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Such grace

moonflower studio — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 01:02:27 -0600

Such grace and beauty! How inspirational. Thank you, I sent a link to my facebook page. It's the best antidote for manic mondays.

lovelylocks

notUrtypicalGma — Sun, 08 Nov 2009 22:06:45 -0600

all of my daughters are blessed with beautiful hair, when they were born there was a concern as to what kind of hair they would have since their father is half african american and half native american. would they be born with the "good" hair or would they have these tight little curls or a wooly mass that i would braid into distinct little hairstyles know in the black culture. well they have "good" hair and my oldest has my curly do, my middle straight, and my youngest has the thickest hair ever that we cut after her championship football game. i did not want to cut it until after that game and i was adamant about that because i wanted everyone to know she was the only girl on the team by her thick long braid peeking outta her helmet. after the game the first thing she asked was "are we cutting my hair?" and i did and it is sitting on my friends armoire ready to be sealed in an envelope to donate to locks of love. so now the cycle will begin again and i will have her grow her hair out again so that she can donate it next year at this time. i think this is a special thing for kids to do.

aside from that my kids have had long hair, short hair everything in between. and so have i sporting a pixie at 2, a wedge at 8 and again at 21, and a bob, and a boycut that i teased high, and all those locks in between, i wear my hair long now and i color it every two weeks because of the grey. my hair is my best feature, and right now i like it long who knows in a year or two i might want it short. and my girls? whatever makes them feel confident and beautiful if its a mohawk or rapunzel locks so be it, because they can.

Thanks, Serena

Mata H — Sun, 08 Nov 2009 20:09:24 -0600

It is amazing, isn't it? And such a metaphor for so much more. True magic. Thanks for commenting!

Mata

. ~~ Contributing Editor, Mata H. also blogs right along at Time's Fool

wonderful story

serenakathleen — Sun, 08 Nov 2009 18:37:33 -0600

This was a great article, on a wonderful story. I've seen them dance before (not in person of course--video on the web somewhere). My husband showed it to me originally. I LOVED watching them dance.

Serena

It's about Height

Brianne — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 18:00:55 -0600

As you mentioned, whether or not a size 12 is healthy depends on the height of the woman. If she's 5'9" a size 12 is very reasonable. It's obviously a different story if she's 5'1". The models in the magazines are more than likely 5'8" and above, and thus a size 12 would probably not be above average or unhealthy for their height.

thanks

Mata H — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 13:37:58 -0600

Thanks so much for your comment. As I said, this video and story have been haunting me.

~~ Contributing Editor, Mata H. also blogs right along at Time's Fool

That was beautiful

LucindaA — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 10:19:22 -0600

Really, really beautiful. Thank you.

Short hair is more work for adults, hadn't thought about bedhead

Rita Arens — Fri, 06 Nov 2009 09:02:30 -0600

As my family and daycare workers will attest, I have WICKED bedhead in the morning. My very short hair sticks straight up and even though it's fine, it won't behave until it's washed. I used to worry what the daycare teachers would think on the days I work from home, but I finally decided screw it. A headband and spiky bedhead is what they see every Friday.

I hadn't thought about dealing with bedhead on a little kid. That alone makes me glad my daughter's hair is still long. We wash it at night, she sleeps with it wet, and she wakes up looking totally normal. So jealous.

Rita Arens writes at Surrender Dorothy and BlogHer and is the editor of Sleep is for the Weak.

Of all of the things to exert control over.

ameliasprout — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 22:11:01 -0600

Hair just isn't worth the battle. If a kid wants to rebel, let them do it with their hair. It is for the most part, harmless.

I had a mohawk when I was 12, I cut it myself, crooked. After my mom got annoyed with it being off kilter, she started doing it for me. Sort of took the fun out of doing it, but it looked better. Within reason, and age appropriate, M can do anything she wants with her hair. I can't wait to see what she comes up with.

She wants it? She gets it!

prbylisa — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 09:23:03 -0600

I'm with you...if she likes it that way, and she helps to keep it up, why not let her control it herself! My daughter is 2 1/2 and has her hair almost to her waist with bangs (we had to cut the bangs, her hair was ALWAYS in her face.) We trim it, we cut it to her shoulders last winter, but she likes having her long hair and having it braided and pigtailed. Her daddy LOVES her hair and really so do I...but if she wants to cut it, I'll do that too. She is adorable anyway her hair is.

