http://www.blogher.com/free-tagging/sahm Comments for "SAHM" en http://www.blogher.com/stay-home-mom-syndrome-do-you-have-it#comment-134097 <P>I use to feel that way too, because I was a workaholic, twelve hour days and two jobs going at the same time. I also was being highly abused online that I am lazy for being home, this began the cycle again of believing I was in the wrong for wanting to provide the care for my daughter. After much discussion with my husband we knew we made the right choice.</p> <P>I now feel more comfortable being at home, and making an income freelancing then I ever did when working outside of the house. That does not mean I am lazy, or miss socializing at the office with the girls!</p> <P>Great and honest blog and share,</p> <P>Dawn</p> Sat, 31 Oct 2009 19:08:58 -0500 prophetlady comment 134097 at http://www.blogher.com http://www.blogher.com/what-not-say-sahm-stay-home-moms#comment-83983 <p>I am now at  </p> <p>&nbsp;</p> <p><a href="http://mommyniri.com/" title="http://mommyniri.com/">http://mommyniri.com/</a></p> Mon, 02 Mar 2009 07:34:10 -0600 mommyniri comment 83983 at http://www.blogher.com http://www.blogher.com/bloggy-orphans#comment-73070 <p>I love this post.  I'm glad to know I'm not the only one. :-) </p> <p>~ Amber</p> <p><a href="http://www.strocel.com" title="www.strocel.com">www.strocel.com</a></p> Thu, 04 Dec 2008 21:51:21 -0600 AmberS comment 73070 at http://www.blogher.com http://www.blogher.com/death-baby-safety#comment-69963 <p>Too funny and so true. We not only baby proof, we proof for sleep-deprived parents.</p> Sat, 15 Nov 2008 12:51:17 -0600 sugarbritches26 comment 69963 at http://www.blogher.com http://www.blogher.com/what-not-say-sahm-stay-home-moms#comment-57553 <p>That &quot;work&quot; question always freaks me.</p> <p>Thanks for reading, stop by the blog. </p> <p><a href="http://mommyniri.blogspot.com/" title="http://mommyniri.blogspot.com/">http://mommyniri.blogspot.com/</a></p> Fri, 05 Sep 2008 19:04:58 -0500 mommyniri comment 57553 at http://www.blogher.com http://www.blogher.com/sharks-will-devour-any-hope-collaborative-law-will-succeed#comment-53319 <p>Perhaps we'll meet there in &quot;meatspace&quot; as my friend Amy Gahran calls it? Appreciate your explanation re the difference between collaboration and mediation. Anything that promotes a sane and thoughtful process is good, in my book. </p> <p>&nbsp;</p> <p>Kim<br /> <a href="http://blogher.org/blog/kim-pearson">BlogHer Contributing Editor</a>|<a href="http://professorkim.blogspot.com/">Professor Kim</a>|</p> Sat, 09 Aug 2008 19:19:46 -0500 Kim Pearson comment 53319 at http://www.blogher.com http://www.blogher.com/sharks-will-devour-any-hope-collaborative-law-will-succeed#comment-53315 <p>Kim,</p> <p>Per chance, are you going to be in DC 2008? </p> <p><a href="http://www.claudiabroome.com/">www.ClaudiaBroome.com</a></p> <p><a href="http://www.tohaveandtoholdhostage.com/">www.LadiesDontQuitYet.com</a></p> <p><a href="http://www.tohaveandtoholdhostage.com/">www.ToHaveAndToHoldHostage.com</a></p> Sat, 09 Aug 2008 19:00:40 -0500 Claudia Broome comment 53315 at http://www.blogher.com http://www.blogher.com/sahm-wahm-takes-more-moxie#comment-53314 <p>Thank you, Erika.  Women have been writers who work at home for years, not to mention women taking in laundry while keeping children at home, catering from home, etc.  Yet today, we've got an acronym for that and everything else.  We're so <em>webified</em>! LOL.</p> <p>I think that more people will start telecommuting.  Certainly the more progressive companies in the world promote telecommuting because they've found employees are happier and usually do more work not less. It's the fear that folks will stay home and goof off that causes some employers to resist telecommuting.  You're lucky that both you and your husband have the advantage of working from home.</p> <p><a href="http://blogher.org/blog/nordette">Nordette</a> is a Contributing Editor with BlogHer.com whose personal blog is hosted on another site at <a href="http://bigsole.blogspot.com">this link</a>.</p> Sat, 09 Aug 2008 18:56:26 -0500 Nordette comment 53314 at http://www.blogher.com http://www.blogher.com/sahm-wahm-takes-more-moxie#comment-53312 <p>I laughed at your saying you were to wimpy to be a WAHM.  I know that can't be the whole story because staying home with children and work is no job for a wimp.  But, yeah.  I know what you mean just the same.</p> <p>Nothing beats working from home for convenience and sometimes for peace of mind also.</p> <p><a href="http://blogher.org/blog/nordette">Nordette</a> is a Contributing Editor with BlogHer.com whose personal blog is hosted on another site at <a href="http://bigsole.blogspot.com">this link</a>. </p> Sat, 09 Aug 2008 18:50:27 -0500 Nordette comment 53312 at http://www.blogher.com http://www.blogher.com/sahm-wahm-takes-more-moxie#comment-53310 <blockquote><p>... my co-parent takes for granted that I can take care of everything, because I work from home.  Huge issue!</p></blockquote> <p>When I was married and telecommuted, my spouse seemed to think that because I was home then I was available for anything he wanted to toss over.  This is a common issue that must be addressed by WAHPs.  We've got to prioritize and then be firm with others that we have a work schedule just like they do.  So, you're not alone at all. </p> <p>Thank you for coming by and letting us know where to find you. :-)</p> <p><a href="http://blogher.org/blog/nordette">Nordette</a> is a Contributing Editor with BlogHer.com whose personal blog is hosted on another site at <a href="http://bigsole.blogspot.com">this link</a>. </p> Sat, 09 Aug 2008 18:46:34 -0500 Nordette comment 53310 at http://www.blogher.com http://www.blogher.com/sahm-wahm-takes-more-moxie#comment-53309 <p>Mari, this is so true!