http://www.blogher.com/free-tagging/sahm Comments for "SAHM" en http://www.blogher.com/what-not-say-sahm-stay-home-moms#comment-57553 <p>That &quot;work&quot; question always freaks me.</p> <p>Thanks for reading, stop by the blog. </p> <p><a href="http://mommyniri.blogspot.com/" title="http://mommyniri.blogspot.com/">http://mommyniri.blogspot.com/</a></p> Fri, 05 Sep 2008 19:04:58 -0500 mommyniri comment 57553 at http://www.blogher.com http://www.blogher.com/sharks-will-devour-any-hope-collaborative-law-will-succeed#comment-53319 <p>Perhaps we'll meet there in &quot;meatspace&quot; as my friend Amy Gahran calls it? Appreciate your explanation re the difference between collaboration and mediation. Anything that promotes a sane and thoughtful process is good, in my book. </p> <p>&nbsp;</p> <p>Kim<br /> <a href="http://blogher.org/blog/kim-pearson">BlogHer Contributing Editor</a>|<a href="http://professorkim.blogspot.com/">Professor Kim</a>|</p> Sat, 09 Aug 2008 19:19:46 -0500 Kim Pearson comment 53319 at http://www.blogher.com http://www.blogher.com/sharks-will-devour-any-hope-collaborative-law-will-succeed#comment-53315 <p>Kim,</p> <p>Per chance, are you going to be in DC 2008? </p> <p><a href="http://www.claudiabroome.com/">www.ClaudiaBroome.com</a></p> <p><a href="http://www.tohaveandtoholdhostage.com/">www.LadiesDontQuitYet.com</a></p> <p><a href="http://www.tohaveandtoholdhostage.com/">www.ToHaveAndToHoldHostage.com</a></p> Sat, 09 Aug 2008 19:00:40 -0500 Claudia Broome comment 53315 at http://www.blogher.com http://www.blogher.com/sahm-wahm-takes-more-moxie#comment-53314 <p>Thank you, Erika.  Women have been writers who work at home for years, not to mention women taking in laundry while keeping children at home, catering from home, etc.  Yet today, we've got an acronym for that and everything else.  We're so <em>webified</em>! LOL.</p> <p>I think that more people will start telecommuting.  Certainly the more progressive companies in the world promote telecommuting because they've found employees are happier and usually do more work not less. It's the fear that folks will stay home and goof off that causes some employers to resist telecommuting.  You're lucky that both you and your husband have the advantage of working from home.</p> <p><a href="http://blogher.org/blog/nordette">Nordette</a> is a Contributing Editor with BlogHer.com whose personal blog is hosted on another site at <a href="http://bigsole.blogspot.com">this link</a>.</p> Sat, 09 Aug 2008 18:56:26 -0500 Nordette comment 53314 at http://www.blogher.com http://www.blogher.com/sahm-wahm-takes-more-moxie#comment-53312 <p>I laughed at your saying you were to wimpy to be a WAHM.  I know that can't be the whole story because staying home with children and work is no job for a wimp.  But, yeah.  I know what you mean just the same.</p> <p>Nothing beats working from home for convenience and sometimes for peace of mind also.</p> <p><a href="http://blogher.org/blog/nordette">Nordette</a> is a Contributing Editor with BlogHer.com whose personal blog is hosted on another site at <a href="http://bigsole.blogspot.com">this link</a>. </p> Sat, 09 Aug 2008 18:50:27 -0500 Nordette comment 53312 at http://www.blogher.com http://www.blogher.com/sahm-wahm-takes-more-moxie#comment-53310 <blockquote><p>... my co-parent takes for granted that I can take care of everything, because I work from home.  Huge issue!</p></blockquote> <p>When I was married and telecommuted, my spouse seemed to think that because I was home then I was available for anything he wanted to toss over.  This is a common issue that must be addressed by WAHPs.  We've got to prioritize and then be firm with others that we have a work schedule just like they do.  So, you're not alone at all. </p> <p>Thank you for coming by and letting us know where to find you. :-)</p> <p><a href="http://blogher.org/blog/nordette">Nordette</a> is a Contributing Editor with BlogHer.com whose personal blog is hosted on another site at <a href="http://bigsole.blogspot.com">this link</a>. </p> Sat, 09 Aug 2008 18:46:34 -0500 Nordette comment 53310 at http://www.blogher.com http://www.blogher.com/sahm-wahm-takes-more-moxie#comment-53309 <p>Mari, this is so true!</p> <blockquote><p>I believe that in any situation, We are all hybrid moms for all the multi-tasking we do. No matter if its' breastfeeding your child while doing the laundry and cooking meal all at the same time</p></blockquote> <p>Thank you.</p> <p><a href="http://blogher.org/blog/nordette">Nordette</a> is a Contributing Editor with BlogHer.com whose personal blog is hosted on another site at <a href="http://bigsole.blogspot.com">this link</a>. </p> Sat, 09 Aug 2008 18:42:15 -0500 Nordette comment 53309 at http://www.blogher.com http://www.blogher.com/sahm-wahm-takes-more-moxie#comment-53308 <p>No extra help with childcare?  