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The hardest thing about 101 things in 1001 days

sassymonkey — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 17:36:54 -0600

Is making the list. Seriously. It's hard to think of 101 doable things.

Zandria's list was very good. After seeing hers it made me want to attempt to try making one for myself again.

Very cute idea! If I did

womenonthefence — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 17:32:42 -0600

Very cute idea! If I did this, I am too obsessive to walk away from any commitment. This would be a bloody nightmare for me!

But, defintely a great idea. Maybe I'll make a short like, like 10 things in 100 days. That I could handle! LOL!

Happy Monday!

Erica Diamond

www.WomenOnTheFence.com

Ha! I do occasionally talk you into things

sassymonkey — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 07:12:37 -0600

How about 101 things to do in Chicagoland? (The added benefit of which it would give you stuff to write about on your Chicagoland blog.) Of course, this would have been more useful before you'd been then for over a year.

101 books to read? 101 poems? 101 iphone apps? lol

Sassymonkey and Sassymonkey Reads.

Darn

Denise — Sun, 08 Nov 2009 18:02:59 -0600

Maybe sassymonkey will come and talk me into another 101 things list. (I want someone to talk me into it, lol.)

~Denise BlogHer Community Manager
Flamingo House Happenings

I wouldn't try to talk you

Zandria — Sun, 08 Nov 2009 17:48:02 -0600

I wouldn't try to talk you into starting a new list, Denise, because I wouldn't recommend something to someone that I don't want to do myself. You might want to try a Life List instead...you can add as many/little things as you want, with no time frames, and you can add and take things off as often as you see fit!

Personal blog: Zandria.us BlogHer blog: Singles/Fitness

You did better than I did...

Denise — Sun, 08 Nov 2009 17:38:10 -0600

I've been thinking about creating a new 101 things list... talk me into it, please. (Did you know there's a 101 things in 1001 days group on BlogHer?)

~Denise BlogHer Community Manager
Flamingo House Happenings

I really like and can relate

misskleopatra — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 23:02:39 -0600

I really like and can relate to what you say about being hit on by older men. At my job, I see many different people and everyday I get hit on by men of all ages, from 18 to late 30's. I'm 20. I've always been attracted to older men. I'm not sure why. Lately however, I seem to meet more older (single) men and they always make good conversation. As compared to the guys my age , when the first thing they tell me is "My god you're beautiful." I never thought I'd have to get tired of hearing the same line everytime I meet someone new.

So would dating someone who is somewhere between 10-15 years my senior be wrong? I mean i am a college student, and most of these men are well settled into their careers... I'm not sure how to go about this...

He graduated the year I was born!

tarawhitneysims — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 13:43:47 -0600

I'm in love with a man who is 19 years older than I. He is the most wonderful man I've ever met. Everyone's experience can be different, but this is my story. I met my sweetie (Wes) while working as a live in caregiver for a mentally disabled teenage. Wes was a friend of my boss's soon to be ex husband. The moment we saw eachother there was something there between us. It was like an instant connection. The funny thing was we barely spoke a word to eachother, because I was talking to my Boss's ex. A week later he invited me and my boss's two daughter out to go boating on Wednesday. That Friday we had our first sort of kind of date on his boat. The whole thing was magical. We did that the whole summer long. Ever since then we've been together. He is such a kind, gentle, loving, caring, devoted, stubbern, loyal, smart ass I know. He has so many good qualities that they outshine the bad. He loves me for me. His only complaint is I'm too demanding. The last and most important thing is; he has a wonderful 16-year-old daughter. At first she didn't want anything to do with me. She was weirded out by the whole deal. Then after a little while she and I became the best of friends. I live a wonderful life with the two of them in it. People may judge you if you decide to date an older man, but if it makes you happy then that's all that matters.

It depends on your priorities

sassymonkey — Mon, 02 Nov 2009 19:56:09 -0600

For me living along was worth the added expense, even though it sometimes meant living a little too close to that line of what is comfortable and what is not. I really hated having roommates. Really hated it.

Sassymonkey and Sassymonkey Reads.

Height doesn't really matter

mbond — Mon, 02 Nov 2009 17:48:35 -0600

From my personal experience - I would say that the first time you date a guy shorter than you it is kind of on your mind. But after you get over it - it never bothers you again! I suppose its different for everyone but hey - everyone is the same height lying down!

