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great playlists...

frags79 — Sat, 04 Jul 2009 13:17:46 -0500

so i just started today - the couch to 5K plan. i was always bored with the podcasts out there, i needed something to tell me when to run and when to walk. i found a site that has all 9 weeks laid out with different playlists. (google Suz's couch to 5k playlist). i did the first one today and it was good! a bit of language - music is a bit too hip hop for my liking - but the other weeks look better. hope this helps!

No One Could Tell Me

fittothefinish — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 05:34:25 -0500

Congratulations on your getting healthy! I began my 10 year battle with obesity after I finished college and eventually weighed 305 pounds. During those 10 years that my weight bounded up, many different people in my life tried to help me, but to no avail. I listened politely, and often agreed with their advice, but went on my own way. It wasn't until I really knew I needed to lose weight for me, that I lost 150 pounds twelve years ago.

It sounds like your family members just need and/or want a short term solution to an immediate problem, rather than a long term lifestyle change! I think you are doing all the right things by modeling great behavior, and eventually they may start to take to heart what you are showing them. Enjoy the wedding!

Diane

lost 150 pounds and talks about it at:

www.fittothefinish.com/blog

I don't think I'd dare

gretnagreene — Thu, 02 Jul 2009 05:37:16 -0500

I don't think I'd dare have plastic surgery at all, unless it was absolutely necessary.

We seem to live in a world where people are obsessed by their looks. I had a friend who had breast implants when she was 19 years old - I thought she was nuts and told her so but she said it would make her feel better about herself.

Afterwards she then didn't like her nose, or her hips, etc, etc, etc

I think if you have a negative image of yourself you'll never be happy.

I fantasize about plastic surgery but then reality sets in.

Carole_Hicks — Sat, 27 Jun 2009 19:12:57 -0500

Nope. No surgery for me. I'm going to grow older gracefully.

I own some clothing that sucks in my tummy beautifully AND I'm looking to give away $350 worth of this clothing to FOUR lucky women who are attending BlogHer. See details here --> http://MuffintopLess.com -- Not many entries yet so you chances are very good!

Sigh...

MealMixer — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 20:13:26 -0500

I am surrounded by women my age who spend all day at the gym and look like they are 20. Do their husbands and kids love them more? I look my age, and so does my husband. I had my time in the sun, and am content with who I am now - even though I know that I could look a little better if I was right now on the treadmill instead of playing around on BlogHer!

Anyone ever see a friend who had a boob job w/o clothes? It is...startling... when the rest of her body is almost 50.

: )

If Only it Were Cheap and Risk-FREE!

shannonhylandtassava — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 16:45:00 -0500

It's funny you're writing about this now, because jsut a day or so ago an old friend of mine commented on Facebook that she is seriously contemplating a tummy tuck (after having 2 kids). She's worried about the expense and the scar.

As for me, pregnancy/childbearing really didn't change my body for the worse (don't hate me), so that's not my impetus, but, even though I'm fairly happy with (resigned to?) my body, the truth is that if plastic surgery were a.) cheaper and b.) truly risk-free, I'd seriously consider lipo on my hips/thighs.

I wish I were more evolved than that, but I'm a slim, active, fit runner, and no matter what i do diet or exercise-wise, it does not touch the fat on my upper outer thighs (or inner, for that matter!)--no matter how slim I am. I've inherited my mother's side of the family's upper thighs, and they're just not pretty, and they do not respond to any sort of behavior change on my part. It would be amazing to sculpt them into a more "conventional" shape through surgery, but every now and then you hear about people DYING from lipo. Can you imagine the message that would send to your children? Ugh. Plus, I can't afford it. But I've been struggling to accept my lower body since puberty, and I still pine for a smooth silhouette from waist to knee rather than my lumpy pear-shaped one. I'd love to look like the runner I am (and feel like).

Envy, fear and loathing all at once

Mom101 — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 09:57:20 -0500

I would love to have my prebaby body. Mostly the boobs. Probably the thighs. Stomach is up there. But I'm terrified of elective surgery horror stories which seems vaguely irresponsible once I've got kids depending on me.And then I hate the entire societal pressure to be perfect anyway. At what point can we just pass the perfect body baton to the younger, more supple generation and say "it was a fun run while it lasted...your turn."

Of course I reserve the right to change my mind at any time.

Mom-101

Cool Mom Picks.com

I Need One, But Won't

fittothefinish — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 06:41:11 -0500

I totally understand your friend's longing for her old tummy back. When I lost 150 pounds twelve years ago a lot of skin issues were revealed. Even though I would love to have things tightened up, I won't. I can't afford it, I'm afraid of the risks, and for me, the small cosmetic issues remind me of where I was, and where I don't want to go again. Like everything in life, this is a personal choice. Thanks for sharing.

Diane

lost 150 pounds and talks about it at:

www.fittothefinish.com/blog

I'd Love a Tummy Tuck Too

Amy S. — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 06:05:52 -0500

and breast surgery. I wish I was one of those people that was happy and comfortable with my body, but I think those people are few and far between. For most of us mere mortals, self esteem is tied directly to health and how we look.

I haven't done it yet because I'm terrified of complications -- I have a tendency toward bizarre reactions to routine medical procedures (almost died after my last C-section).

Amy@UWM
Up With Moms

As much as I would love a

Headless Mom — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 13:39:43 -0500

As much as I would love a flat stomach I just don't think that I could ever do it. Honestly? I think it's because of the anesthesia. Well, that and my luck I'd end up with a road map on my belly and then not be able to show anyone!

In the end, too expensive

moonfever0 — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 00:27:55 -0500

I would be totally jealous as well. The tummy is one spot that I can't seem to have any control over. But I never had the nerve to find out how much it would cost. When you hinted at the price, the thought went right out of my mind because I'm way too cheap to spend that kind of money on myself.

Angela at mommy bytes
BlogHer Contributing Editor in Mommy & Family Cribsheet

I understand the impulse

AmberS — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 22:33:58 -0500

I don't think I have plastic surgery envy. I might still be too young, I don't know of anyone who's had it. And, like you, I would never have it myself. The idea of paying so much money for major surgery doesn't feel like something I'd go through with.

But I understand the impulse. I have two kids. My body has the associated wear and tear and I don't particularly like it. It surprised me, really, because I've never had what I would consider a negative self image. But the whole experience of bearing children left me feeling out of control and a little demoralized. Yes, my body can do amazing things, I just wish it didn't look quite so mom-ish.

~ Amber

www.strocel.com

Need a Moment ads

Suzanne Reisman — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 21:36:10 -0500

Yes, I hate those, too! And I suspect that I would hate the Brazilian yogurt commercial that Grey mentioned. Again, if advertisers are so creative, why can't they think of ways to sell products that don't insult us?

Suzanne Reisman, Contributing Editor - Feminism & Gender
Campaign for Unshaved Snatch (CUSS) & Other Rants

I think of

JennSpastic — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 20:17:25 -0500

Seeing this reminds me of another ad campaign that I hate. The Twix "Need a moment?" thing. Those are pretty disturbing.

Electronic gadgets

Maria Niles — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 20:01:37 -0500

The great thing these days is if you have a smart phone or ipod you can read on that and people won't think you are as odd as when you whip out a paperback in a nightclub ;)

But seriously, having the book is great in case you need it but I find that just getting out there helps build my confidence for meeting and talking to people.

Thanks for your comment!