So, you're like most moms who work at home, I think.</p> <p>They must be jugglers. :-)  Thanks for commenting.</p> <p><a href="http://blogher.org/blog/nordette">Nordette</a> is a Contributing Editor with BlogHer.com whose personal blog is hosted on another site at <a href="http://bigsole.blogspot.com">this link</a>. </p> Sat, 09 Aug 2008 18:40:42 -0500 Nordette comment 53308 at http://www.blogher.com http://www.blogher.com/sahm-wahm-takes-more-moxie#comment-53267 <p> I absolutely think that you count as a WAHM. There are <em>so</em> many ways to be a work-at-home parent, so having a child in childcare (mine will be starting daycare part time this fall) and telecommuting absloutely count. One of the publications I'm an editor for is in Texas, so like you, I'm technically telecommuting, while also doing my own writing and editing. I think the beuaty of being a WAHM is that we're redifning what work means/how it's done...even if it's taking a while to catch on as &quot;legit.&quot;  </p> <p>&nbsp;</p> <p>Erika<br /> WAHM, freelance writer and editor<br /> <br />Personal blog: <a href="http://musingsfromthemitten.com " target="_blank">Musings from the Mitten</a>:<br />theWAHMmagazine's companion blog: <a href="http://thewahmmagazine.net/blog" target="_blank">From the Editor's Desk </a></p> Sat, 09 Aug 2008 13:35:06 -0500 EGeiss comment 53267 at http://www.blogher.com http://www.blogher.com/sahm-wahm-takes-more-moxie#comment-53264 <p>Great post Nordette!</p> <p>I too am a WAHM.  I've been a WAHM for 2.5 years now, and while it has its challenges wouldn't have it any other way. (I used to work FT in museum curatorial/education, and PT as an editor/author). My husband also telecommutes part of the week to his FT job in management at one of the Detroit Three, so we're technically a WAH-family.  As a WAHM, I'm an editor, writer (artices and agented non-fiction book author), and publisher of theWAHMmagazine, a content-driven digital magazine for work-at-home parents. I parlayed my editing and writing into my FT WAHM career, but still do art historial work. (I'm also a political wife, which adds an entirely different dimension to the WAHM life, that most don't have to work with, or around.)   </p> <p>I think that one of the biggest hurdles for the WAHM community/industry, is being taken seriously by others outside of the WAHM community/industry. We've all heard it: the &quot;must be nice&quot; comments that come from people who don't think we're really <em>working</em>, or the people who discount us as real professionals when you give yourself the title of &quot;WAHM.&quot; In the past few weeks alone, I've seen articles, studies and blog posts that either remove us from the discourse entirely when discussing women in the work force or ones that heavily criticize us for chosing to be up front about simultaneously placing our families and careers as important. </p> <p>Perhaps as more people telecommute or actively seek to establish a different kind of work-life/family-life balance those (anti-WAHM) attitudes will change. </p> <p>Marie's site (WAHM spot) is great. She's doing a great thing for other WAHMs by highlighting/spotlighting our businesses and products. I've worked with her in the past, and she's got my two thumbs up without a doubt.  </p> <p>--<a href="http://www.erikageiss.com" target="_blank">Erika</a><br />WAHM, freelance writer, editor, magazine publisher<br /> Personal Blog: <a href="http://musingsfromthemitten.com/" target="_blank">Musings from the Mitten</a><br />theWAHMmagazine's companion blog: <a href="http://thewahmmagazine.net/blog" target="_blank">From the Editor's Desk </a></p> Sat, 09 Aug 2008 13:29:42 -0500 EGeiss comment 53264 at http://www.blogher.com http://www.blogher.com/am-i-raising-chauvinists#comment-53035 <p>I think the rolled eyes regarding the chores is a teen thing, boy or girl. If you feel that you are modeling something untoward for your sons and for which your future daughters-in-law will hate you, then it seems you can have a talk and discuss your points, maybe even tell them what makes you uncomfortable and what you want them to understand. They are paying more attention than you think. (I am a high school teacher and a mother of a teen and tween, so I have some street credibility.) </p> <p>But, if that is just not in the cards, then why not have hubby prepare dinner once a week and you drive the family to the restaurant, or whatever, keep switching an &quot;expected&quot; mother and father chore so that does not become the expectation. I mean in the summer the men are generally grilling, why not have him shop for the food he grills--maybe take those family-friendly boys with him to do the shopping?