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everytime I need a listening

midnightbliss — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 14:04:59 -0600

everytime I need a listening ear, words of wisdom, advice on minor and major decisions, I always feel comfortable to ask it from my bestfriend. I don't know how long we've been bestfriends but we've known each other almost 8 years ago and both of us has been a part of each other's choices and decisions in life. The most important thing is to have trust, honesty and acceptance of the consequences.

This is a Tough One...

MrsWsKitchen — Tue, 15 Sep 2009 07:40:43 -0500

My friend in California called me to personally tell me; knowing she'd had fertility challenges of her own, I was extremely happy for her. (And I saved my bitter tears for the evening over what just isn't fair.)

Which brings me to my personal point-of-view: my infertility is my issue, not anyone else's. Why should people have to walk on eggshells around me? Isn't everyone allowed to be happy and shout their good news from the rooftops? I don't wish to steal an ounce of joy from anyone--I'll deal with my emotional response later, and that might mean a conversation with the mother-to-be that it's not personal, but it's difficult for me to... whatever. Recently a woman that I'm friends with was pregnant and I couldn't even look at her, much less have a conversation. Ugh, all the complaining... so I just made myself scarce with an explanation before-hand. She understood. And now I can babysit for her and give her a break.

I hope this isn't offensive--it's not meant to be. I just think that it's my responsibility to deal with how I receive this kind of news. This is what works for me, anyway.

Amanda
Mrs.W's Kitchen

this may sound silly and a bit controversial but

pookielocks — Mon, 14 Sep 2009 14:57:47 -0500

deleted for my own sanity.

I think it would be incredibly hard

sassymonkey — Tue, 01 Sep 2009 15:03:19 -0500

I had a friend who lived off of $25/week for food and she found it really hard. We lived downtown in a major city, had no car or bus pass and only could shop within walking distance. I still have no idea how she managed. I do know that she was very happy when she had more money.

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Thanks! I have heard so many

kalachimera — Fri, 27 Mar 2009 12:08:57 -0500

Thanks! I have heard so many good things about Mac, I'm really considering it...

Mac

LyN — Fri, 27 Mar 2009 01:03:14 -0500

im using one right now. just a MacBook. great so far and loving it dearly. im actually running vista ultimate as well. so far, no problems with it. even using macdrive to assess my portable hard drive so that it'll be able to read both windows and mac-related stuff saved in it. in short, i love my MacBook.

RE: Debt Free - Wow!

sandhillsis — Sat, 21 Feb 2009 13:54:50 -0600

Thanks for your comments. After helping many family get on the same road to freedom, I really think anyone can do it, if they want to.

Many Blessings.

Sis

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Debt Free - Wow!

conversationswithmoms — Sat, 21 Feb 2009 08:36:14 -0600

Congrats on your financial success. It's great of you to offer your advice to others looking to do the same. May you continue your financial road to success.

Maria Melo

http://www.conversationswithmoms.com

OMG! I had a wacky

beej — Fri, 13 Feb 2009 14:47:42 -0600

OMG! I had a wacky aunt from Poland who insisted that my sisters and I never wash a man's socks. Somehow the underwear was OK, but the socks? NEVER!

LOL

Beej

A Life of Adventure

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A birthday card

MITMommy — Fri, 13 Feb 2009 12:32:54 -0600

You can never do too much. Loved your article (see, you are spreading love even through your post). I will only add that I received a birthday card from my mother this week that actually made me cry (happy). It reminded me of how important I probably am to my own daughter too.

MIT Mommy

I do now she lets me

Wilma Ham — Thu, 12 Feb 2009 21:21:15 -0600

My daughters have no longer a grandmother, so I have to do the honors.
The youngest is 23 and since recently she once again allows me to talk to her about life and love and relationships in 4 hour long phone calls after a period of silence in which mother wasn't so needed any more.

I love this intimacy and her openess to hear about life. I look forward to do that as a grandmother too, I am already thinking about what outrageous things I am going to say to be remembered.

Wilma Ham

www.wilmasblog.com

Amazing

Comm123 — Thu, 12 Feb 2009 14:42:11 -0600

I also felt so warm and comforted by your post. It helped me realize that i focus too much on the outdated-ness of my grandmothers (whom i currently live with and adore) stories and not enough on the messages of love and life she is sharing with me.

Thanks for sharing and spreading your positive attitude!

Jessica

Crittenton Women's Union

www.liveworkthrive.org

Wow

jsassoon — Thu, 12 Feb 2009 12:03:54 -0600

I got the feeling of warmth and comfort in my belly as I read your post. You are so lucky to have that beautiful relationship with your grandmother. And your child is so lucky to have a wonderful and loving role model like you.

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Respect yourself; find

Encouragement within;

Appreciate your unique gifts and strengths;

Love yourself...unconditionally!

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Give Empathy, Not Solutions

sondon — Fri, 02 Jan 2009 15:27:10 -0600

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When I talk to my adult daughter, the mother of my 2 precious granddaughters, I have to constantly remind myself that when she tells me her problems, she wants empathy, not solutions. Being the problem solver that I am requires great restraint, but amazingly when I say: Oh, that must be so hard for you, I can hear the gratitude in my daughter's voice.

It may not seem like much to repeat back what a person has told you, but the results can be incredibly powerful because she feels heard and understood.

Thank you for reminding us to listen with heart,

Donne

Thanks!

FutureMama — Thu, 01 Jan 2009 17:45:40 -0600

I hope I can do the same and ask how I can be a better wife. I think I know a few answers myself but he'll probably tell me a few things I didn't even think of!

Happy New Year! And cheers to a year full of happieness and building relationships!

Jennifer

http://www.babymakingmachine.blogspot.com