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I'm sure you saw this too:

loriluna — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 18:12:00 -0600

http://omg.yahoo.com/news/oprah-winfrey-apologizes-to-robin-givens-over-reaction-to-mike-tysons-sock-her-comment/31268

Following Up

loriluna — Sun, 08 Nov 2009 20:44:37 -0600

http://new.music.yahoo.com/blogs/thatsreallyweek/57602/nov-2-8-domestic-...

:))

And let's not forget

loriluna — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 21:19:25 -0600

Her "softball" interview with Mike Tyson! Bleck!

Valid point

Denise — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 13:26:27 -0600

I'm with you on the "not an O fan" and I'm with you on this specific point.

If you are going to speak out on domestic violence and take a stance against it, do so without being biased. Do so without approaching the situation as a victim supporter and an abuser trasher…unless the abuser is your close friend. Don’t look at it with a different set of eyes and speak on it with a different voice just because he is a gospel singer and a close friend. That, Oprah is hypocritical.

~Denise BlogHer Community Manager
Flamingo House Happenings

1 is enough

RelationshipQueen — Wed, 08 Jul 2009 22:53:57 -0500

I know, I'm pretty stumped myself about it. I actually just figured this out in my last relationship. I thought all I needed was love and that was enough to make it work, not so much. Apparently, love doesn't change someone, love doesn't make you compatible, love doesn't change your parenting styles, love doesn't better your sex drive, love doesn't seemingly wash the dishes,..oh I could go on and on. I think I got duped when Cinderella sang "So this is love"...I'm learning every day that it's more than love, way more than love.

1 is enough

unmotivated yet — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 21:46:53 -0500

Your number 1 lesson is something I have just now learnt and for the time being that is enough, I am still struggling with that.

How can it NOT be enough? ...........I am still amazed it is not.............

Smart Doesn't Prepare You For This

theotherbed — Mon, 04 May 2009 17:46:46 -0500

I have often said, to myself, that if he hit me, I could have him arrested, and I would. Then I could make a case. Emotional abuse is more insidious than physical abuse because there are no scars or broken bones. But there's definitely feeling broken, scarred, and hopeless.

I just joined blogher, and I'm looking for fellow survivors. Part of the extreme difficulty with living with narcissism, and there are many, is that others just don't get it. I'm finally starting to get it myself. But guess what? He ruined my credit, told everybody I was crazy, and still smiles and says, "Hi, Hon!" as if he doesn't have a problem! I have been looking for a place to live, but I can't fill out the credit app.

A BA, cum laude, and an MFA, did not give me the smarts to anticipate or deal with this kind of thing. We've been together 30+ years, but it took me almost that long to figure out what was going on.

Looking forward to an exchange of information with you. Hope you'll visit my site, too. I have to run and fix my signature now!

Always Getting Better,

theotherbed

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Self-Respect

rebellious thinker — Mon, 01 Dec 2008 15:58:38 -0600

cparker, it all comes down to self-esteem and self-respect. That is what every lesson needs to key in on--having the girls believe in themselves. Believe that they deserve better treatment. Believe that who they are is good enough. Believe that they can dream--and achieve their dreams.

Laura, www.RebelliousThoughtsofaWoman.com

girls and teenage relationships

cparker — Mon, 01 Dec 2008 12:51:35 -0600

i have found this website because i am a drama practitioner (male) looking for new ways to engage with teenage girls on this and other subjects, such as bullying. im in London - in the UK they have a new subject in the school curriculum called PSHE (Physical, Sexual and Health Education). Not enough curricula time is devoted to this subject, which should be taught at home anyway. One thing i noticed from working with a group of Year 8 girls last month, was that 90% of the class ate sweets for breakfast!!! this is surely causing an imbalance in their physiology and making them behave in irrational and unfocused ways.

But i think the main body of work that needs to be done here is cultural deprogramming. from such a young age girls are bombarded with unhealthy personal targets and expectations from society.. i have used many forum and regular drama techniques to open up this subject with teenage students, but am always looking for new and more engaging ways of holding a classroom of girls' attention for the short 50 minute period i get once per month to do this. reading the comments above, and hearing any other personal experiences is very helpful for me, and hopefully can be helpful for those who benefit from my practice.

the 12 steps

christinajeanne — Mon, 27 Oct 2008 21:17:56 -0500

I'm in recovery in theAl-anon program. I'm currently working step 4 which I talk about briefly in my blog. I think your post is great! These steps can help anyone anywhere no matter what they are going through. And if they have a problem I highly recommend they seek help.

Marriage is Not a Prayer Session

rebellious thinker — Sun, 19 Oct 2008 08:07:26 -0500

I was married for 21 years. I did not take the decision to end my marriage lightly, but there is a point in some marriages and relationships when you realize that you and your partner are no longer in a partnership that is fair, in fact, it hurts. According to my religious beliefs or understanding of God, I am responsible for my own actions, not another person's, and that I am not put on this earth to suffer but to reach my fullest potential and be as good as I can to my fellow inhabitants of this earth.

Laura, www.RebelliousThoughtsofaWoman.com

Enough. Guy—and guys—zipper it!

homebizgirl — Sat, 18 Oct 2008 23:01:30 -0500

After 23 years of marriage, I have discovered that there is more to it than that...

My husband and I have a home business together, raise children together, and worship God together.

We have been through things that should have destroyed our marriage, our family, and our lives...

The bible says: "How can two people walk together unless they are agreed?"

The bible also says: "NO ONE can tame the tongue," but a man (or a woman) submitted to God can do anything!

Living a life filled with bitterness, resentment and unforgiveness is not living life at all...

Healing begins with YOU... not someone else.

God can heal you, your children, and yes... even your ex husband.

Try this... klove.com

Life or Living?

rebellious thinker — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 08:30:32 -0500

Last night I laughed and cried at the same time. It's so absurd. Why has this happened, how have I gotten so stuck in this abysmal situation? Why are my children watching this and a part of this torment? I keep trying, and the wall is still a wall. I ask to meet. I ask to mediate. But he just ignores me. I am coming to the conclusion that he is sicker than I thought. I have my November court date, and if the judge helps--great. If not, then I need to move on. What more could I lose?

Laura, www.rebelliousthoughtsofawoman.com

More positive thoughts and hugs from me.

kazari — Tue, 16 Sep 2008 00:19:24 -0500

I can't imagine living in your situation.

Accepting All Blog-Based Positive Thoughts

rebellious thinker — Sat, 30 Aug 2008 08:52:53 -0500

Thank you for your positive thoughts. Compassion, from any source, is wonderful.

Laura, www.RebelliousThoughtsofaWoman.com