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Research leads to employment for some

prophetlady — Fri, 06 Nov 2009 01:05:49 -0600

You might consider it blowing money on research, but someone got paid. In todays times people need to make a living and a research enables this process. I use to work for a variety of research companies, and I made a decent part time living doing it, and it placed food on my table.

I think you are more affected by the outcome of the statistics then the actual research itself, I hardly doubt the statistics are lying or are inaccurate in the findings of this particular study.

try not to take it so hard, and look at it as a paid study that someone made a living from, and that was the end result

forgot I was meant to post this

parker101 — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 10:14:12 -0600

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aGjV81tqetI (not the best example of this type of Bounty . . . I mean Plenty . . . ad but these two characters have been in these ads for at least 3 years).

Sure, why not?

TheBeerLady — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 09:15:39 -0600

sorry - double post!

Sure, why not?

TheBeerLady — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 09:14:46 -0600

I get a kick out of the term personally - and yes, I fall into the cougar category. It was all I could do a couple of weeks ago not to laugh out loud when a guy referred to me as a cougar in the grocery store. I'm fairly certain he didn't realize I could hear him when he told his friend, "Dude, check the cougar with the pink hair - I would totally do her." Shoot, he seemed to mean it as a compliment, so it's all good...

Ego Lessons

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It Has Become a Life Long Job - Learning To Listen

Gena Haskett — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 17:58:40 -0600

I'm not as good as I hoped to be at this point. I do try to hear what has been said and what was really communicated.

I will have to begin studying your blog. I've always wanted to take a class on how to communicate with difficult people. Then again, I might be one of those people. ;-)

Thank you for your comment.

Gena - Out On The Stoop

It IS all about me!

Beverly Flaxington — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 08:07:20 -0600

I read this post with so much interest because this is exactly what I've written about in my book "Understanding Other Peope: The Five Secrets to Human Behavior". Secret Number One is that "It's all about me". But, not that we are totally ego-centric and full of ourselves, rather that we can't help but view the world through our own lens -- a lens comprised of our needs, our background, our experiences, etc. To process info, we tend to "label" things and make quick decisions based upon what we know and what we would have done. It's so hard to be genuinely empathic when we don't even realize we are using our own lens. So, recognizing it is the first important step and then learning to be an "Interested Observer" is next -- genuine interest and curiosity about what other's really mean. It takes work!

Beverly Flaxington

Blog: Dealing with Difficult People

Book: Understanding Other People: The Five Secrets

Women and the Great Depression

dkdanielson — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 10:15:38 -0600

Hi Suzanne - Thanks for including us in this. Glad to see people discussing the topic and not assuming it has "gone away." Your comments made me think back to some of my historical research about women in the Great Depression. Here's actually a good summary of how the women's movement stalled during the Great Depression, yet there are some parallels to what is going on now. http://www.novelguide.com/a/discover/egd_02/egd_02_00550.html.

P.S. I'm with you on the more male caregivers being a big deal. It's an interesting twist. Especially because more people miss work for elder care than child care and it's going to be am even bigger issue. I'm thinking that maybe it's son's out of work? having to move back home? or Single/Divorced? Also, I note that my brother will have the responsibility because he lives near my parents. So, it may be a geographic thing.

Diane K. Danielson ceo, DowntownWomensClub.com

Women and the Great Depression

dkdanielson — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 09:46:13 -0600

Diane K. Danielson ceo, DowntownWomensClub.com

Word Up Pam

Kim_Mance — Sun, 01 Nov 2009 20:07:09 -0600

You are so exactly correct.

Kim Mance
editor-in-chief
Galavanting online women's travel magazine

Interesting Debate!

soultravelers3 — Sun, 01 Nov 2009 15:45:19 -0600

Indeed! There certainly should be questions about how truly objective a writer can be when they've taken a trip that was funded by others.

No matter how good the writing is, the stories ARE affected by who is paying for them. Sadly, MOST of our media is run that way and why it is so difficult to discern what is truly factual today.

I think more than good writing is at stake. How valuable is great writing if it hides the full truth intentionally?

I don't trust much in mainstream media today because of this trend. When I sold my house at peak in 2005, Time Magazine had a lead article including cover on why it was the best time to buy a house ( influenced by real estate and mortgage bank money no doubt). Now, most who caught that enthusiasm (from "great writing") are deep in underwater mortgages or foreclosed.

A good example in the travel industry is how big cruise ship companies spend a ton on advertising in travel magazines and does endless free trips for travel writers/bloggers. There might be some great and entertaining writing (plus travel porn photos, videos & tweets) but 0% inform the public that cruising is absolutely the most harmful to our planet.

The travel writers that are doing the excellent writing that includes all the critical facts are those not on the free press trip cruises (or magazines supported by the booming cruise industry).

I find it sad for our planet that just like few knew about the housing crash until it was too late, that public awareness about the extreme environmental harm of big cruise ships are unknown ( and will remain unknown to the public, until it is too late, because that is what the rich cruise industry promotes with travel writers.)

I don't know how to solve the problem of paying writers fairly, but I am glad that the internet helps even things out a bit. There are actually some great writers writing exactly what they want to write about so one doesn't have to always folllow the money to sort out the bias.

Greatest.Study.Ever!

Suzanne Reisman — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 20:14:19 -0500

OMG. I cannot imagine what the funding requests for that study looked like.

Suzanne Reisman, Contributing Editor - Feminism & Gender Campaign for Unshaved Snatch (CUSS) & Oth

And then there's the sleep issue!

zip_n_tizzy — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 18:21:49 -0500

My husband told me last night, about a study he'd read that confirmed that men who sleep in the same bed with their wives are more likely to have atrophied brains. So not only do we need to worry about birth order, who's dumber when we marry, but we also have to make sure we give our husbands their own beds.

Maybe we should run a study on the people conducting these studies, eh?

I suspect that'll reveal more than the studies themselves!

a little humor to a serious topic

janetsmith5d — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 13:54:15 -0500

Hi Kim,

Sorry for the delayed response - posts I read indicate that the Harvard session wasn't earthshattering...

I'm unfamiliar with the Nat'l Georgraphic model, can you describe?

I was driving the other day when my 13 year old said, "Mom what's black and white and red all over? A newspaper!" My initial thought was ...well not anymore... and my second thought was how funny that jokes get recycled. Newspaper are a part of our culture.

Janet

Strategist, Marketer "If opportunity doesn't knock, build a door" kinda gal... (quote from Milton Berle) www.JanetSmith5D.com

The Doomed Wives Club

Suzanne Reisman — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 11:03:38 -0500

I noticed an interesting theme here: almost all the lovely comments on this post are from women like me who married younger men. Perhaps we should start a "Doomed Wives Group" or something like that on BlogHer. Then researchers can find us and document our horrible sad lives as women who foolishly married men "on the basis of love, physical attraction, similarity of taste, beliefs and attitudes, and shared values" rather solely based on age and IQ. Actually, let's go one step further and include people who want to form long-lasting partnerships with someone who is the same sex. The Doomed Partners Group...

Bill, of course, is right that the survey is not designed to find out what makes women happy, although I'd argue that the idea that marrying a younger woman is guaranteed to make a man is happy is as ridiculous as saying that all men prefer blondes.

Suzanne Reisman, Contributing Editor - Feminism & Gender Campaign for Unshaved Snatch (CUSS) & Oth