On the flip side, my dad controlled my hair length...going as far as to measure it before I went for a trim to make sure I didn't cut off more than 2 inches. As soon as I turned 18, I cut my hair to my chin. Now, I cut it short and grow it out often through the year. Personally I find my shorter hair easier to do and more stylish than simply having it in a ponytail day after day.

PR by Lisa

www.insidelisa.blogspot.com

Toilet Test!

Zanre5 — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 07:01:47 -0600

I discovered the toilet test when potty training my third child, only I discovered it for myself! When potty training my son, I discovered my long hair would fall into the toilet (gross huh!) and told my stylist that I had to cut it short enough to pass the potty training test. I have recently finished potty training #5. Perhaps I can let it grow longer now!

As for my daughters, it did break my heart when my oldest daughter wanted short hair at around age 4. My current 3 year old has very long and beautiful curly hair. I keep telling her that it is so beautiful as to encourage her to let it grow. It hasn't failed the toilet test yet. When the time comes that she truly begins to assert her own opinion, I will allow her to do as she wishes. But as long as her decision is being influenced by others, it might as well be influenced by me. I don't have opinions that women have to have long hair, etc. but let's face it, it is way easier to cut your daughters hair when she is ready than to give her long hair when she decides she wants it.

Side note, daughter number 3 (age 2 1/2) is also sporting the toddler mullet. It is amazing how different each girl's hair can be as it grows in when determining the age old question "to cut bangs or not to cut bangs".

Unrealistic diet...like all the others

SpinDiva — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 06:37:24 -0600

So what happens when the individual returns to eating normal food...oh wait, I know, they gain it all back with a vengeance. I admit that most diets out there that promote a quick fix can sometimes be convincing on paper and when one is desperate to loose a few pounds, you know, to get you started on the weight loss wagon. But then it all come crashing down and the anxiety and stress from the let down of a promising product kicks in which makes everything worse. It's such a terrible cycle to be in...been there, done that and know better to never to do it again. Thanks for posting this, very important message.

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As long as she brushes it..........

Molly70 — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 03:35:35 -0600

My oldest daughter (age 7) has exactly the kind of hair I always wanted as a child: long and straight but also voluminous and not too curly. Not super mousy straight either. I always tried to grow my hair long, but since it's too curly, it would just puff itself out and make my head look like a pyramid. So I'm more than happy to let her keep it long. HOWEVER, she doesn't do a good job brushing it, so we have a daily morning battle in which she wants to do her own ponytails (one on each side) and I always re-do it because I can't stand to see it done shabbily, messily. She hates it, but I can't bear to let her go to school that way, I'm sorry. It seems like all the other little girls have decently brushed hair.... How do those other moms manage to get THEIR ponytails done decently?!!??! sorry to sound bitchy!

Fun topic!

gmcnulty — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 21:04:03 -0600

Great Topic! I have 3.5 year old quadruplets (one boy and three girls). I love my girls long hair and so do they! One of my girls has very fine sllloooowww growing hair and she is DYING for it to grow out too. The only thing I can't stand is when it's in their faces.. I LOVE to see their sweet little eyes and smiles. SO, when we are home, they can wear it however they want. BUT, when we go out to play, it's a different story. If they don't let me fix it... they don't get to go. Period. It works for us. They have freedom at home but know that "on the go" it has to be out of their faces. As for me, well.. my mom was very much the same way with us growing up. So I guess I know where I get my feelings on hair from. As an adult (and an athlete) I can't stand to have it in my face. So, long hair works better for me. However, I love to change it up and will chop it off once a year. It makes me feel like a new person. ANYWAY! What I guess I'm saying is... I love my little girls hair long as LONG AS it looks clean. When they get older they can decide for themselves. Loved the topic so I thought I'd share my 2cents!

Gen McNulty www.mcnultyquads.com

I wrote about my daughter's hair last month

Yvonne — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 20:14:40 -0600

I've become attached to it, because of what it represents.

http://www.joyunexpected.com/archives/2009/10/hair_a_love_sto.php

Don't know how I'll be able to cut it off if she ever asks me to.