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Winter skincare I can't live without

Catherine YourOnRamp — Sun, 22 Nov 2009 00:36:07 -0600

Marie Veronique Organic face oils and sunscreen are the best! The oils keep my face moisturized even in the cold dry mountain air. The sunscreen was featured this week in Style.com:

http://www.style.com/beauty/beautycounter/2009/11/au-naturel-color-corre...

12 Days of Giving

Trendspotter — Sat, 21 Nov 2009 19:49:07 -0600

Great Finds here Blackbird. I found myself humming the song while I read your post. Tee Hee.

I especially love that JCrew necklace. It's gorgeous. I'm going to add it to I Need Pretty Things' "Thing We Heart" section.

Good work!

blackbird — Sat, 21 Nov 2009 08:13:58 -0600

Good work!

I think the secret is

marathonmummy — Sat, 21 Nov 2009 07:50:10 -0600

I think the secret is Clarins Beauty Flash Balm - it really brightens up winter skin, when mine is looking grey and tired at this time of year! My sister swears by Aveda's tourmaline face mask - and she looks great, so it's worth a try.

Banana face

Jaimes — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 16:53:56 -0600

I'm all for homemade facials. I'll give this one a try. My kids will think it's hilarious and probably call me 'banana face.'

I found a good recipe for exfoliating from a book on ayurveda (traditional Indian medicine). Take a little orange peel (found in the spice section at the grocery store) and mix it with powdered milk. I don't measure, but equal parts of each, approximately. Add a few drops of water to make into a paste (you can also use rose water, if you want to get fancy). Then, just rub it on like any other exfoliator and rinse off.

Jaimes

I have an expensive blue

njgeiger — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 13:54:31 -0600

I have an expensive blue wool suit that's old, but that I love and always get compliments on. One spring I saw that there were 3 tiny holes up near the right shoulder. There was no way to mend them, so I bought 3 blue "jewels" from a craft store and super glued them over the holes. Everyone thinks the jacket came like that! I am not crafty at all - so was very proud of myself for saving a favorite outfit! :)

Nancy

Can you recommend a good

sarah_bee — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 11:15:43 -0600

Can you recommend a good website or magazine that shows trends I can TRUST? It's hard to know what magazines/sites are well edited....

That's what I wonder, too

Suzanne Reisman — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 00:47:48 -0600

At what point does being asked to change who you are stop being compromise (which is important to a relationship to a point) and start becoming control? When my mother-in-law started graying, my father-in-law, who is overall a very good guy, told her to start dying her hair, as he didn't marry a woman with gray. She felt that coloring her hair was a small concession she could make, and didn't mind, although I was horrified. Of course, she didn't marry a guy with a big bald spot, but she didn't see the point in asking him to grow his hair back when I suggested it. For them, it was a good compromise, but I think if he asked her to have a facelift or something like that, she'd be offended. Anyway, I hear you.

Suzanne Reisman, Contributing Editor - Feminism & Gender Campaign for Unshaved Snatch (CUSS) & Oth

I just fell in love with him, too

Suzanne Reisman — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 00:42:22 -0600

What a beautiful story! I wish every person could have such a thoughtful and compassionate partner. Thanks so much for sharing.

Suzanne Reisman, Contributing Editor - Feminism & Gender Campaign for Unshaved Snatch (CUSS) & Oth

I totally agree

cluelesscrafter — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 21:28:38 -0600

I totally agree that some things are just worth changing for when it comes to love. Once I was asked to change my face and so I did.

Easy as pie.

The only tragedy here was that I misheard what my partner said. Apparently it wasn't my face that was the problem, it was my race. What a mess.

As you may have surmised, we are no longer together.

http://www.thecluelesscrafter.com/

I totally agree

cluelesscrafter — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 21:27:35 -0600

I totally agree that some things are just worth changing for when it comes to love. Once I was asked to change my face and so I did.

Easy as pie.

The only tragedy here was that I misheard what my partner said. Apparently it wasn't my face that was the problem, it was my race. What a mess.

As you may have surmised, we are no longer together.

http://www.thecluelesscrafter.com/

I totally agree

cluelesscrafter — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 21:26:49 -0600

I totally agree that some things are just worth changing for when it comes to love. Once I was asked to change my face and so I did.

Easy as pie.

The only tragedy here was that I misheard what my partner said. Apparently it wasn't my face that was the problem, it was my race. What a mess.

As you may have surmised, we are no longer together.

http://www.thecluelesscrafter.com/

A personal story

kazari — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 20:09:03 -0600

Very early on in my relationship (which is now 9 years and counting), we ended up in his bedroom. I was thrilled and looking forward with anticipation... until I remembered the state of my legs. From memory, we'd just got back from a multi-day sailing trip or something, and I don't think I'd shaved my legs for a week.

I was horrified, and immediately switched gears, looking for a way out of the situation. When he insisted on knowing what the matter was, I couldn't even think of a decent lie, so I told him the truth.

He hugged me, and said he cared about what was in here (touching my head) and in here (touching my heart) and not about my legs at all.

I think I fell in love with him, just then.

http://myrope.wordpress.com

A worthwhile man would, I

mdilloway — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 19:07:57 -0600

A worthwhile man would, I think, be attracted to his partner with or without hair. What if she gets ingrown hairs? Would he still want her to go through the burden and pain? My husband says he likes me how *I* like me, and based on his response, I believe him. My hair (on my head as well) has been short, long, medium. I have gotten hugely overweight (70 lbs!) during three pregnancies and gotten back down to 18% body fat. My body has changed tremendously during the time we've been together. Through it all I have never, ever felt unattractive to him.

I think a woman should hold out for a mature man who will not want her to harm herself to please him, but will be pleased by her regardless of what she chooses to do with her body hair. Because if the man can get so worked up over pubic hair, what's going to happen when she gets stretch marks from having a baby or her breasts sink by gravity?

American Housewife www.margaretdilloway.com

Power Struggle

Bill Cammack — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 13:10:57 -0600

As in most dating scenarios, the key to this issue is which one wants to be in that particular relationship more, and why.

If the guy wants to be with the gal more than he wants to see and feel what he wants to see and feel (assuming he feels that way in the first place), then he's going to have to grin and bear it.

If the gal wants to be with that particular guy more than she wants to retain her Afro, then she's going to have to grin and bare it (ha ha, I made a funny :D).

Ultimately, these things should be discussed and figured out BEFORE people claim they're in a relationship with each other, not AFTER. :D If he doesn't like it, he's either not going to go near it very often (if at all) or he's going to exit the relationship ASAP (meaning as soon as he finds a different chick). If she's not willing to do something that turns her man on, the advice you gave is spot-on in that she needs to eject and find a different boyfriend.

~ Bill
I blog at billcammack.com