I think it took me a while

sberneche — Mon, 02 Nov 2009 17:27:25 -0600

I think it took me a while to love myself enough to have actual dealbreakers. Previously, I was ridiculously accomodating and accepting that you could hardly say I was having a "relationship" with someone else. Having said that, there were a few men I dismissed early on for various reasons. For one, I won't date a cigarette smoker because I've already dated three of them; contrary to popular opinion, it wasn't the cigarettes that bothered me, but the attitude, the behavior. I realized early on that I was always going to place second, at best. I couldn't sit and enjoy the movie credits because he'd have to head out for a light. That's a problem for me.

Another thought he was too good to ever work as a janitor. My family's fairly well off but both of my parents have had to climb up the ladder and work hard. Neither had much of a post-secondary "career". Even though I want a good career that I love (and of course it goes without saying I want the same for whomever I'm with), I'd like to think that if times got tough we'd both do whatever it would take to keep a roof over our heads, food on the table, you get the picture. I'm not too good for anything and I can't be with someone who believes they somehow deserve more than the next.

Poor manners, awful hygiene, uneducated/unintelligent, unemployed, no ambition, low self-esteem, perenially depressed/cynical/pessimistic, doesn't like warm weather or the beach (I do and hope to continue to travel to exotic locales -- and certainly not alone), disrespectful, doesn't know how to behave in a restaurant, won't pay for me at least some of the time, uncommunicative, passive-aggressive, still lives at home for no valid reason, etc.

I've been with my co-conspirator since January and it's been great. Some might say we moved quickly (we moved in together after just under eight months), but we knew as soon as we started dating that we wanted to be together, that we were a good fit, that we made each other happy. Not much has changed since. Oddly enough, he was the first man I dated after I told myself I'd no longer settle, that I'd voice any problems and confront any issues head-first instead of letting them blow up regardless of the consequences. It seems I started getting what I wanted as soon as I allowed myself to matter and perceived myself as a valuable partner in a business instead of as just the girlfriend.

I've been dating a man 25

txgrl99 — Sun, 01 Nov 2009 01:07:27 -0600

I've been dating a man 25 years older than me for over a year, and its been heaven. I know its a big age difference but there was just something about him I couldn't resist. It really shocks people sometimes but you get to a point in life when you just have to do what makes you happy and set everything else aside. Our families didn't really approve at first but now it seems like nothing to everyone. Everyone is skeptical at first, and always makes that very clear. However, if it is true love, it'll last and after awhile most everyone will concede to the fact that they were too judgmental. So hang in there. Dating an older man can be so rewarding and satisfying. In fact, we've had such a weird and wonderful love affair we started a blog about it. It's called "Dating the Older Man; Sex, Laughs, and Viagra." http://datingtheolderman.blogspot.com/

We realized there were just too many funny quirks that accompany this kind of relationship. Couldn't let that go to waste. Anyway, it's great to find a forum about this. Take care.

Yeah, it was an epic fail.

avflox — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 07:08:52 -0500

Yeah, it was an epic fail.

That's an excellent point

Zandria — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 06:58:11 -0500

While you'd like for your guy to impress you on the first date, you certainly don't want him to pretend to be someone he's not. Because that's misleading. A great first date should be a prevew of things to come, not a great date that will likely never happen again!

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Exactly.

Bill Cammack — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 06:55:42 -0500

That's exactly the point.

Like my man Swayze said in Road House.. "Be Nice... Until it's time to NOT be nice".

Your thinking isn't backwards at all. The real question in that scenario is "If not now... When?".

How serious did things have to get before he was willing to defend himself? How much is he willing to take before he'll be "one for fights"? The problem for YOU is that YOU might be the one paying the costs while he's deciding to be a pacifist. What's he gonna do if some guy grabs your ass or starts feeling you up when you're out on a date WITH HIM? Apparently nothing. I'm sure that's decidedly UNsexy to women who expect a guy to stand up for them AT LEAST as much as their girlfriends would if THEY were all out together.

I'm not saying he should have fought the guy... especially if he felt like he would have lost the fight. What he SHOULD have done was make sure that YOU felt comfortable and out of harm's way. If he wasn't going to defend himself (or you), being "not one for fights", he should have escorted you somewhere with better security or a higher police presence.

There's nothing wrong with leaving if you feel like you're about to take a short. On top of that, he basically 'made you' socialize with people (or at least one person) that you thought was a jerk. How's that supposed to get him points on a date? Lame. :/

~ Bill
I blog at billcammack.com