</p> <blockquote><p>I believe that in any situation, We are all hybrid moms for all the multi-tasking we do. No matter if its' breastfeeding your child while doing the laundry and cooking meal all at the same time</p></blockquote> <p>Thank you.</p> <p><a href="http://blogher.org/blog/nordette">Nordette</a> is a Contributing Editor with BlogHer.com whose personal blog is hosted on another site at <a href="http://bigsole.blogspot.com">this link</a>. </p> Sat, 09 Aug 2008 18:42:15 -0500 Nordette comment 53309 at http://www.blogher.com http://www.blogher.com/sahm-wahm-takes-more-moxie#comment-53308 <p>No extra help with childcare?  So, you're like most moms who work at home, I think.</p> <p>They must be jugglers. :-)  Thanks for commenting.</p> <p><a href="http://blogher.org/blog/nordette">Nordette</a> is a Contributing Editor with BlogHer.com whose personal blog is hosted on another site at <a href="http://bigsole.blogspot.com">this link</a>. </p> Sat, 09 Aug 2008 18:40:42 -0500 Nordette comment 53308 at http://www.blogher.com http://www.blogher.com/sahm-wahm-takes-more-moxie#comment-53267 <p> I absolutely think that you count as a WAHM. There are <em>so</em> many ways to be a work-at-home parent, so having a child in childcare (mine will be starting daycare part time this fall) and telecommuting absloutely count. One of the publications I'm an editor for is in Texas, so like you, I'm technically telecommuting, while also doing my own writing and editing. I think the beuaty of being a WAHM is that we're redifning what work means/how it's done...even if it's taking a while to catch on as &quot;legit.&quot;  </p> <p>&nbsp;</p> <p>Erika<br /> WAHM, freelance writer and editor<br /> <br />Personal blog: <a href="http://musingsfromthemitten.com " target="_blank">Musings from the Mitten</a>:<br />theWAHMmagazine's companion blog: <a href="http://thewahmmagazine.net/blog" target="_blank">From the Editor's Desk </a></p> Sat, 09 Aug 2008 13:35:06 -0500 EGeiss comment 53267 at http://www.blogher.com http://www.blogher.com/sahm-wahm-takes-more-moxie#comment-53264 <p>Great post Nordette!</p> <p>I too am a WAHM.  I've been a WAHM for 2.5 years now, and while it has its challenges wouldn't have it any other way. (I used to work FT in museum curatorial/education, and PT as an editor/author). My husband also telecommutes part of the week to his FT job in management at one of the Detroit Three, so we're technically a WAH-family.  As a WAHM, I'm an editor, writer (artices and agented non-fiction book author), and publisher of theWAHMmagazine, a content-driven digital magazine for work-at-home parents. I parlayed my editing and writing into my FT WAHM career, but still do art historial work. (I'm also a political wife, which adds an entirely different dimension to the WAHM life, that most don't have to work with, or around.)   </p> <p>I think that one of the biggest hurdles for the WAHM community/industry, is being taken seriously by others outside of the WAHM community/industry. We've all heard it: the &quot;must be nice&quot; comments that come from people who don't think we're really <em>working</em>, or the people who discount us as real professionals when you give yourself the title of &quot;WAHM.&quot; In the past few weeks alone, I've seen articles, studies and blog posts that either remove us from the discourse entirely when discussing women in the work force or ones that heavily criticize us for chosing to be up front about simultaneously placing our families and careers as important. </p> <p>Perhaps as more people telecommute or actively seek to establish a different kind of work-life/family-life balance those (anti-WAHM) attitudes will change. </p> <p>Marie's site (WAHM spot) is great. She's doing a great thing for other WAHMs by highlighting/spotlighting our businesses and products. I've worked with her in the past, and she's got my two thumbs up without a doubt.  </p> <p>--<a href="http://www.erikageiss.com" target="_blank">Erika</a><br />WAHM, freelance writer, editor, magazine publisher<br /> Personal Blog: <a href="http://musingsfromthemitten.com/" target="_blank">Musings from the Mitten</a><br />theWAHMmagazine's companion blog: <a href="http://thewahmmagazine.net/blog" target="_blank">From the Editor's Desk </a></p> Sat, 09 Aug 2008 13:29:42 -0500 EGeiss comment 53264 at http://www.blogher.com http://www.blogher.com/am-i-raising-chauvinists#comment-53035 <p>I think the rolled eyes regarding the chores is a teen thing, boy or girl. If you feel that you are modeling something untoward for your sons and for which your future daughters-in-law will hate you, then it seems you can have a talk and discuss your points, maybe even tell them what makes you uncomfortable and what you want them to understand. They are paying more attention than you think. (I am a high school teacher and a mother of a teen and tween, so I have some street credibility.) </p> <p>But, if that is just not in the cards, then why not have hubby prepare dinner once a week and you drive the family to the restaurant, or whatever, keep switching an &quot;expected&quot; mother and father chore so that does not become the expectation. I mean in the summer the men are generally grilling, why not have him shop for the food he grills--maybe take those family-friendly boys with him to do the shopping?</p> <p>Laura, <a href="http://www.rebelliousthoughtsofawoman.com/">www.RebelliousThoughtsofaWoman.com</a></p> Thu, 07 Aug 2008 19:11:01 -0500 rebellious thinker comment 53035 at http://www.blogher.com