. So another tip: try different styles- let it grow, trim it up, take it off. Whatever you haven't tried before. Nothing is right or wrong and its hard to make a personal choice when you haven't tried it any other way. I always just assumed it was like your underarms and legs, as soon as puberty struck, my razor started getting a workout.

EarthToRiot

I know this blog is a couple years old....

JamiSings — Sun, 05 Jul 2009 10:53:57 -0500

But in answer to the grooming question - I think it's important that you're clean down there. After all, they're sticking their nose near a very smelly part of your body.

I remember one time my regular doctor had to do a pap smear on another woman. Apparently she was SO filthy and smelly that she had little balls of you know what clinging to the hairs. My GP ran out of the room and outside, sucking down great mouthfuls of air to try and avoid throwing up. We could hear the nurse ordering the woman to wash herself. (It's a small office.) When the woman came back she was still smelly and had little bits of paper stuck all over and we could hear her loudly proclaiming "That's good enough." She was ordered back to the bathroom to wash with soap.

So obviously some sort of grooming is important. That's why I always like my apointments first thing in the morning so I can be freshly bathed. I also increase my water intake a week or so prior as the more water you drink, the less your urine smells. So if I have to go right before the doctor sees me, I won't have that strong, nasty smell you get when you don't drink enough water.

I've never had a professional wax job and tend to shave along the panty line every day anyway.

~Jami JoAnne Russell~

www.jamisings.com

Awesome

MissStacyD — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 13:19:01 -0500

My skin hates me, this I have decided. Exfoliation and caution is perhaps the best advice. Thanks for the morning insight!

Stacy

How informative

Tina Lane — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 16:39:20 -0500

LOL! Thank you for the handy tips. Yard work will never be the same. www.floridagirlmidwest.blogspot.com

Yes, the "tulips" line makes

miguelina — Sat, 20 Jun 2009 13:28:21 -0500

Yes, the "tulips" line makes me giggle every time. I can't help it!

Wax on, wax off

humanbeing — Sat, 20 Jun 2009 11:21:18 -0500

Regardless of your hair removal method, here are some rules of thumb for avoiding the dreaded rash, razor bumps and ingrowns:

1) gently exfoliate that area every day. I use my Clariisonic face brush, and since I've started, I rarely get an ingrown--and I used to be plagued by them.

2) use an astringent such as Tend Skin (salycylic acid) or benzoyl peroxide when you start getting some grow in.

Also, another great hair removal technique: laser hair removal. It's expensive, about $1200 depending on whether you do American, French or Brazilian. It may not remove all hair permanently, and it's not suitable for people with lighter body hair. However, if you extrapolate how much money you will spend on waxing, shavers, astringent, shaving cream, etc. for the next three years or so, you'll see that you'll spend that anyway. I know many women who've had this done and swear by it. However, it is permanent, so if the 70's full bush ever comes back, you'll be out of luck.

Lynn @ human, being

http://www.humanbeingblog.com