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Always Somebody Missing

nma5632 — Thu, 26 Nov 2009 05:27:30 -0600

Inevitably, another year gone by means somebody missing from one table or another. This year, it is my father who passed 10 days ago. Thanksgiving, being his most favorite holiday, will be most horrible to navigate this year.

It's taken 10 years...

Average Jane — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 07:20:22 -0600

When I was growing up I loved, loved, loved Christmas and always got excited about decorating, baking, etc. However, after my mom died in 1998, I could never regain that feeling. I wasn't outwardly sad, I just couldn't find the spark that had been there.

This year, I think things may finally have turned around. I've been buying gifts all year long and I've stopped having "I don't know if I'm going to put up a tree this year" thoughts. I think I'm actually looking forward to the holiday season for the first time in far too long.

holidays and grief

NICURNmama — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 23:12:44 -0600

in 2005 our family lost 6 family members, some sudden and unexpected and some we knew was inevitable. those first couple holiday seasons were hard. we still celebrated but there was a sense of melancholy and things just didn't seem right. one way of coping was we puposely changed things up a bit. we ALWAYS celebrated Christmas on Christmas Eve with my hubs family all formal like but we instead gathered on Christmas Day and kept it casual and fun. We still miss our family members who have gone but as time went on we found holidays and other days we just think of them, remember them and smile.

Take care.

Prevention is better than a cure

BugginWord — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 16:01:32 -0500

Thanks, much.

Denise, I've been working on this a while and was inspired by your "pink" piece to post it here on BlogHer.

I recently participated in Light the Night for the LLS. The event was great and I met some fantastic people, but as I held my plastic balloon with a plastic light inside it powered by a pair of batteries that was certain to end up in a landfill, I was more than a little overwhelmed by the thought of how many carcinogens had been produced to bring the event to fruition.

When people ask me if they can donate to support those fighting cancer, I'm going back to my original suggestion to fund organizations like EWG. Sure a cure would be great, but I'd really rather never have cancer in the first place.

Elly
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I had to favorite this post

sassymonkey — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 15:52:35 -0500

And then chatter it and twitter it.

The most basic human actions - eat, drink, breathe, and sleep – are life threatening and it’s MY battle with cancer? Cancer can appear at any age, at any time, in any place. It will continue to do so, and with increasing frequency unless we change our thinking. This is OUR battle.

Loved this.

Sassymonkey and Sassymonkey Reads.

This is a great post

Denise — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 15:47:25 -0500

I particularly agree with this:

As cancer rates continue to explode across this country (and in far greater numbers than other countries) why do we continue to place the responsibility on the individual? As much as I’d love to find a cure for all the various cancers plaguing the populations of the world right now, I’d love even more to prevent them.

~Denise BlogHer Community Manager
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The lesson to learn

Nordette — Tue, 25 Aug 2009 14:23:02 -0500

Tresha, I think your comment is on point for the higher lesson we should learn from MJ's tragic death. Thank you.

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True but

Nordette — Tue, 25 Aug 2009 14:18:41 -0500

If you take the pills by yourself, it's suicide. If the doctor injects you, it's homicide. If the doctor knows your history of mixing and matching drugs, and writes you a dangerous prescription anyway, it's negligence. If the doctor only knows what you told him or her and your blood work and records support your claims to him/her, then the doctor's off the hook. That's what I learned from watching House. Doctors can't make good choices unless we're honest. :-)

But I get what you're saying. It's dangerous whenenever we try to place blame on others for choices we make. Grieving families could have a field day if we blamed deaths from self-destructive behavior solely on physicians. If Michael had swallowed a bunch of pills alone in his home, I'd question why the doctors prescribed the pills and see it as moraly wrong, but I don't think I'd hold a doctor legally responsible. Even in the case of Elvis, the most his doctors could have been accused of is negligence and enabling. Homicide wouldn't apply if the medicine had clear instructions and Elvis abused the drugs.

Maybe we're in murky waters because we're debating the legal opinion of a news anchor. LOL.

Nordette Adams is a BlogHer CE & you can find her other stuff through Her 411.

Murky Waters

Diana — Tue, 25 Aug 2009 10:53:14 -0500

I do agree that the enabling of celebrities by doctors is a dangerous and serious issue that needs to be addressed. From the sounds of what is being published it's pretty clear these doctors were playing with fire when it came to the drug cocktails they administered to Michael. Charges are probably in order in this case. I do think however, we're getting into some murky waters when we conclude that: "homicide means Jackson would not have died without the doctor's involvement."

There are a number of potent prescriptions in my bathroom cupboard at home. Muscle relaxers and pain killers that were prescribed for good reason and well-within a doctor's legal and moral limits following an accident. If I were to go home and take the remaining pills today they would likely kill me. One could conclude that without the prescriptions I couldn't have done that and without the doctor I couldn't have obtained the prescriptions. Thus, without the doctor I could not have died. Our definitions today set the precedents for our legal action tomorrow and that particular definition is straddling a dangerous line.

In the context of Michael's case what the anchor meant by the statement is true, in the context of a vast many others it's not.

Thanks Nordette

Tre - — Tue, 25 Aug 2009 01:59:26 -0500

Thorough summary Nordette on a tough topic to write about..

It hits us all on so many levels...

I know for me it's just one more thing to nudge a closer connection with all my loved ones and friends....simply being there..always....like there's no ounce of pain going on in a loved one that I wouldn't want to not know about...how can we all stay connected and stay involved and be a more active part of everyone's life we care about...these are the things i'm asking....

again thanks so much for your coverage...

Tre~

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I am so sorry for your loss

usedtobeme — Thu, 06 Aug 2009 13:14:26 -0500

I am deeply sorry and my thoughts will be with you.

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Thank you for sharing about your husband

Gena Haskett — Sat, 01 Aug 2009 21:01:55 -0500

With all of the bad PR about the bad ones it is encouraging and heartwarming to know that there are people who understand the meaning of the word "love."

It is a gift for the rest of us who still hope to meet "the one." I wish for you in this time of transition the love and peace you need to carry on.

Catch up with us when you are ready.

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I am so sorry

Summerm — Fri, 31 Jul 2009 13:52:19 -0500

I am so, so sorry for your loss.

Summer

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I wonder whether they will

avflox — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 23:33:03 -0500

I wonder whether they will make some kind of a comeback.

She really had more range

avflox — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 23:32:05 -0500

She really had more range than many imagined.