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Research leads to employment for some

prophetlady — Fri, 06 Nov 2009 01:05:49 -0600

You might consider it blowing money on research, but someone got paid. In todays times people need to make a living and a research enables this process. I use to work for a variety of research companies, and I made a decent part time living doing it, and it placed food on my table.

I think you are more affected by the outcome of the statistics then the actual research itself, I hardly doubt the statistics are lying or are inaccurate in the findings of this particular study.

try not to take it so hard, and look at it as a paid study that someone made a living from, and that was the end result

forgot I was meant to post this

parker101 — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 10:14:12 -0600

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aGjV81tqetI (not the best example of this type of Bounty . . . I mean Plenty . . . ad but these two characters have been in these ads for at least 3 years).

Sure, why not?

TheBeerLady — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 09:15:39 -0600

sorry - double post!

Sure, why not?

TheBeerLady — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 09:14:46 -0600

I get a kick out of the term personally - and yes, I fall into the cougar category. It was all I could do a couple of weeks ago not to laugh out loud when a guy referred to me as a cougar in the grocery store. I'm fairly certain he didn't realize I could hear him when he told his friend, "Dude, check the cougar with the pink hair - I would totally do her." Shoot, he seemed to mean it as a compliment, so it's all good...

Ego Lessons

Paula Copeland — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 05:42:59 -0600

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It Has Become a Life Long Job - Learning To Listen

Gena Haskett — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 17:58:40 -0600

I'm not as good as I hoped to be at this point. I do try to hear what has been said and what was really communicated.

I will have to begin studying your blog. I've always wanted to take a class on how to communicate with difficult people. Then again, I might be one of those people. ;-)

Thank you for your comment.

Gena - Out On The Stoop

Thanks, Tara

Bill Cammack — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 16:30:32 -0600

Thanks, Tara. I appreciate your comment. :)

I don't post here or anywhere else (inlcuding my own blog) to receive agreement, or friendship or credit or about a million other things, but the thing that means the most to me is that people open their minds to the possibilities in life. It might not be a PROBABILITY or relevant in their own lives, but in most cases, I just want people to be able to see things from a different perspective and then think about it and come to their own conclusions... including "Bill doesn't know WTF he's talking about!" :D

I get a lot of insight here that otherwise would have been missing from my database of possibilities. My goal is to give back and hopefully present a different view, even if it's a disliked view, because not everyone thinks the same way and not everyone acts the same way and even the people that act the same way do so based on different motivations, so instead of adding more "Buy your girlfriend flowers and agree with everything she says" garbage to the pile, I'd rather post something that might spark thought & debate, leading to people either changing their minds or solidifying their position that they're right about what's going on in their lives.

Cheers! :D

~ Bill
I blog at billcammack.com

Dear Bill

tarawhitneysims — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 16:22:03 -0600

Even if I don't agree with your opinions. I truly respect your thoughts. You get me thinking.

It IS all about me!

Beverly Flaxington — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 08:07:20 -0600

I read this post with so much interest because this is exactly what I've written about in my book "Understanding Other Peope: The Five Secrets to Human Behavior". Secret Number One is that "It's all about me". But, not that we are totally ego-centric and full of ourselves, rather that we can't help but view the world through our own lens -- a lens comprised of our needs, our background, our experiences, etc. To process info, we tend to "label" things and make quick decisions based upon what we know and what we would have done. It's so hard to be genuinely empathic when we don't even realize we are using our own lens. So, recognizing it is the first important step and then learning to be an "Interested Observer" is next -- genuine interest and curiosity about what other's really mean. It takes work!

Beverly Flaxington

Blog: Dealing with Difficult People

Book: Understanding Other People: The Five Secrets

I saw this a while back and

anaesthetic — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 02:06:47 -0600

I saw this a while back and think it's horrible. I didn't know about the case on Maryland. I'm shocked that this is going on in Afghanistan but even moreso that it's still viewed as such in my "backyard".

IS it anti-feminist? Well,

anaesthetic — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 02:00:13 -0600

IS it anti-feminist? Well, maybe but I'm not a feminist, really. I think it's more important to focus on how faking can cheapen the pleasure both parties could be having, really. I wouldn't say "Fess up for other women" I would say "Be honest to help yourself and your relationship."

Women and the Great Depression

dkdanielson — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 10:15:38 -0600

Hi Suzanne - Thanks for including us in this. Glad to see people discussing the topic and not assuming it has "gone away." Your comments made me think back to some of my historical research about women in the Great Depression. Here's actually a good summary of how the women's movement stalled during the Great Depression, yet there are some parallels to what is going on now. http://www.novelguide.com/a/discover/egd_02/egd_02_00550.html.

P.S. I'm with you on the more male caregivers being a big deal. It's an interesting twist. Especially because more people miss work for elder care than child care and it's going to be am even bigger issue. I'm thinking that maybe it's son's out of work? having to move back home? or Single/Divorced? Also, I note that my brother will have the responsibility because he lives near my parents. So, it may be a geographic thing.

Diane K. Danielson ceo, DowntownWomensClub.com

Women and the Great Depression

dkdanielson — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 09:46:13 -0600

Diane K. Danielson ceo, DowntownWomensClub.com

Greatest.Study.Ever!

Suzanne Reisman — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 20:14:19 -0500

OMG. I cannot imagine what the funding requests for that study looked like.

Suzanne Reisman, Contributing Editor - Feminism & Gender Campaign for Unshaved Snatch (CUSS) & Oth

And then there's the sleep issue!

zip_n_tizzy — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 18:21:49 -0500

My husband told me last night, about a study he'd read that confirmed that men who sleep in the same bed with their wives are more likely to have atrophied brains. So not only do we need to worry about birth order, who's dumber when we marry, but we also have to make sure we give our husbands their own beds.

Maybe we should run a study on the people conducting these studies, eh?

I suspect that'll reveal more than the studies themselves!