</p> <p>Laura, <a href="http://www.rebelliousthoughtsofawoman.com/">www.RebelliousThoughtsofaWoman.com</a></p> Thu, 07 Aug 2008 19:11:01 -0500 rebellious thinker comment 53035 at http://www.blogher.com http://www.blogher.com/sahm-wahm-takes-more-moxie#comment-52899 <p>I've been a WAHM for 4 years now.  I was a WOHM for one year but I was too wimpy for that, so my wonderful employer allowed me to work from home.  It has been like a roller coaster.  I started WAH with one child and now I have two.  It has taken major juggling and a supportive employer.  I have a sis-in-law nearby and we do some swapping of childcare.  I catch up with work at night.  That is one thing about working from home, I never really feel like I'm off the clock.  If the kids are tucked in, I feel a responsiblity to check in with work and make sure everything is going OK.  I worry about it on vacation and if I sneak out to the park with the kids.  I sometimes think if I worked in an office it would be easier to leave things there at the end of the day.  There is a  bonus... I can throw in a load of laundry while I'm talking to a customer on the phone. </p> Wed, 06 Aug 2008 23:33:03 -0500 crousehaus comment 52899 at http://www.blogher.com http://www.blogher.com/sahm-wahm-takes-more-moxie#comment-52876 <p>Thanks for writing on this topic.  This is my first time commenting on BlogHer, and it feels good to join the community.</p> <p>I'm not sure why, but I had an interesting slightly emotional response to this post.  I often find that I feel a bit like a misfit, because I never seem to fit into the neat categories that acronyms label so cleanly and concisely.  Now, I have a new one WAHM...or maybe I do finally fit...I'm not sure, but my fingers are crossed!</p> <p>Let's see.  I work at home, but I am not self-employed.  I am a mother who works at home, buy my child has always been in childcare or school, so I haven't had the experience of having him here with me all day as I work, except when he's sick or out of school for some reason.  When I tell people I telecommute for a company based on the opposite coast, they automatically assume that that somehow means I've been blessed with the opportunity to spend more time with my child during the week.  Not true.</p> <p>But, I can't begin to tell you the ways it has enriched my parenting (and daughtering--I was able to care for my terminally ill mother and still work full-time thanks to telecommuting) life.  Now that my son is in elementary school two blocks from home, I do get to have lunch with him at least once a week, volunteer at the school for an hour before the West Coast wakes up twice a week, and yes, be at the principal's door for &quot;special occasions&quot; that have come up as he has adjusted to big kid school.</p> <p>The other way I don't fit in with many of the mothers with whom I interact is that I am a single mother.  Well, a co-parenting single mother.  One of the challenges I've found with also working from home in this situation, is that my co-parent takes for granted that I can take care of everything, because I work from home.  Huge issue!</p> <p>So, do I qualify as a WAHM, or is it reserved for women who are self-employed and/or who actually have their children home with them?  I'm hopeful, because sometimes it feels good to fit in.  :-)</p> <p>Thanks, again for your post.  You can check out my embryonic blog at:  <a href="http://www.themamaspot.com/">www.themamaspot.com</a>.</p> Wed, 06 Aug 2008 21:02:54 -0500 VCSMama comment 52876 at http://www.blogher.com http://www.blogher.com/sahm-wahm-takes-more-moxie#comment-52775 <p>I am in the process of finding ways to transition into a WAHM. It is a tough decision especially in this economy. It is also tough keeping up with the obligations and responsiblities of trying to be 100% working full-time and 100% family woman! I believe that in any situation, We are all hybrid moms for all the multi-tasking we do. No matter if its' breastfeeding your child while doing the laundry and cooking meal all at the same time. I do envy moms who are WAHM or SAHM. It's a whole different arena compared to one who works outside the home.</p> Wed, 06 Aug 2008 13:47:05 -0500 maricrisg comment 52775 at http://www.blogher.com http://www.blogher.com/sahm-wahm-takes-more-moxie#comment-52770 <p>Thank you so much for this.  I know it's a growing trend but it seems like I have trouble finding people in the same situation.  Both my husband and I telecommute and we have no extra help with childcare.  It's hard.  I'm going to check out all those links.</p> Wed, 06 Aug 2008 13:05:12 -0500 jlraynes comment 52770 at http://www.blogher.com